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113: Essential Oils & Trauma Recovery w/ Jodi Cohen
Jodi Cohen is one of the bravest people I know, and one of my personal heroes. After losing her son in a devastating accident only 18 months ago, Jodi had to deal with not only the betrayal of expectations when you become a parent, but also the ripple effect her family’s story sent through her community.
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An award-winning journalist, best selling author, functional practitioner, and founder of Vibrant Blue Oils, Jodi has combined her life experiences, training in nutritional therapy, and aromatherapy to create unique proprietary blends of essential oils that have helped tens of thousands of people.
Jodi is all about gaining an understanding of post-traumatic growth and helping others focus on moments of clarity and relief. By getting out of the state of anger created by your mind and emotions, Jodi believes that you can get unstuck and heal in a real and authentic way. If you want to gain an understanding of the many layers of healing that take place, how to deal with outsiders and friends after a betrayal, or gain a sense of Jodi’s strength and resilience, this is the episode for you.
A topic that nobody ever wants to deal with, but that is so important to shed light on, Jodi is here to provide guidance, love, and most importantly, understanding. Do you know someone who would resonate with Jodi’s story? Tag them in the comments below.
In This Episode
- Learn about ‘tissue issue’ people and how to handle their actions during trauma
- Why essential oils are one of the most immediate ways to calm your nerves and mind
- How to get out of the state of anger in your head and ground yourself back to your body
- Tips for creating your own essential oil recipe to help you move through trauma
- The importance of asking for help and relishing in the good moments in life
Quotes
“Who goes out there and publicly broadcasts that you are a hot mess? Who that loves you is going to do that when you are in your deepest darkest hour? It is someone who really liked external validation, really liked the kudos that she got from being able to say she was supporting me.” (10:34)
“There was nothing in between, it was almost like the volume was on mute, or the highest decibel ever. And so just trying to navigate that so that you had more options, more speeds than just super low or super high, by helping yourself kind of center and ground with the oil.” (17:15)
“Its almost like you have to feel safe to really release. Because I think anger is the top layer of fear and sadness, and its almost like a tough nut to crack. Once you can get through that anger, then you can get to the core of the issue, and you can start to release it and move out of it.” (20:20)
“There are always new learning and new skills and peeling off the onion.” (22:32)
“I want to make sure everybody knows that they are not alone, that there is no shame. This is not something that they chose, and that there are periods that will be better, this is not forever.” (30:27)
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111: Understanding Betrayal Energetically via the Chakra System w/ Dr. Ellen Albertson
Have you ever walked into a room and immediately felt the energy? Everything in our world is made up of energy, including our own personal energy vortexes within our bodies. Dr. Ellen Albertson is a psychologist, registered dietitian, national board-certified health and wellness coach, reiki master and mindful self-compassion teacher who knows a thing or two about energy.
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Dr. Ellen uses the power of our energy chakras to help women get unstuck and find confidence, energy, and clarity. Dubbed The Midlife Whisperer, Dr. Ellen is here today to explain how betrayal can impact you energetically, and share ways that you can regain your balance and feel more grounded and in control.
By connecting with your deep energetic wisdom you can start to trust your intuition, heal your chakras and implement self-compassion into your daily life. Everything from the way you dress to the amount of self-love you provide yourself can have a huge impact on your ability to heal. If you want actionable ways that you can start to reverse the energetic damage caused by your betrayal, this is an episode you cannot miss.
All of the resources you need to survive are inside of yourself. Are you ready to harness the power of your chakras and start treating yourself like your own best friend? Share how you use the power of your energy and self-compassion to heal with us in the comments below.
