I joined 10 months after d-day. I was floundering, getting nowhere. I tried therapy, different communities, groups, videos, podcasts, etc. But still was going in circles. PBT was a godsend. Without PBT, I think I would still be a mess.
The PBT Institute gave me a place to be heard and validated. I was assured the things I felt were real and true. I was given a way of thinking, a path forward, that led me toward healing.
What I was looking for, that I did not get with any therapy, was a step by step way forward. The PBT community was the ONLY place where you could follow a path. Work on this and this until you are ready for the next stage.This community is the only reason I am able to move forward as quickly as I am. I came in at stage 2 and I am in stage 5!
I was inspired to joint the PBT community after a betrayal. I was blindsided and lost, very confused, and horribly hurt. I think I found Dr. Debi after watching some YouTube videos. I looked at the website and decided to join. I'd already spent 3-4 sessions with a counsellor at $143 per session and found out later that she KNEW he was having an affair (we were both seeing her, he thought I should go talk to her about my jealousy issues). So what did I have to lose with Dr. Debi!! Turns out it was one of the best decisions I could have made. My experience affected me mentally and emotionally more than anything. The community was amazingly supportive! So much love, so many with shared experiences. It is POWERFUL knowing you are not alone. I noticed results within a couple of weeks I think. I've managed to come out of the dark tunnel of betrayal. The Masterclasses were extremely helpful. The community blogs always held my interest and gave me hope.
I don't know if I've ever been this happy before. I'm so grateful for PBT-so blessed. I KNOW I'll get there and that it's just a work in progress! I'm almost crying as I'm writing this to you right now. Thank you so much again for PBT!!! When you said nothing else like this exists, you were so right because I've been to 8 therapists in the last 2.5 years, tried EMDR, and nothing has worked until NOW. You're seriously such an angel!
For the first month, I was learning, the second month, I really changed. Month 2, progress was really fast. One day, I realized I am entirely different now than I was before. It was shocking. It was like everything just locked into place and I had new coping skills, thinking skills and a new perspective. Wow! I went from feeling on the edge and hopeless, to seeing a future I never could have imagined before the betrayal. I have become an entirely new person who is competent in ways I never imagined.
"Thanks so much!! It has been quite a journey... and I do remember not even knowing how to introduce my situation... it felt so complex and almost impossible to resolve in any way... but doing the program... attending classes... speaking to coaches... engaging with other members made such a difference... it literally changed my life...To (Coach Michelle) Thanks for your faith in me and the tough love when it was necessary... deep down inside I knew I had it in me... but it was nice to have it confirmed by someone outside my circle of family and friends... To (Coach Peggy) Thanks for the positive vibes and seeing the positive path in my future... that is often the hardest to see when struggling with post-betrayal trauma... To (Member Jane) Thanks for being a witness to this transformation and a co-warrior on this path toward our great future...To (Community Engagement Manager Stephanie) Thanks for being you and being at once encouraging and cautious when necessary... and Debi...Thanks so much for creating this outlet... I can’t imagine where I would be without it."
“I found one of your podcasts at just the right time, in the middle of some of my darkest days. Your words of encouragement and wisdom have been so very helpful to me when I was so lost and blindsided by the betrayal pain I was experiencing. I didn’t know where to turn and I know God led me to you. You have made a huge difference in my life, in the hardest time of my life, and I thank you so very much!”
This community and the support found within has saved me. It has shown me the light and taught me the tools I need to succeed and heal. My journey is far from over but I am not the same person I was when I joined. This community is most definitely one of a kind and offers something that can not be found elsewhere. One of the biggest take aways is that I am not alone, that it is okay to feel the way I feel, and that I am going to be okay - no matter what crosses my path.
