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107: Relationship Harmony or Chaos; A Personality Assessment Tells All w/ Midori Verity

Have you ever heard of the DISC assessment? Midori Verity is one of the most innovative and successful marriage and communication coaches out there, who helps couples elevate their relationships by improving communication. Midori uses the DISC assessment to identify personality traits and help her clients adapt and adjust so that they can have a more peaceful and harmonious relationship, and is here today to share her knowledge with you.

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If you are feeling unheard in your relationship or need help connecting, Midori’s insight into the four personality types can help you press the reset button and start to develop more support and synergy in your relationship. The DISC assessment can help you understand why your relationship is in trouble, assess what you need to do to move forward, and even help you when making decisions in the future.

By learning about what makes your personality type tick, you can better prepare yourself to find the job or relationship that suits you perfectly, and who doesn’t want that? When it comes to relationships, it is all about the Platinum Rule, which helps you speak the language your partner speaks so that you know you are both being heard and understood.

Are you ready to learn about you and your partner’s personality types and harness that information to start speaking each other’s languages? Share where you fall on the DISC assessment with us in the comments below.

In This Episode

  • Which personality combinations work well, and don’t work well, in relationships
  • Learn how high-stress situations can impact the way in which you communicate
  • Why it is important to understand the different personality types of your partner
  • Tips for each personality type to communicate in another personality language
  • Discover which personality combinations are most likely to experience a betrayal

Quotes

“We all have a different language, we all have a different behavioral style and personality type, and when we can match that, we are going to be listened to more, we are going to be received more, and our conversations are going to be much more successful.” (3:37)

“When you go through challenges in life, whether it’s in your relationship or outside of your relationship it doesn’t matter, but when we go through challenges and we feel stressed, we react differently, that’s why this is so important.” (11:02)

“In general, our natural graphs stay about the same, they will not change that much. But, we can learn techniques to help us improve in certain areas so that we can acquiesce in relationships.” (27:15)

“You have to kind of get to know what you are. I recommend for everybody to take a DISC assessment, even if you did before, take it again. And think about it from a relationship standpoint.” (28:29)

“The way that we see the world, is not how others see the world. So if you are bashing heads with your partner, often just some tweaks in the way that you understand them and the way you respond to them will diffuse situations.” (30:16)

Links

Secrets To A Kickass Marriage by Midori Verity

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The Science of Betrayal

The impact of past betrayal is proven, real and treatable. How can you help your patients and coaching clients heal from it? ‘The Science of Treating Betrayal’ will introduce you to Dr. Debi Silber founder of The (PBT) Post Betrayal Transformation Institute in this session of Extraordinary Instruction by The Wellness Universe.

Join Anna Pereira for a live conversation with Dr. Debi. Ask questions and learn more about the symptoms and how to help your clients heal now.

Register now. Grab your free seat and gifts from Dr. Debi:

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Dr. Debi’s PhD study on betrayal, dove into: What holds us back, what helps us heal and what happens to us physically, mentally and emotionally, when the people closest to us like family members, partners, friends or coworkers, lie, cheat and deceive us. Her study of over 6,000 people worldwide returned these conclusions:

– Over 60% suffer from physical ailments

– Over 50% suffer from mental ailments

– Over 50% suffer from emotional symptoms

– 84% have an inability to trust

– 67% prevent themselves from forming deep relationships because they are fearful of being vulnerable and hurt

– 90% want to move forward but don’t know how

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092: Dating (Each Other) Again After Betrayal w/ Dr. Corey Allan

Dr. Corey Allan is a marriage and family therapist, author, speaker and licensed professional counselor with a Ph.D. in family therapy. He and his wife run Sexy Marriage, a podcast and online article resource that aims to help those experiencing difficulties in a partnership and provide resources to work through the dark days to experience more passion and trust in their relationships.

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Unfortunately, betrayal has become an increasingly frequent part of any relationship, and it is only by understanding the steps necessary to overcoming partnership betrayal that you can start making the steps that feel best for your unique situation. 

Corey believes that marriage is more about becoming a better human than it is about the two people being happy. And when you keep things simple, you can experience more in marriage and life. By learning how to trust yourself again, accepting the cyclical cycle of getting better and becoming a major player in your relationship for your own sake, you can earn back your free choice and start living a life that demonstrates that you are worth choosing. 

If you are ready to take the courageous step and ask yourself how your marital betrayal can be used for personal development, Corey is the expert for you. Are you ready to reanalyze what you thought maybe a dealbreaker in your relationship? Share what you learned from Corey in the comments below. 

