Episode Description

In this episode, we explore how applying a bit of math can bring clarity and a new perspective to the healing process after betrayal. Join us as we dive into a powerful discussion from a recent community Q&A session, where we helped a member understand the real impact of ruminating over past betrayals.

Key Points

• Introduction to the Episode
  • Dr. Debi introduces the topic: using math to aid in the healing process from betrayal.
  • Dr. Debi acknowledges the challenge of healing and how unexpected tools, like math, can be surprisingly helpful.
• Community Q&A Session
  • Description of the community’s coffee chat sessions where members can ask any questions.
  • Introduction to a specific member’s struggle with being stuck in Stage three of healing for 48 years.
• Applying Math to Understand Rumination
  • Dr. Debi walks the member through calculating the impact of ruminating over 48 years.
  • Step-by-step breakdown of the calculations:
    • Converting 48 years to 17,520 days.
    • Estimating two hours of rumination per day.
    • Calculating the total time spent ruminating: 35,040 hours or 1,460 days.
    • Converting days to years: approximately four years of her life spent ruminating.
  • The Power of Awareness
    • The realization that four years were dedicated to unproductive rumination.
    • Discussion on how this awareness can be a wake-up call to change.
  • The Cost of Stagnation
    • Reflection on what could have been achieved in those four years.
    • Encouragement to consider the possibilities of personal growth, such as writing a book, starting a business, or pursuing a new passion.
  • Moving Forward
    • Emphasis on the importance of moving from Stage three to Stage four and five of healing.
    • The predictable nature of the healing journey when following the proven path.
  • Call to Action
    • Invitation for listeners to do their own math and understand their time spent ruminating.
    • Encouragement to share their numbers and experiences.
    • Emphasis on taking action to move forward and not spend more time stuck in unproductive patterns.
  • Conclusion
    • Dr. Debi wraps up the episode by reiterating the importance of awareness and taking action.
    • Encouragement to seek support from The PBT Institute community and its resources for those ready to move forward.

Resources Mentioned

The PBT Institute: Break free from the pain of betrayal and find safety, love, and trust again.

• For the betrayed – Reclaim: Heal from your betrayal and take your life back.
• For the betrayer – Rebuild: Heal yourself and help heal the heart you broke.
• Take the Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz – Post-Betrayal Syndrome Quiz

Join the Conversation

• Share your thoughts and experiences in the comments or on social media.
• Use the hashtag #HealingJourney to connect with others on the same path.

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