In This Episode
- Learn about the seven main energy chakras and your personal energy vortexes
- How to utilize your chakras to connect and control your own energy and others
- Discover how betrayal can impact your energy chakras on multiple levels
- The importance of self-compassion and the role it plays when it comes to healing
- What you can do to heal your chakras after a betrayal and get back into balance
Quotes
“Think about all the cells in your body came from sunlight. Everything you’ve eaten has either come from a plant or an animal that ate a plant, so you really are an energetic being.” (7:03)
“In terms of betrayal, this can really be shut down, because this is where joy lives. So in terms of being betrayed, you kind of feel that whole connection with life force, feeling creative, feeling vibrant is really kaput.” (10:58)
“You can feel these chakras in your body. You are not able to speak your truth, you’re not able to feel connected and communicate with people.” (16:53)
“We can heal and actually create something better, and everything is happening for your highest good.” (19:10)
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110: Traumatic Domestic Survival: Removing the Darkness and Finding the Light w/ Zoe Niklas
Zoe Niklas grew up enduring domestic violence, physical violence, emotional abuse, substance abuse, and sexual abuse. After multiple betrayals and traumatizing incidents involving both her mother and many stepfathers, Zoe harnessed her inner power and was able to break free at age 13. It wasn’t until she was finally taken in by a new family that she was able to embrace the healing power of love and create the life she knew she deserved.
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Author of the book Driving In The Dark: A Childhood Memoir, Zoe is the true epitome of taking trauma and turning it into a life of purpose. Today Zoe is here to share her encouraging, insightful and uplifting perspective with you so that you can understand that even your darkest days can be healed through the strength of true love.
Throughout her journey, Zoe has used the power of the written word and theater to regain her memory, health, and happiness. From driving her mother’s car at 11 years old after she had experienced a seizure while running away to commit suicide, to finding hope and healing in the vision of life that she knew she was destined to live, Zoe’s incredible story is one of trial and triumph.
You can make it through the pain you are experiencing. By taking action and taking control of the course of your life, Zoe is here to provide you with inspiration to get you the help that you need and stop your suffering. How does Zoe’s story inspire you to take your biggest crisis and turn it into your greatest gift? Share how you related to Zoe with us in the comments below.
In This Episode:
- Learn how Zoe made sense of a childhood filled with broken expectations
- Four steps to help you deal with your problems and overcome your trauma
- Ways to embrace your own worthiness and stop questioning your own worth
- Why you don’t have to accept the victim mentality of being ‘scarred for life’
- How to cultivate a vision of the life that you want and are destined to live
Quotes
“They never dissed me or said I was tarnished by my background. They loved me, and that love made me love myself.” (14:51)
“I heard a voice as clear as I am sitting talking to you, and it was like a man speaking in a megaphone in my right ear. And that voice said “get help now”.” (17:33)
“That’s why I say that I am the luckiest person in the world because I knew what I wanted and I followed the way to get there.” (21:47)
“Never stop, never stop trying to save yourself, don’t stop, keep going.” (24:39)
“I am sure there are kids out there that are just as hurt as I was, and I made it, and so I want them to know that it’s okay. You can hurt and you can do all of those things, but you can make it.” (27:39)
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Driving In The Dark: A Childhood Memoir by Zoe Niklas
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107: Relationship Harmony or Chaos; A Personality Assessment Tells All w/ Midori Verity
Have you ever heard of the DISC assessment? Midori Verity is one of the most innovative and successful marriage and communication coaches out there, who helps couples elevate their relationships by improving communication. Midori uses the DISC assessment to identify personality traits and help her clients adapt and adjust so that they can have a more peaceful and harmonious relationship, and is here today to share her knowledge with you.
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If you are feeling unheard in your relationship or need help connecting, Midori’s insight into the four personality types can help you press the reset button and start to develop more support and synergy in your relationship. The DISC assessment can help you understand why your relationship is in trouble, assess what you need to do to move forward, and even help you when making decisions in the future.
By learning about what makes your personality type tick, you can better prepare yourself to find the job or relationship that suits you perfectly, and who doesn’t want that? When it comes to relationships, it is all about the Platinum Rule, which helps you speak the language your partner speaks so that you know you are both being heard and understood.