In This Episode

  • How to view your betrayal like collateral damage rather than a personal attack
  • Individual and couple recommendations when experiencing a marital betrayal
  • Things that can move the needle on your partnership recovery journey
  • A peek into a general timeline for getting over shame, bitterness and more
  • Tips for rebuilding trust in a relationship and yourself after a betrayal 

Quotes

“If they will buy into the fact that the relationship was co-created that helped create the dynamic to where an affair would occur. But whoever it was that was betrayed, it is not their fault, it was a choice by their spouse, by their partner.” (4:13)

“I am the therapist that I don’t hold people’s hands, I come straight at them. I figure you are paying money to get the truth, so lets not sugar coat stuff, that’s speaking to the best in people.” (12:38)

“This isn’t about what was done as much as it is the result, which is their hurt, their pain, their sadness, their disappointment, their grief, their whatever. Because what was has to be grieved, it was lost, so now we have to create something different.” (18:55)

“Affairs are actually symptoms of something else, they are not the main thing, they are a part of the main thing.” (22:33)

Links

Sexy Marriage Radio Podcast

Sexy Marriage Website

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From Betrayal To Breakthrough 089: Another Look at Porn Addiction w/ Joshua A. Shea

089: Another Look at Porn Addiction w/ Joshua A. Shea

Joshua A. Shea is a recovering pornography addict who is here to shed a different light on the topic of porn addiction and what goes on inside the mind of a porn addict. Joshua’s 20-year addiction came to a head when he pulled himself off his bipolar medication and engaged an underage girl in an online chat room. Now sober, out of prison and still living with his wife and children, Joshua is here to explain the real motivating factors behind his own personal porn addiction. 

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For Joshua, it was never about the pornography or the alcohol but instead about the control he gained from using this material. If you have been hurt by someone’s porn usage or want to gain a better understanding of the decision-making process of a pornography addict, this is an episode you need to listen too.

Despite the fact that many adults look at pornography, it is a topic that nobody wants to talk about. Joshua wants to open up that conversation and shine a light on the problem of pornography addiction to help others who may be struggling as well. If you are the spouse or the partner of a pornography addict, Joshua wants to make sure that you know that it has nothing to do with you and provide you with insights to help you understand that there is no stereotypical addict. 

Do you or somebody that you love struggle with pornography addiction? Share this episode with them and let us know how transformation has proven possible for you in the comments below.

In This Episode

  • Understanding the role of past trauma, alcohol and control played in Joshua’s addiction
  • Why you should not confuse intercourse with a pornography addiction
  • Learn how Joshua’s wife handled the situation and did the work to heal
  • Explore what recovery looks like now and the importance of being willing to try
  • Addressing the way that the Internet is changing society and pornography usage

Quotes

“Pornography and alcohol, they both allowed me to escape someplace else. They allowed me to go somewhere where I was in control. And that ultimately is what my pornography addiction specifically was about my entire life.” (5:07)

“I think I even made the joke back then that all of these different people would only ever meet at my funeral, and they would all have very different stories to share with one another because they all knew different versions of me.” (10:46)

“Despite the magazine falling apart, despite the fact that I was drinking more and my relationships with my family were falling apart, life was crumbling, and the one place that I could exert control was in the middle of the night in these chat rooms.” (17:10)

“I don’t blame the addiction for what I did. The addiction did make me get out of control, it did make me not recognize cause and effect and not recognize what could happen and make poor decisions. However, I made the very poor decision to pull myself off my bipolar medication.” (21:41)

“Despite the fact that the vast majority of people are looking at pornography, everybody wants to pretend that they don’t. And if everybody pretends that they don’t look at pornography, I am not even saying addicts, but if everybody pretends that they don’t look at pornography, how can we even begin to have conversations about pornography addiction?” (29:12)

Links

Recovering Porn Addict Website

The Addiction Nobody Will Talk About by Joshua Shea

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From Betrayal To Breakthrough 084: Intimate Deception w/ Dr. Sheri Keffer

084: Intimate Deception w/ Dr. Sheri Keffer

Dr. Sheri Keffer‘s life came screeching to a halt when she found out that her new marriage to a pastor was filled with pornography, affairs, and prostitutes. Now a clinical sex addiction therapist and EMDR practitioner in addition to her audience of over two million people per week on her regular co-hosting gig at New Life Live, Dr. Sheri knows what it takes to heal and helps others realize that they are not alone, not crazy and can heal after sexual betrayal.

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The way men and women experience sexual betrayal is very different, and it is only by engaging in a total truth-telling process that you can work to heal yourself and your relationship. The physical and mental symptoms of betrayal can seem overwhelming, but when you equip yourself with the right boundaries and ability to see the truth for what it is, healing is possible.

