Gabrielle Hartley is a strong, compassionate advocate coach who, for 25 years, has helped couples reach amicable resolutions during separation or divorce, even leading them to realize that, maybe, the relationship is worth a second try.
She authored Better Apart: The Radically Positive Way to Separate, a book endorsed by Gwyneth Paltrow herself, and was named “The Conscious Uncoupling How To Book” by People Magazine.
About Guest/Topic
Gabrielle has counseled countless couples over the years and has kept 99% of her cases out of the courtroom and back on the road of second chances and new beginnings. She may not be able to conclude on first glance the fate that awaits a relationship, but by sharing her carefully curated methods of working through the self and the emotions a person has experienced, her clients are able to reach a peaceful resolution, whether it’s by letting go or hanging on.
In this episode, Gabrielle talks about the positive ways to go through separation, letting go of the pain and resentment and finally finding peace within yourself.
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In This Episode
- Learn how the things that are happening to you may not typically be about you
- Figure out how you can have a positive experience amidst separation and betrayal
- Explore the five elements that will help you navigate the roadmap of your relationship
- Learn the ways you can forgive someone who has betrayed you and find peace within yourself
- Learn why the wrong type of support can do more harm than good
Quotes
“The possibilities are really endless. The possibilities come from within the person who’s coming to see me.” (02:20)
“Easy now, hard later. Hard now, easy later. Take your pick, it’s going to be one of those two.” (11:10)
“Patience is about slowing down, giving yourself tools to respond rather than react.” (08:30)
“What respect is all about, of course, it’s about you. It’s about building up yourself especially when you feel like garbage after you’ve just been betrayed.” (12:20)
“It’s this concept of death and rebirth and there really is the death of the old relationships, the death of the old you, the death of the expectations and the grieving process that goes along with it.” (20:37)
“The thing about forgiveness is it’s truly all about you. It is an exercise in being compassionate with yourself.” (23:45)
Links
Gabriel Hartley Website
Post-Betrayal Syndrome Quiz
The PBT Institute
Group: Women Hacking Betrayal
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Sandra Cooze, like many other women, was a victim of child molestation and sexual assault. For many years, she suffered the emotional, psychological, and social turmoil of growing up as a victim without the right support that she needed from her family.
After finally finding a way to completely heal from her old wounds, Sandra made it her mission to help others rise above their own trauma and live their lives free of anger, fear, and distress. Drawing from her personal experiences and her expertise as a holistic trauma coach, TIR facilitator, and spiritual development coach, Sandra discusses how it’s possible for others to let go and start living a happy, carefree life.
About Guest/Topic
Sandra was only 12 when she was molested by a stable master who worked for her family. She was sexually assaulted again when she was 14, and then again when she was 18. When she was 22, the unthinkable happened–Sandra was raped.
Throughout all that pain and misery, Sandra never got the support she truly needed. It pushed her to the brink, and she allowed her depression to swallow her whole. It took one person to tell her “Get a quartz crystal” for her to start her journey of spirituality.
In this episode, Sandra talks about how she was able to rise above her own difficult trauma. She teaches the way not just to cope, but to truly let go.
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In This Episode
- Explore the causes and effects of sexual trauma
- Discover how spirituality can create positive energy in you
- Answer doubts and explore the search for the right spiritual path
- Learn somatic practices that you can do to release your own trauma
- An introduction to the benefits of reiki energy healing
Quotes
“An experience without the pain is wisdom.” (4:06)
“I felt like men can do whatever they wanted without consequence.” (9:07)
“If you’re willing to just explore some ideas, to explore spirituality which has such a huge place in healing and if you’re open, you really will be guided.” (14:09)
“The more I learn, the more I understood what it really is. Because it’s more than just a healing modality, it’s the beginning of a spiritual journey.” (14:59)
“When a trigger comes out, embrace it because the trigger is basically a nudge from your whole system saying that this is something that needs to be addressed” (18:10)
“I’m not allowing it to take me over but I’m analyzing it. I’m dissociating from it.” (19:30)
Links
Raising the Bottom (Book)
Raising the Bottom (Facebook group)
Post-Betrayal Syndrome Quiz
The PBT Institute
Group: Women Hacking Betrayal
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Lisa Boucher’s career is anything but predictable. After a few short stints training polo horses and working as a flight attendant, a hairdresser, and a bartender, she decided to become a nurse—a profession she’s spent the past 29 years in, helping hundreds of people overcome alcoholism. Her fifth book, Raising the Bottom, is her response to traditional healthcare’s inability to offer genuine help to most people struggling with addiction.
