Hi, Dr. Debi here. As you may know, I help people heal physically, mentally, emotionally, psychologically, and spiritually from the trauma of betrayal. Sometimes it just takes that word “betrayal” for you to realize, “Oh, my gosh, it was a betrayal? That’s what this is all about? I’ve been struggling with it for 10, 20, 30, 40, 50 years!”
We have the post-betrayal syndrome assessment on the site to see to what extent people are struggling. I read those results every day and see that people can be struggling for decades. What we know for sure is that it doesn’t go away without a plan and a strategy. When people realize that what they’ve been struggling with is a betrayal and that they can heal from it, they often want a hack, they want a way around it so they can heal more quickly and not waste any more time.
So here’s a really big hack and I hope it serves you because when you implement this, you will see your healing happen so much faster. Fair warning-it may sound a little counterintuitive but trust the process here. You ready?
It’s service, it’s giving, it’s in doing random acts of kindness.
I can already hear you saying: “Giving? I have nothing left, I feel so broken, how can I possibly give something to someone else?”
First of all, let’s start by saying you’re never broken…you’re temporarily bent.
But if you feel like you have nothing to give, how can you possibly give to others?
The act of giving, random acts of giving or whatever giving or service looks like for you simply accelerates your results. You just need to begin to see it for yourself.
I quickly looked up what can service do for you, and found an article, one of thousands that you can find for yourself. This one was in mentalfloss.com and it talks about seven scientific benefits from helping others. Here they are:
It’s so inspiring that something like an act of service can actually serve as a catalyst to point you on a path towards your next, best step. Of course, you need to do the work to actually heal the betrayal and our betrayal to breakthrough program can help you do that. This is just an additional hack that if you recognize you’re struggling with a betrayal, here’s a way to get through it a whole lot faster.
Do you have a story around how an act of service helped you? We’d love to know, comment and share!
Hope that helps and here’s to your healing.
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We’re thrilled to officially open our new site: www.PBTInstitute.com and our doors in Melville, NY. Here’s a recap of the ribbon cutting ceremony for the all new PBT Institute (Post Betrayal Transformation Institute).
An all new center dedicated to helping women heal physically/mentally/emotionally from the trauma of betrayal from a family member, partner, friend, employer, etc.