Are you ready to learn about you and your partner’s personality types and harness that information to start speaking each other’s languages? Share where you fall on the DISC assessment with us in the comments below.
In This Episode
- Which personality combinations work well, and don’t work well, in relationships
- Learn how high-stress situations can impact the way in which you communicate
- Why it is important to understand the different personality types of your partner
- Tips for each personality type to communicate in another personality language
- Discover which personality combinations are most likely to experience a betrayal
Quotes
“We all have a different language, we all have a different behavioral style and personality type, and when we can match that, we are going to be listened to more, we are going to be received more, and our conversations are going to be much more successful.” (3:37)
“When you go through challenges in life, whether it’s in your relationship or outside of your relationship it doesn’t matter, but when we go through challenges and we feel stressed, we react differently, that’s why this is so important.” (11:02)
“In general, our natural graphs stay about the same, they will not change that much. But, we can learn techniques to help us improve in certain areas so that we can acquiesce in relationships.” (27:15)
“You have to kind of get to know what you are. I recommend for everybody to take a DISC assessment, even if you did before, take it again. And think about it from a relationship standpoint.” (28:29)
“The way that we see the world, is not how others see the world. So if you are bashing heads with your partner, often just some tweaks in the way that you understand them and the way you respond to them will diffuse situations.” (30:16)
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Secrets To A Kickass Marriage by Midori Verity
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105: Self Care and Self Love After Betrayal w/ Tammy Lawman and Brooke Emery
So often we forget to prioritize our own self-love and self-care after a betrayal, but these practices can hold the key to discovering who you are, how to come back to yourself and ways to stop putting other people ahead of you. Self-care is not selfish, it is self-preservation, and with the expert advice of our next guests, you can implement these self-love routines despite your busy schedule and start reaping the rewards.
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Tammy Lawman and Brooke Emery are the co-creators of the Self-Love and Self-Care Symposium, a space dedicated to teaching you how to love yourself more fully, appreciate your unique gifts and take better care of yourself so that you can shine more brightly in the world. Tammy, a business strategist, and marketing expert, and Brooke, a connector and creative business strategist, work together to bring big vision to their clients and provide the fuel necessary to inspire, motivate and transform.
These two self-care experts are here today to give you simple strategies to start giving yourself a little bit more love. By allowing yourself the right to say no, connecting to your forgotten child and putting yourself on your own to-do list, you can start to shine your light brighter in the world. Are you ready to embrace Tammy and Brooke’s simple, easy and free steps so that you can figure out what you want out of your life and go after it?
Share your self-love and self-care habits and wishes with us in the comments below.
In This Episode
- Why saying no and setting boundaries can be a powerful act of self-love
- Ways to prioritize self-care and cultivate self-love within your busy schedule
- Short and brief rituals that can help you get your day back on track
- The importance of starting your day with an uplifting gratitude routine
- How to check in with your inner child and have more fun along the journey
Quotes
“When you are saying no to something else, you are saying yes to yourself.” (6:45)
“For me, to be able to share authentically and connect deeply with another person is the greatest act of self-love.” (11:25)
“Just try it on like an experiment. Just because that works for me, it doesn’t mean it is going to work for that person. But just trying to, maybe drive down a different road, you know? Just experiment with how the morning routine goes, because I really feel that the morning is how things set up.” (22:38)
“We’re sharing all kinds of tips and methodologies, all to help you get back to a place of fully loving yourself more and really learning how to take care of yourself, how to tap into your intuition and how to feel good in your body.” (25:24)
“We believe that when you love yourself you can go out in the world and you can fully love with your whole heart and really share your unique abilities and talents with the world.” (28:55)
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102: The Issues are in the Tissues – Where Unhealed Betrayal Lives w/ Dr. Michelle Eggenberger
Dr. Michelle Eggenberger is an author, holistic stress and anxiety coach, doctor of oriental medicine, licensed acupuncturist, health coach and certified yoga teacher, just to name a few. After recovering from her own romantic betrayal and a string of health issues, Dr. Michelle realized that it was within her power to find a better way to live.