The process of rebuilding starts with you first, and it is Dr. Sheri’s mission is to give betrayed partners a roadmap to healing and recovery. With tools like EMDR and therapy, Dr. Sheri is here to tell you that you are worth fighting for and it is possible to rebuild with or without the person that hurt you as long as you have the truth first. 

Have you or a loved one experienced sexual betrayal? How do you relate to Dr. Sheri’s story of deception and healing through exposing the truth? Share your story with us in the comments below.

In This Episode

  • Exploring the shock after a marital sexual betrayal and how to find the right help
  • Learn about betrayal blindness is and why it can be so powerful  
  • Why your well-meaning therapist could be doing more harm than good 
  • The importance of taking care of yourself and being in a truth-telling process
  • How EMDR can help you connect your thoughtful and emotional brain 

Quotes

“All of it hurts, but the more intimate, the more emotional, the longer that relationship is, the more compulsive the sexual behavior is. It is harmful to us.” (4:59)

“At some point, I had to wake up from this nightmare I was living in that I really didn’t want to look at.” (10:34)

“A partner who is betrayed needs two things that are critical to heal, like two pillars, they need safety and they need the truth. And until they have those two things, a betrayed partner cannot settle into their body.” (19:17)

“The first step of recovery, whether you are staying with your partner or not, is recovery for yourself. Because you can’t fight for that relationship if you are lying flat on the ground.” (28:32)

“We have to be very proactive in getting in front of good therapists that know what they are doing with sexual deception.” (28:10)

Links

Get Your Freebies Here!

Intimate Deception by Dr. Sheri Keffer

Brave One Blog

Dr. Sheri Keffer Website

Bravery After Betrayal Retreat

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IITAP Website

APSATS Website

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From Betrayal To Breakthrough 083: How to Increase Intimacy for Better Relationships w/ Dr. Alexandra Stockwell

083: How to Increase Intimacy for Better Relationships w/ Dr. Alexandra Stockwell

Dr. Alexandra Stockwell is a physician turned relationship and intimacy expert who helps committed couples shift their mindset and find the emotional and sensual intimacy that they crave. After watching her nine-year-old daughter’s zest and vibrancy for life, Alexandra realized that she needed to find that spark within herself again if she wanted to foster a healthy and happy life for her children.

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Many people view a long term relationship as a place where passion goes to die, but when you are able to shift your mindset and find peace within yourself, you can bring pleasure and purpose to all aspects of your life. 

In this episode, Alexandra explains how children of divorce can often share similar looming thoughts and feelings, how you can be inspired by prioritizing yourself and your connection with your partner and explores the uncharted territory of life after betrayal to be truly honest with the reality of your relationship. 

If you want to find hope in intimacy after betrayal, re-establishing your connection as a couple or find the courage to address the real issues within yourself and your relationship, Alexandra is the expert for you. How do you address your own internal betrayals that may be sabotaging your happiness? Share with us in the comments below. 

In This Episode

  • Common symptoms, fears and looming thoughts found in many children of divorce 
  • How to prioritize connecting with your partner as two sensual adults
  • Addressing the lack of models and information when it comes to an ideal relationship
  • Tips for creating a healthy, honest and romantic relationship after betrayal 
  • The importance of figuring out how you have betrayed yourself first

Quotes

“I knew that if she continued to grow up in my presence, living at home for another nine years, there was no way that she could sustain all of her radiance because there was a part of me that was uncomfortable and unsatisfied.” (7:21)

“Once we have a particular identity… it’s like it ends out vibrations and then things happen that reveal that to us.” (15:01)

“When you want to be great at innovation, there are all kinds of people you might learn from, Elon Musk or whatever. The same thing in sports, in music, but when it comes to relationships, there really is a lack of models worth emulating.” (20:25)

“I want to be able to give people a sense of where to move towards no matter where you are starting.” (30:42)

Links

Dr. Alexandra Stockwell Website

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From Betrayal To Breakthrough 079: Clearing & Preventing Further Betrayal Using Feng Shui w/ Kim Julen

079: Clearing & Preventing Further Betrayal Using Feng Shui w/ Kim Julen

When healing from a betrayal there are endless ways that you can help yourself, including cleansing the spaces you spend time in. From your home to your work, Feng shui could be the answer to getting rid of past negative traumas and embracing a new version of yourself. Kim Julen is a Feng shui expert, psychic, angel card reader and love activist who helps others find harmony in their head, heart, and home. 

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Creating a healing space in your home or office can work wonders for your mental, physical and emotional wellbeing. Kim is here to teach us about the process of Feng shui, which areas of your home can be affected by different types of conflict or betrayal, and how to create an environment that energetically supports what you want to have in your life. 