About Guest/Topic
The first time Lisa encountered betrayal, it took the form of a mother too deep in the bottle to provide guidance or support. Over the course of her life, she would struggle with betrayals as well as the unhealthy things she did to cope: drinking, drugs, and keeping the painfully familiar company of other addicts.
Yet another harsh betrayal—this time from her husband—finally got Lisa to stop sleepwalking through life. In this episode, Lisa talks about how betrayal and addiction beget each other and, more importantly, the principles and methods that helped her break that cycle.
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In This Episode
- How betrayal and addiction are linked to each other
- Rethinking what self-care means
- Understanding and avoiding patterns that lead to betrayal and addiction
- Revisiting the twelve principles for overcoming addiction
Quotes
“We feel good about ourselves by doing the next right thing for us. And that is self-care. I kind of get annoyed with the self-care of soaking in a bathtub—that never worked for me. I need to do something.” 13:03
“That is the worst thing you can do… To stay in your head. Get out of your head. Get out of yourself. They say depression is anger turned inward.” 14:34
“Maladjusted emotions are why most people self-medicate… So in order to recover or find other healthier coping skills, you’ve got to dig deep and find some willingness to learn other coping skills.” 16:30
“That is what drives behavior: pride, ego, fear. You get rid of those three things and people find a new life.” 21:51
Links
Raising the Bottom (Book)
Raising the Bottom (Facebook group)
Post-Betrayal Syndrome Quiz
The PBT Institute
Group: Women Hacking Betrayal
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Julie Michelson is an autoimmunity wellness expert who helps her clients achieve amazing transformations. She works internationally with clients through her remote coaching business, Julie Michelson Coaching.
About Guest/Topic
Julie has gone through her own health struggles and she’s excited to help her clients skip the hardship of figuring it out on their own so they can start living joyful lives of true wellness. To that end, she created the Inspired Living with Autoimmunity Framework to guide clients in making the necessary changes to reduce inflammation and optimize healing.
In today’s episode, Julie will share how to turn your autoimmune condition around and discuss the link between autoimmune conditions and betrayal.
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In This Episode
- Learn how to make simple lifestyle changes to improve your autoimmune condition
- Discover four strategies to heal your autoimmune condition and improve your quality of life
- Understand how and why the environment plays a big role in the rise of autoimmune conditions
Quotes
“What I have found through working with people with autoimmunity is it’s a really common issue, you know, that there’s such a direct link between betrayal and how our body responds.” [2:57]
“It doesn’t matter what kind [of meditation], it doesn’t matter what your routine looks like. It’s experimenting to find what works for you and being really regular with it.” [11:51]
“Our environment is not supporting our health, this is what’s happening and toxicity plays a really big part of autoimmunity and triggering symptoms. There’s an expression in functional medicine that genetics load the gun, but environment pulls the trigger.” [18:51]
“No matter what your diagnosis or how you feel when you wake up in the morning, you can turn it around. You can heal your body. There are things that you can do to take your power back. You’re not helpless. You’re not stuck. You don’t need to be stuck.” [28:38]
Links
Julie Michelson Coaching
The PBT Institute
Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz
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Judith M. Costa teaches people how to love unconditionally. She holds an MBA and a master’s degree in psychology and psychotherapy and is certified in a wide range of therapeutic methods. She has hosted workshops, retreats, and talks all over the world to help people overcome their inner obstacles to loving.
About Guest/Topic
With experience in techniques ranging from astrology to Akashic records to the Hawaiian approach to reconciliation called Ho’oponopono, Judith is no stranger to the many factors that keep people from forgiving others and, more importantly, themselves.
In today’s episode, she talks about the importance of looking inward and freeing ourselves from the idea that we are complicit in our own suffering or worse–that we need to suffer to earn someone’s love.
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In This Episode
- What happens during a consultation of the Akashic records?
- How does Ho’oponopono work?
- How does introspection lead to self-love?
- How do self-love and relationships affect one another?