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Through this journey of self-discovery, Dr. Michelle realized the importance of prioritizing self-love and self-worth and has since been on a mission to share her message with the world. Living proof that you can manifest the things you want in life if you work to keep the mind, body, and spirit healthy, Dr. Michelle is here to help you allow the Universe to guide you to where you need to be.
You have the choice to choose yourself and give yourself the happy life that you deserve. Making the decision to prioritize both your mental and physical health while becoming aware of how your thoughts affect you is key to becoming the architect of your own destiny.
Are you ready to allow Dr. Michelle to teach you how to harness the power of your body through yoga, awareness and the mind-heart connection so that you can find joy after your betrayal? Share your self-love and self-compassion tips with us in the comments below.
In This Episode
- Explore the connection between the mind, spirit, and body when finding self-love
- Learn how your emotions are tied to your digestive system and overthinking your reality
- How acupuncture can help you circulate and move your emotions through your body
- Discover how your daily thoughts can manifest into physical emotions and reactions
- The importance of practicing yoga and nurturing the mind-heart connection
Quotes
“One of the reasons why when we have a romantic betrayal it is so powerful in our own self-worth and all that is because of the vulnerability factor.” (6:05)
“Slowly I started finding the strength to understand my self-worth and my self-love and what I needed to do to step out of that relationship, that that relationship was no longer fit for me.” (10:23)
“We are so perfectly done that our body, when we haven’t been taking care of our mind and our emotions, our body will tell us.” (17:31)
“One of the things that happens when you start doing yoga as a real practice, you start going into the mind-heart connection. And that is where the real magic happens, for everything. That is where the real transformation and real healing happens.” (20:42)
“It’s the thoughts that we create that will create the feelings that we experience, that will create the actions and the reality that we see.” (22:48)
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The Energetics of Joy by Dr. Michelle Eggenberger
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101: Perceived Betrayal, Early Betrayal – What We Learn as Children w/ Michelle Dickinson
Michelle Dickinson is a passionate potter who has worked in the pharmaceutical industry for eighteen years and is the author of the memoir Breaking Into My Life, a rare glimpse into a young girl’s experience living with and loving her bipolar mother. Michelle has overcome years of neglect and confusion surrounding her mother’s mental condition and is here today to share how she came out on the other side a vehement advocate for mental health and ending the stigma.
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Through her self-work and internal healing, Michelle has reached a place of forgiveness and determination to hold space in the mental health community and remove the stigma for those suffering and their caretakers. By transforming her experiences with her mother’s illness from harmful to empowering, Michelle is making massive strides when it comes to providing help to those who need it.
Michelle wants you to be courageous and take the first step towards healing, instead of pretending that what inhibits you doesn’t exist. Out of your greatest messes comes your message, and this episode is all about transformation and gaining the confidence to choose the life you want for yourself instead of the life you know.
You are not your past, and from this moment forward you have the power to create what you want for yourself and claim it as your own. Michelle is here to provide advice, hope and inspire your perseverance so that you too can triumph over what ails you.
How has Michelle inspired you to take your painful experience and turn it into something positive? Share your thoughts with us in the comments below.