“I know I would not be in the place I am right now without having found you and your program!!! People ask me how I am doing and they are surprised when I tell them I am doing good. It’s almost like they don’t hear me because then they start saying “I know it’s really hard right now” or they say “Things will get better” and I tell them that I found an awesome person named Dr Debi and her program called PBT Institute. I have been to other counselors and programs, and they feel like it’s a place to bash your partner or all the things they did wrong. I leave feeling worse about the situation I was in, not encouraged that things can get better.The last counselor I went to told me to watch a Youtube video about “Betrayal Trauma”. As soon as she said that I was like “wow” that is exactly what I have gone through. She said that the video was going to explain exactly what I have been going through and all of her patients love it. That video didn’t make any sense at all. I remember thinking “What?” Then the next video started playing and it was Dr Debi’s TEDx talk.She was able to say in words what I had been going through and how I had been feeling. It got me excited to know that finally someone knew and really understood what I am going through. Day 1 of this program has been about healing me as a person, finding my best self and being able to know I really can become that person. No more hashing feelings over and over and over again without any change.Thank you for everything- your energy, passion, love and inspiration. You have changed my world for the better and that has meant so much to me!!”
“This is a priceless investment in yourself. I’ve done more in the program in 2 weeks than in 3 years of therapy and marriage counseling, tons of counseling seminars, tons of money-nothing has helped until this community. “
"When I started working with PBT six months ago, I was a hot mess. I didn’t trust anyone...especially myself. Fortunately, I chose to invest in myself and over these past months, have done all the work to transform myself into a happy, thriving, confident woman who could not be more grateful and excited about the rest of her life. Thank you, PBT!"
I enjoyed the program. I did one module per week and reread and listened to the recordings a few times until it sunk in. My favorite module was 'Module 2" I started doing meditation, deep breathing and yoga and completely changed my diet. I was able to keep my stress under control. 6 weeks later I had blood work done and my levels were off the charts, between having Grave's and now Hashimoto's Disease. Doctor told me to stop my medication. I just had blood work done again and my T4 is normal and my TSH went from 103 to 9.6...much closer to normal. I'm finally starting to feel like myself again. PBT didn't just help me heal from betrayal, it saved my life. I would have been on medication for a disease I didn't even have and the medication was making my symptoms worse and I had no idea I just assumed it was my disease.
“Finding the PBT Institute was a lifesaver for me. I had been suffering for almost a year after finding out about my husband’s betrayal many years before and was stuck in anger, resentment, hurt and disbelief. The PBT Institute and Dr. Debi and this fabulous community helped me find my way to a happier, healthier me and a new relationship with my husband. Don’t live another day being miserable - do this for you! The ripple effect on those you love will be incredible.”
When I came into this community, I was a mess. I learned so much and was inspired to grow. I am really a different person now. The ability to watch the classes at any time was a lifesaver because I work full time. I would watch a lot of the time at 5 am before starting my day. I was inspired to do yoga, read all kinds of books, journal to help work through all of the feelings and decide where I was going. I worked on a couple of the legs of my table for a long time.
“If you have experienced betrayal of any kind, take this course from Betrayal to Breakthrough. Debi walks hand in hand with you through the 5 Stages of healing and you will come through stronger, more courageous and whole hearted.”
I’m so very grateful for you Debi. You’ve created a sanctity for me and for many others. Through your pain and strife you’ve risen through the ashes to create a place of love, healing, and hope for a better life. I recognize how special this community is and how blessed I am to be a part of it. I know your life’s struggles have created a healing balm for me and I’m writing you to say thank you. Thank you for taking your pain and turning it into a place of healing for me. Thank you for sharing your grief. Thank you for giving me hope. Thank you for giving me a sense that my life has purpose. Thank you for showing me that the pain I’m experiencing is for the good of myself and the good of my children. I’ve felt lost most of my life until I’ve found this community. I see my path a little clearer now. I know what to do next in my life and I’m going to follow through with it. Thank you for bringing light into this dark, dark world. This world needs more people like you. You are a light and a beacon for love, calm, and healing. Thank you for being you and for sharing your gifts with us all. My heart is full ❤️
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