Quotes
“We think that we need the other person in order to forgive, that we need an apology or that the person has to change their behavior. Everything starts within us. We are the only ones that need to do our part of the job.” [18:49]
“A lot of us are unaware of the way we treat ourselves. We are not even conscious of this inner dialog where we constantly criticize ourselves, judge ourselves, put ourselves down, beat ourselves up for any mistake.” [22:37]
“For a lot of us, the opinions that everyone else has about our lives are more important than our own opinion. And this is because we have been afraid of looking inside, not knowing what we are going to discover. And what you need to love someone is to know that person.” [23:59]
“I believe that a relationship is when two mature individuals share the love that they already have from themselves.” [26:26]
Links
Judith M. Costa website
Trust Again: Overcoming Betrayal and Regaining Health, Confidence and Happiness
How Your Biggest Crisis Reveals Your Greatest Gift
Do you have Post Betrayal Syndrome? Take the Quiz:
Group: Women Hacking Betrayal
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Lola Scarborough is a 500-hour certified yoga teacher and a co-owner of Yoga Lola Studios. She’s also a certified life coach, an herbalist, a level three Reiki master, a novice astrologer, an ayurvedic consultant, and a certified ayurvedic practitioner.
About Guest/Topic
Lola has witnessed what yoga, energy bodywork, and nutrition can do to maximize and restore health, allowing people to live their lives fully and richly. She’s currently pursuing her Ph.D. in comparative religion.
In today’s episode, Lola talks about using your trauma to find meaning in life and finding strategies to help you heal.
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In This Episode
- Discover why it’s important to decide not to become a victim
- Know how spirituality can be a big piece in your healing
- Learn what you can use from your trauma to serve and help other people
Quotes
“You always have the breakdown before you have the breakthrough.” [15:41]
“I was blessed with experiences that were very painful and had a huge impact on my psyche and in the formation of who I was because that’s what I came here to do. And without it, I couldn’t possibly do the things that I do now. I would not be as rich. I would not have the depth of character that I have. My big humanitarian instincts are shaped by the deprivation that we went through.” [23:11]
“If life is always lived in a comfort zone, if you don’t get out and play in the playing field and get knocked around a little bit, I honestly believe you are only one-fourth alive and you’re one-tenth of your potential. You have to take those challenges. You have to go to your knees. You have to feel your heart being broken and ripped out. You have to be open to having the experience of being fully human in order to be fully human.” [29:14]
“Living life to its fullest requires risk.” [29:51]
Links
Yoga Lola Studios
Lola Scarborough
Do you have Post Betrayal Syndrome? Take the Quiz:
The PBT Institute
Women Hacking Betrayal
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Catherine Clinton is a licensed naturopathic physician with a focus on gut health, autoimmunity, and psycho-neuroimmunology. An author, speaker, and pediatric health advocate, Dr. Clinton practices in Eugene, Oregon. She has been published in multiple peer-reviewed medical journals and has contributed to several publications as a guest writer.
About Guest/Topic
While she was in medical school, Catherine was diagnosed with and healed from an autoimmune disease that affects the gastrointestinal tract. This experience left her with a passion to promote gut health and psycho-neuroimmune balance in children everywhere.
On today’s episode, Catherine will share how self-betrayal manifests its physical symptoms and why it is so crucial to pay attention to what your body is saying.
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In This Episode
- Know what self-betrayal and medical betrayal looks like
- Learn why the body responds to your mind in a specific manner
- Discover ways to respond to your body’s messages
Quotes
“Listen to the body, listen to the signs. It’s always telling us something. It’s always on our side.” [4:06]
“We talk so much about trauma, these days, and how it can increase inflammation and increase our chances for autoimmune diseases and chronic inflammation and chronic disease. It doesn’t have to be those big Ts, it can be something like I’m describing, you know, it doesn’t have to be these huge losses or these big, big T Traumas, right? It can be the little t traumas that go unresolved.” [9:37]
“Are you okay physically? And if so, let’s look at what else might be happening and sometimes it’s a great reminder, you know? It was that protective mom on my shoulder giving me some anxious feelings because I hadn’t gotten enough sleep, I hadn’t attended to my physical body.” [12:04]
“A huge part of healing is to have a trusted practitioner that you feel safe with. That’s where the healing begins.” [22:26]
Links
Facebook
WellFuture
HeartMath
The PBT Institute Membership Community
The Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz
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Transformation starts when you tell yourself the truth. When you know yourself and your limitations, the path to healthy weight loss becomes much easier. If you’re feeling overwhelmed, exhausted, overweight, or unhappy, you’re going to really appreciate Dr. Debi’s guest for today’s episode, Jennifer Powter.
About Guest/Topic
Jennifer Powter is a Diet Disruptor who coaches successful women to finally understand their relationship with food so they can break free of emotional eating, lose weight for good, and stop feeling held back by their weight.
Jennifer holds a Master’s Degree and is a qualified clinical exercise physiologist, a double certified health and life coach, and an emotional intelligence practitioner with decades of success helping women all over the world.
