After we’ve been betrayed, we struggle with the overwhelming emotions of anger, hurt, confusion and so much more. I want you to know that I hear you, and I’m here to offer support and guidance as you navigate through this difficult time.

Experiencing betrayal can evoke a range of intense emotions, as well as physical symptoms (the symptoms of Post Betrayal Syndrome) and it’s important to acknowledge and honor these emotions as part of your healing process. Here are some suggestions on how to handle the emotions you’re currently facing:

  1. Allow yourself to feel: Give yourself permission to fully experience the emotions that arise, including anger, hurt, and betrayal. It’s natural and necessary to acknowledge and process these feelings rather than suppressing or ignoring them.
  2. Seek support: Reach out to trusted friends, family members, or someone trained in betrayal trauma (like a Certified PBT-Post Betrayal Transformation) Coach/Practitioner who can provide a safe and nonjudgmental space for you to express your emotions. Sharing your feelings with someone who understands and empathizes can provide validation and comfort during this challenging time.
  3. Practice self-care: Prioritize self-care activities that promote healing and emotional well-being. Engage in activities that bring you joy, such as spending time in nature, practicing mindfulness or meditation, engaging in creative outlets, or engaging in physical exercise. Taking care of yourself physically, mentally, and emotionally can help alleviate some of the intensity of your emotions.
  4. Journaling: Consider keeping a journal to express and process your emotions. Writing can be a cathartic and healing practice that allows you to release pent-up emotions and gain insights into your feelings. You can also use your journal as a space to reflect on your healing journey, set intentions, and document your progress.
  5. Practice self-compassion: Be gentle and patient with yourself throughout this process. Remember that healing takes time, and there is no right or wrong timeline for recovery. Treat yourself with the same kindness and understanding you would extend to a dear friend going through a difficult time.
  6. Set boundaries: As you work through your emotions, it’s important to establish boundaries to protect your emotional well-being. This may involve limiting contact with the person who betrayed you, creating distance, or setting clear expectations for future interactions. Setting boundaries allows you to prioritize your healing and create a safe space for yourself.

Remember, healing from betrayal is a process, and it’s unique to each individual. It’s okay to have good days and bad days, and to experience a range of emotions along the way. With time, self-care, support, and self-compassion, you will gradually move forward on your healing journey.

You’re not alone, and there’s an entire research based, predictable and proven system and community to support you when you’re ready.

Wishing you strength, healing, and a renewed sense of peace as you navigate these challenging emotions.

Dr. Debi
Founder and CEO, The PBT (Post Betrayal Transformation) Institute

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