In This Episode
- Gain a glimpse into life as a child caregiver for an undiagnosed bipolar parent
- Tips for creating self-care boundaries and practices in the name of self-preservation
- Why you need to let go of the limiting beliefs you may not even know you tell yourself
- Signs that you need to look within yourself and do the hard work of self-discovery
- The importance of abolishing the stigma around mental health and providing help to everyone who needs it
Quotes
“Our needs were always on the back burner. If I had a bad day at school or there was an upset with a girlfriend, that didn’t matter. What mattered was if she had what she needs. So I quickly learned how to hide my own needs and put whatever I needed on the shelf and really just focus on her.” (6:07)
“She kind of gave me permission to create that boundary and that space and love myself and take care of myself, when no one had ever done that for me.” (12:00)
“Self-care wasn’t something that I grew up learning. I was having to learn how to create boundaries and care for myself, this was an act of caring for myself by doing that.” (17:06)
“You don’t realize how these experiences from your youth and your relationship with your mother alter what you believe you can and cannot do in your life.” (21:52)
“I would want every child to know that they are perfect, whole and complete, just as they are, and that their potential is limitless. ” (23:57)
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100: The 7 Greatest Lessons Learned from Recording 100 Episodes w/ Dr. Debi Silber
I can hardly believe that we have reached the 100 episode milestone, and I know that you have learned a lot throughout the amazing array of guests I have been lucky enough to talk to. To celebrate I wanted to share with you the seven greatest lessons I have learned in the past 99 episodes, and provide you with a recap of some of the experts that may be worth revisiting depending on your topic of interest.
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My goal is to provide you with an array of tools and amazing insights so that you can take off your rose-colored glasses and start moving the needle on your healing journey. Everything from divorce to forgiveness and essential oils has been covered in the past 100 episodes, and I am here today to highlight those that are going to help you live a confident and resilient life regardless of your betrayal history.
If you are ready to heal from your betrayal physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually, I am here to help you onto the path of true happiness. No matter what your betrayal you can come out on the other side, and it is through these seven greatest lessons that you can empower yourself to do so.
Are you ready to rediscover the fire within yourself and find the lesson you need to learn in order to heal? Share some of your favorite episodes with us and let us know what topics you want to hear more of in the comments below.
In This Episode
- Recap the biggest takeaways and greatest lessons from the last 99 episodes
- Highlight the non-negotiable importance of support when dealing with betrayal trauma
- Learn the role of the body-mind connection when dealing with betrayal
- Why you should choose empowerment instead of a victim mindset to achieve healing
- Tips for embracing resilience, transformation, and forgiveness when healing from betrayal
Quotes
“Those were the episodes that I feel really shared the depth and importance of relationships and possibility, so if any of those resonated with you, go on in and listen to those again, you will get so much more out of it.” (17:49)
“While it may be impossible to eliminate all of the stress from your life, it is possible to train your brain to handle stressful situations with more grace and ease by employing tools such as regarding your mind before a stressful event and replenishing yourself afterward, you can build up your capacity to cope with the challenges of life.” (28:28)
“There are so many different tools that we can use to heal and that is why hopefully I want you to listen and relisten so that you can find the tools that work for you.” (31:57)
“Going through a betrayal impacts every part of us including physically, mentally and emotionally, and spiritually. When we are not able to heal and release the trauma, it can build up inside our cellular memory and cause illness, disease and unnecessary stress. It is only by treating our symptoms in a holistic way that we can begin to understand the mind-body connection.” (42:49)
“If you feel as though you wear a shield of protective armor that is hiding a fraud, its time to take off your battle uniform and live a life full of authenticity and happiness.” (1:09:22)
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096: Equal Work, Unequal Pay: A Family Betrayal w/ Clare Dubé
Clare Dubé is a financial therapist and founder of Smart Chats, a financial service helping couples and business partners save their finances and their relationships. Clare is an expert in taking financial situations from chaos to clarity and connection due to her own family business betrayal, and she works zealously to help others from making the same mistakes.
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Unequal payments and draws in her family business lead Clare to start doing some self-work which prepared her for the ultimate betrayal of being cut out of what she was owed by her brothers, including her children’s college funds. Today Clare is here to shed light on how to keep things fair, embrace your value and start creating some boundaries.
If you have experienced a family or business betrayal and want to start looking at your situation with a different lens so that you can start to ease your pain, Clare’s journey is one you have got to hear. How does Clare’s story of resilience and turning your hardest pain into your greatest gift inspire you to stand up for yourself? Share your thoughts with us in the comments below.