Jennifer’s revolutionary metabolic profile index assessment gives clients an easy-to-understand breakdown of the science behind their physiological transformation, helping them achieve this in simple, actionable steps.
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In This Episode
- Discover how Jennifer Powter tapped into her inner strength to gain true transformation
- Be inspired to create the change necessary to live a happier life and to make personal choices that align with your values
- Learn simple strategies that yield big results when it comes to looking, feeling, and being better
Quotes
“The body doesn’t lie. You’re always getting messages from your body.” [6:57]
“If I wanted anything to change, it was up to me. And that’s, you know, when you take responsibility, of course, that’s when you’re taking your power back. And that’s, that’s where change happens.” [13:23]
“I had to radically redesign my expectations about what change looked like for me, and to recognize what women expect to occur in a month versus being patient to the kind of change that you can create in a year with consistency and persistence.” [14:56]
“When life is not adding up, it’s time to start subtracting.” [21:49]
“Whatever you’re resisting, you can mask it, hide it, whatever, but it will persist until you face it, deal with it. Come to terms with it, get honest about it. ” [24:52]
“Comparing hurt me. Comparing myself to others hurt me. So I really developed a skill set of not allowing myself to think thoughts or engage in that trap because it took all of my positive feelings away. So often with my clients, I say in less, don’t let anything into your feed, you know, your social media feed or into your mindset feed that lets you feel like crap about yourself because that’s just, it’s a way to halt all progress.” [29:43]
Links
Diet Disruption Book
www.jenniferpowter.com
Dr. Debi’s new book: Trust Again
The PBT Institute Membership Community
The Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz
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Noelle Cordeaux is the CEO and co-founder of JRNI Coaching. She’s also a feminist scholar, ICF certified coach, speaker, and sexologist who specializes in the relationship with the self. She has carved out a unique niche in the world of coaching combining positive psychology with clinical sexology. Noelle holds a B.A. in Literature from Rutgers University and a Graduate Certificate in Executive and Professional Coaching from the University of Texas at Dallas.
About Guest/Topic
Our brain has some incredibly powerful chemicals that are making us think, feel, react and respond the way we do. Noelle is going to discuss and shed some light on how to manage our minds, so we can control the chemical surges that give us those great big highs, as well as those great big lows. In today’s episode, she will talk about the three things every woman needs in her breakup survival kit
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In This Episode
- Learn about the brain chemicals that play a role in romance
- Know how to achieve a person’s – physical, mental, and emotional best state
- Discover how to manage these brain chemicals to feel more in control, balanced and happy
Quotes
“When we first fall in love, we experience a lot of chemical changes that take place in the brain.” [4:28]
“When your serotonin levels have dropped, you’re going to experience focused attention.” [6:01]
“Something that I found absolutely fascinating is that – in humans, the deeper the verbal, emotional connection, it grows a part of your brain that supports pair bonding.” [7:19]
“So step one, get off your phones, put your phone away, when you come home.” [17:51]
“Women cry, withdraw socially, and lose weight sometimes, and they have a need to retell their story over and over.” [23:08]
“These are very powerful brain chemicals.” [30:59]
Links
JRNI Website
JRNI Podcast
Noelle Cordeaux Website
Dr. Debi’s new book: Trust Again
The PBT Institute Membership Community
The Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz
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Amanda Testa is a sex, love, and relationship expert, and founder of Find Your Feminine Fire. Her methods bridge ancient tantric tools combined with the latest in neuroscience to help high performing women ditch the guilt and unworthiness and embody confidence, radiance, and vitality in all areas of their life.
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Amanda’s life mission is to help women reconnect to their feminine fire, so she created her signature Feminine Fire Method. She believes that sexuality is the missing key in personal growth and development. In today’s episode, she will discuss body betrayal and ways to regain a woman’s self-esteem.
