I’m sure you can remember times when you felt stuck- unsure of which direction to take or how to move forward. It can be a frustrating and overwhelming experience, but it’s normal to feel this way from time to time (especially if we’re at a crossroads due to changes in our relationships, work, health and more). With that, here are some suggestions to help get you un-stuck.

  1. Identify the source of your feelings: Take some time to reflect on what’s causing you to feel stuck. Is it a particular situation, a relationship, or a personal challenge? Once you’ve identified the source of your feelings, you can begin to work on addressing it.
  2. Set small goals: Sometimes feeling stuck can be a result of feeling overwhelmed by the big picture. Try setting small, achievable goals for yourself that can help you make progress in the direction you want to go.
  3. Seek support: Don’t be afraid to reach out to friends, family, or someone who can help. Having someone to talk to can help you gain perspective and find new solutions to the challenges you are facing. (When it comes to talking about your betrayal, please be very careful who you speak with because well meaning people who don’t understand – even counselors and therapists who aren’t highly qualified in this area, can do more harm than good).
  4. Try something new: Sometimes feeling stuck can be a result of being stuck in a rut. Consider trying a new hobby, taking a different route to work, or exploring a new place to help break out of your routine and gain new perspectives.
  5. Practice self-care: Feeling stuck can be a stressful experience, so it’s important to take care of yourself. Make time for activities that bring you joy and relaxation, such as reading, exercising, or spending time in nature.

Remember, feeling stuck is a normal part of the human experience, and it’s okay to ask for help when you need it. (It’s also part of what we experience in Stage 3 out of the 5 Stages from Betrayal to Breakthrough that we need to move through if we’re going to fully heal.) By taking small steps to address the source of your feelings and focusing on self-care, you can un-stick yourself :).

Dr. Debi
Founder and CEO, The PBT (Post Betrayal Transformation) Institute

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