In This Episode
- How to look through other peoples lenses to forgive but not forget
- Tips for managing your feelings when a betrayal is never acknowledged
- How to use your betrayal as a motivating factor pushing you forward to success
- The importance of clear boundaries and how they can improve any relationship
- Why you need to seek clarity for yourself and others while speaking up and asking questions
Quotes
“It was when I started to really work very hard in this business and brought so much value to the business that I was starting to realize that shift was coming. It’s not about my self-worth, it’s the value I am putting forth in this company.” (5:16)
“Its really a deep dive that you have to keep questioning because you can’t just accept the first answer, you have to keep on going.” (7:33)
“I could choose to be a victim in it or I could choose to roll up my sleeves, start my own business and use my value in a way that I knew was best.” (11:42)
“It has to become a boundary, it has to be a lesson learned and it has to be a reminder.” (15:08)
“If you have been betrayed, whether it is in business or relationships, everybody plays a part so question where you are, what part you played, and be a part of it. Don’t take yourself out of the situation.” (19:21)
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094: Shamanic Journeying to Clear Patterns of Betrayal w/ Ariann Thomas
Did you know that patterns that may arise in your families, such as theft, cheating, and bankruptcy, could actually be being passed down throughout the generations genetically? Ariann Thomas has been exploring the connection between familial patterns and decisions for thirty-five years and helps her clients rewrite history and leave their past ancestors’ burdens behind to change their own lives for the better.
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Ariann believes that by healing the roots that may have started growing centuries ago, you can create a life filled with health, abundance, and happiness for yourself and future generations. Today she is sharing exactly how patterns and predispositions can be inherited through families, how to recognize and break a cycle of genetic transfer, and gives us a look into what her clients experience when on a Shamanic Journey to find generational healing and internal peace.
When you are able to go back and clear your patterns of betrayal from past generations, you can make way for a future full of healing and hope for the next. If you are open to the idea of rewriting history to change your familial decisions, clear out negative energy, and fill your soul with the happiness of the present, Ariann is here to help you take the first step on that journey.
Have you ever noticed a feeling of a past burden or a common family disposition? Let us know how you can relate to Ariann’s teachings in the comments section below.
In This Episode
- Understanding the difference between nature and nurture in genetic predispositions
- Why you may be genetically inclined to pick a certain type of partner or career
- How to address traumatic experiences that have continued in the family for generations
- Analyzing the role meditation and mindfulness can play in repairing your damaged DNA
- What to do if you notice a pattern in your family behaviors that you want to change
Quotes
“Memories get passed down through our genes, into our children and our grandchildren. And they are triggered by actions that we see happening around us in our families.” (5:18)
“You may have a family history of betrayal, you don’t have to play that out if you are trained differently and that betrayal gene is not turned on and expressed.” (9:40)
“Until you heal the wounds that we have inherited until you heal the wounds that create that pattern, the pattern will continue to grow, the pattern will continue to manifest in your life, and the pattern will continue to show up in your children and grandchildren and future generations.” (13:07)
“I always talk about healing from the roots, but this is like the real roots, back many many generations ago.” (31:40) – Debi
Links
Free Healing Gifts From Ariann
Ancestral Lineage Clearing Website
Changing Our Genetic Heritage: Creating a New Reality for Ourselves and Future Generations
Healing Family Patterns: Ancestral Lineage Clearing for Personal Growth
The Female Factor: A Confidence Guide for Women
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093: Betrayal by One Thousand Cuts w/ Rachell Kitchen
After being betrayed by what felt like 1,000 cuts, Rachell Kitchen was able to pick herself up and continue fighting. A survivor of extreme violence, divorce, drastic family health issues and even the murder of her father, Rachell is here to share her personal experience in the hopes of empowering you to move your life from chaos to clarity.