If your space feels like it is keeping you down, it is time to cleanse and neutralize your environment to get rid of the past betrayal and find peace. When you can utilize Feng shui to harmonize your workspace, home life and most importantly, your life, you can create a space that reflects the life you deserve. 

Which Feng shui tip are you most excited to implement in your space? Share how you are working to cleanse your environment in the comments below! 

In This Episode

  • Understanding the different types of feng shui and the role it plays in your happiness
  • Tips to make your home or workspace energetically full of protection and confidence
  • How to balance out the control in your house with your children or spouse
  • The 5 elements of Feng shui and how to harness them to balance your environment
  • Learn a Hawaiian prayer to facilitate forgiveness and why you should say ‘I love you’

Quotes

“Doors are the voices of the adults. And if you have doors that are squeaking, get some WD-40 out and oil them because that will help calm down the complaining.” (24:35)

“I love you, I am sorry, please forgive me, thank you. And you will see it in different ways, I like to have the I love you first. Because on a soul level, we all really do all love each other.” (26:56)

“Really truly, forgiveness is really about loving yourself. It really isn’t about loving the other person, but whenever that thought or that person comes into your mind if you are saying ‘I love you’, that’s expressing love to yourself.” (28:38)

“If there is chaos going on in your life, most likely there is chaos going on in your space as well.” (29:22)

Links

Feng Shui Freebie

Finding Your Fiji Website

Learn Why and How to Energetically Clear Your Space YouTube Video

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From Betrayal To Breakthrough Podcast 077: Moving From Wounds to Empowerment w/ Monica Bennett

077: Moving From Wounds to Empowerment w/ Monica Bennett

Transformation happens through consistent action, major perspective shifts, and a willingness to adventure into the unknown. Regardless of how much trauma and betrayal you’ve experienced in your life, if you’re willing to put the work in, you will see results. Our guest, Monica Bennett, shares today how she’s worked through her past to now help women overcome theirs.

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Monica’s parents were both Holocaust survivors and her childhood was full of fear and uncertainty. She grew up in an unhappy and disappointing environment and later learned that she was generationally passing these traumas onto her daughter. But over the years, she’s learned many coping mechanisms for working through and healing from her trauma.

The way we respond to betrayal can actually become a pattern in our lives; it’s something we get used to. Breaking that pattern helps us move forward. Monica finds that writing three pages of her thoughts every morning helps her make sense of her thoughts. She also shares how other aspects of her life impact how she responds to trauma, including the food she eats.

Monica explains that one of the hardest parts of healing from trauma, for her, was learning who she was outside of it. When you’ve sat in trauma for years, do you really know who you are? She gives us some examples of how she learned who she is. And while it’s not for everyone, Monica worked with a holistic shaman for a number of years to get to the root cause of her trauma. 

How have you committed to working through your trauma every day? Let us know what you gained most from Monica’s story in the comments below! 

In This Episode

  • How to move forward after betrayal
  • Why betrayal can impact multiple generations
  • How responding to betrayal can become a pattern
  • Why writing out morning pages every day can help you understand your betrayal
  • How your food habits can impact how your body responds to betrayal
  • How you can create your identity outside of trauma
  • What mirror work is and how it can help you move through trauma
  • What role a shaman can play in working through feelings of betrayal
  • Why you need to commit to working through betrayal every day
  • What can help you break through old limiting beliefs

Quotes

“Once you start looking and becoming aware of your past betrayal, you have understanding. Once you have understanding, then you have clarity. And once you have the clarity, then you can start to move forward.” (3:00)

“These words, these neuropathways, are so almost hardwired, that slowly we have to learn to disconnect like a wire to a plug in the wall. We have to learn to disconnect slowly.” (15:00)

“Unfortunately, you have to step out into the unknown if you do want to heal. And that’s where the tricky part comes because the unknown can be so uncomfortable, that you’ll come back to the known, even though that is so uncomfortable. But at least it’s familiar.” (18:18)

“I realize that not every day is a good day, but I know I have the insight to navigate the days with gratitude.” (25:39)

Links

The Artist’s Way by Julia Cameron

Positive Mind LLC Website

Monica Bennett on Facebook

Call Monica on 516-297-0672

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From Betrayal To Breakthrough Podcast 076: When Things Go Sideways w/ Sachin Patel

076: When Things Go Sideways w/ Sachin Patel

After a business partnership resulted in the loss of money, security and time with his family, Sachin Patel realized he needed to make a change. Thanks to his emotional imprinting, strong faith in karma and desire to learn from the experience, Sachin has since harnessed the pain of his betrayal into a stronger business and leadership role.