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In This Episode
- Learn how to get your confidence back after a betrayal experience
- Discover how you can reconnect to your body and senses through awareness
- Know how you can walk through the five senses ritual
Quotes
“It’s always a beautiful thing to become a parent. But the other part of it that a lot of times isn’t talked about is how, you know the struggles around redefining who you are.” [4:04]
“I think I just had kind of lost my identity after becoming a mother.” [6:30]
“This is not just about having sex. It’s about connecting to that essence of who you are, and your radiance and your lifeforce.” [8:28]
“A lot of times, it’s just being able to move forward, because you fall into that survival mode.” [10:41]
“It’s just rewiring yourself for pleasure that you’re worthy of it, that you deserve it.” [15:09]
“When you really learn to embrace that part of you, it kind of spreads out into other areas.” [19:51]
“Because when you’re present, and you are in your body, and you’re enjoying all your senses, there’s such an innate joy in that.” [21:52]
“Pleasure is such a huge key. It’s like a vital nutrient you need; your daily dose of vitamin D.” [26:47]
Links
Amanda Testa Website
Sensuality Download
Find Your Feminine Fire Podcast
Dr. Debi’s new book: Trust Again
The PBT Institute Membership Community
The Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz
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After losing his 19-year-old son Connor in 2018, Jonathon Aslay’s grief led him on a soul searching inner journey, where he became aware of an often-overlooked dimension of the dating conversation. He realized that the process of dating reveals the most common emotional health issue faced by many singles seeking a partner, a distressing lack of self-worth, self-regard, and self-love.
About Guest/Topic
The focus of America’s leading midlife dating coach has expanded into a deeper essential philosophy of what it truly means to love. In today’s episode, he is going to discuss dating after divorce, but more importantly, how to bring your best self to the process.
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In This Episode
- Learn how heartbreak can be packed with fun engaging spiritual and personal growth practices.
- Discover how the process of dating reveals the most common emotional health issue faced by many singles seeking a partner.
Quotes
“I thought you could plug exactly what you want and someone would magically appear.” [4:35]
“I leaned into a relationship and found myself so not ready.” [5:45]
“I was betraying myself this whole time. I was betraying who I was by not really discovering who I was as a sovereign soul person” [8:07]
“You know, healing is like peeling an onion. It’s a continual process. For me, it’s a daily practice.” [8:37]
“As any parent listening to this knows, our greatest fear, or, you know, for the worst nightmare is the idea of losing a child or losing our children.” [14:00]
“I want to say that the motivating factor is I know my son would never want me to suffer and to be stuck.” [17:49]
“What is the point of suffering? There is no point in it.” [19:20]
“Forgiveness is forgiving love, and then giving love to others.” [20:45]
“Whenever I’m feeling uneasy or when something is agitating me, I give myself love.” [21:46]
“It’s good for you, because being in love is actually how we shift into inner peace.” [24:13]
“I am tired of this and I’m going to choose my inner peace; it is the way I want to navigate life.” [32:12]
Links
Jonathon Aslay Website
What The Heck Is Self Love Anyway
Jonathon Aslay Youtube Channel
Dr. Debi’s new book: Trust Again
The PBT Institute Membership Community
The Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz
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Dr. Veronique Desaulniers (also known as Dr. V), is the founder of Breast Cancer Conqueror, the 7 Essentials System®, and co-founder of My Breast Friend™. Her signature process has empowered thousands of women in over 42 countries around the world.
She has been in the Wellness Industry for over 40 years, beginning with her Chiropractic degree in 1979. Dr. V has also pursued extensive studies in various fields of Energy Medicine. Her specialty in Chiropractic, Bio-Energetics, Meridian Stress Analysis, Homeopathy, and Digital Thermography gives Dr. V a unique approach to Health and Wellness.
About Guest/Topic
Dr. V has personally conquered breast cancer twice, which gives her an empathetic perspective to understand other women facing a healing journey.
In today’s episode, she is going to walk us through the seven essentials of healing breast cancer, while helping you reduce your fear and become the healthiest version of you possible.
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In This Episode
- Know about breast cancer and how it doesn’t define you
- Learn how one can heal from it and not fear it
- Discover how interconnected the body and mind are
Quotes
“I knew right away and there was no doubt in my mind that I was going to do everything outside of traditional medicine.” [5:42]
“My big passion and mission right now is to tell women that they do not ever need to fear breast cancer again.” [7:55]
“Essential number two is to reduce your toxic exposure.” [9:58]
“Traditional medicine has created this picture that, you know, your hormones are driving this cancer.” [11:32]
“Give yourself time to accept the diagnosis. Look at your options, do your research, pray about it.” [14:06]
“We can be bitter or better about it. And see that really, it’s a gift that, you know, cancer can be a message of love.” [16:15]
“This is where we really get into the science and evidence-based natural medicine.” [19:22]
“Some women just absolutely have 1,000% trust and belief in traditional medicine. And that’s okay because that’s their choice.” [27:54]
Links
Breast Cancer Conqueror Website
Breast Cancer Conqueror Facebook Group
Breast Cancer Conqueror Instagram Account
Dr. Debi’s new book: Trust Again
The PBT Institute Membership Community
The Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz
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