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Now a speaker, author, life and transition coach as well as the CEO of Level Up 4 Life Coaching, Rachell knows a thing or two about perseverance and the ability to bounce back. Today Rachell is an open book explaining how her series of betrayals showed her the importance of asking for help and avoiding destructive thoughts.
Betrayals or large life transitions can often feel like too much to handle, and it is only by embracing some of the techniques Rachell learned at rock bottom that you can understand the cycle of change and dedicate yourself to showing up in that process.
A beautiful example of healing past post betrayal syndrome and an advocate for never allowing yourself to be victimized, Rachell is here to help you flip that switch and start healing from your traumas. Are you ready to embrace a new recipe for healing and fight your way through the dark side? Share what you loved most about Rachells story in the comments below.
In This Episode
- Learn how trauma can mess up your hormones and wreak physical and emotional havoc
- Why you should get comfortable asking for help and knowing your worth
- Signs that you are on the right healing path by finding joy amidst the chaos
- Understanding the ripple effect of betrayal and how to focus on the positive lessons
- Explore the forgiveness process while honoring the power of self-love
Quotes
“It just really did feel like a series of betrayals by a thousand cuts, it was coming at me from every angle, and I really just felt victimized.” (3:00)
“You may not like what is happening right now at this moment, but look how rich your life is, look how abundant you do have it.” (12:02)
“You can decide how you like to show up for the day, in that situation, versus acting out and acting in a way that would not honor your values and how you would like to show up.” (16:58)
“My gift that God put me here to do is to share my capacity to love. And how do I do that? By what I do best, helping other women find theirs.” (20:59)
“You do not have to be a victim to your circumstances, you do not have to undervalue the power that you have within, and give the power to the obstacle.” (27:48)
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092: Dating (Each Other) Again After Betrayal w/ Dr. Corey Allan
Dr. Corey Allan is a marriage and family therapist, author, speaker and licensed professional counselor with a Ph.D. in family therapy. He and his wife run Sexy Marriage, a podcast and online article resource that aims to help those experiencing difficulties in a partnership and provide resources to work through the dark days to experience more passion and trust in their relationships.
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Unfortunately, betrayal has become an increasingly frequent part of any relationship, and it is only by understanding the steps necessary to overcoming partnership betrayal that you can start making the steps that feel best for your unique situation.
Corey believes that marriage is more about becoming a better human than it is about the two people being happy. And when you keep things simple, you can experience more in marriage and life. By learning how to trust yourself again, accepting the cyclical cycle of getting better and becoming a major player in your relationship for your own sake, you can earn back your free choice and start living a life that demonstrates that you are worth choosing.
If you are ready to take the courageous step and ask yourself how your marital betrayal can be used for personal development, Corey is the expert for you. Are you ready to reanalyze what you thought maybe a dealbreaker in your relationship? Share what you learned from Corey in the comments below.
In This Episode
- How to view your betrayal like collateral damage rather than a personal attack
- Individual and couple recommendations when experiencing a marital betrayal
- Things that can move the needle on your partnership recovery journey
- A peek into a general timeline for getting over shame, bitterness and more
- Tips for rebuilding trust in a relationship and yourself after a betrayal
Quotes
“If they will buy into the fact that the relationship was co-created that helped create the dynamic to where an affair would occur. But whoever it was that was betrayed, it is not their fault, it was a choice by their spouse, by their partner.” (4:13)
“I am the therapist that I don’t hold people’s hands, I come straight at them. I figure you are paying money to get the truth, so lets not sugar coat stuff, that’s speaking to the best in people.” (12:38)
“This isn’t about what was done as much as it is the result, which is their hurt, their pain, their sadness, their disappointment, their grief, their whatever. Because what was has to be grieved, it was lost, so now we have to create something different.” (18:55)
“Affairs are actually symptoms of something else, they are not the main thing, they are a part of the main thing.” (22:33)
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