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A must-listen for any business owners struggling with resiliency after things didn’t work out the way they expected, Sachin is an inspiring example of how to come back from a betrayal stronger than ever.

Combining his desire to keep people out of the medical system by empowering them through self-care, and his ability to let things roll off his back thanks to emotional imprinting, Sachin is here to explain why following your hunches is usually a good thing. 

Has a business relationship or experience soured your ability to move on? Share what inspired you most about Sachin’s story in the comments below!

In This Episode

  • How a bad business situation ended up being the best thing that ever happened
  • The role emotional imprinting can play in your ability to let things go
  • Ways to reverse engineer your betrayal so that it doesn’t happen to someone else
  • Tips to become a better business owner and leader despite your hardships
  • Having faith in karma and the manifestation of your thoughts  

Quotes

“I had to keep a smile on my face the whole time, which was a tough thing to do.” (12:02)

“I was just kind of banking on the fact that ‘hey this could pay off in the long run, and if it does it’s going to pay off big’. And once I realized that it wasn’t, it was time for me to walk.” (13:34)

“When you lie to someone, that’s betraying them. When you lead someone on, that’s betraying them. Even if your intentions are good, if it is not the truth, its betrayal.” (17:59)

“I don’t feel super bad for myself because I learned so much, it was like a $60,000 education I got. And it was through that education that I realized, ‘hey, here is how I can run my business so that I never do this to somebody else’.” (24:14)

“We can use what we have learned to serve us, to make sure that we don’t do it to somebody else, and just create a much better future for ourselves instead of living in the past.” (27:59)

Links

Free 30-Day Program

The Living Proof Institute Website

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From Betrayal To Breakthrough 074: Healing Negative Relationship Messages w/ Anna Osborn

074: Healing Negative Relationship Messages w/ Anna Osborn

After a betrayal, it takes a willingness from both parties and the ability to hold space for one another’s pain in order to move forward. Anna Osborn is an LMFT, founder of Life Unscripted Counselling and co-creator of Shine Retreat for Women. Anna works to help couples find safety and healing while navigating the tricky waters of rebuilding a relationship after betrayal.

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You owe it to yourself to bring your best and healthiest self into the next chapter of your life, with or without your relationship with another. It takes some hard work to find consistency between your words and your actions, but with some effort, you can find peace within the ‘what-ifs’ and actually do the work necessary to heal. 

Being able to triage the huge intense wound of a betrayal is possible when you are able to remember what it was like before and rebuild trust after grieving the loss of that chapter in your relationship. If you want to improve your communication, deepen intimacy, heal from betrayal or change your negative patterns of disconnection, Anna is the expert for you. 

Have you been betrayed and are considering rebuilding a life with the person that hurt you? Let us know what you gained most from Anna’s insight in the comments below. 

In This Episode

  • Signs to learn if your partner is truly being present in your healing journey 
  • How to gain the emotional understanding of what it means to really hear somebody 
  • Creating body awareness and the ability to give a voice to your physical sensations
  • Suggestions for both the betrayed partner and the betrayer to move on without shame
  • Learn ways that you can build or rebuild trust in your relationship and yourself

Quotes

“Although the choices that the betraying partner made are devastating and unfair and all those sorts of things, life is multi-layered.” (7:45)

“There’s a way that the relationship has been breaking down, that has lead to greater vulnerabilities, to where the betraying partner made this choice.” (10:59)

“I really believe that when it comes to this type of work its really about supporting and helping people on the path, to be able to lay something down, because it’s simply too heavy to be able to carry into the future and the relationship that they deserve.” (15:21)

“Part of the healing process is to create enough stillness around to know what you need healing to look like. And that is a day by day journey.” (27:36)

Links

Life Unscripted Counselling

Her Life Unscripted Podcast

Shine Retreat for Women

Contact Anna and Mari at info@ShineRetreatForWomen.com

Other Resources

Women Hacking Betrayal Facebook Group

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From Betrayal To Breakthrough Podcast 073: Why Finding a Supportive Tribe Helps You Heal w/ Mari Lee

073: Why Finding a Supportive Tribe Helps You Heal w/ Mari Lee

A licensed marriage, family and sex addiction therapist, Mari Lee understands the differences between sex addiction and other forms of addiction such as drugs and alcohol. The founder of Growth Counselling Services and the Shine Women’s Retreat in Laguna Beach, CA, Mari is an expert on helping sex addicts, and their betrayed partners, find clarity and understanding. 

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This type of trauma can leave many physical, mental and emotional symptoms in its wake, and through the help of professional like Mari you can discover if healing is possible in your relationship. Mari is here to help you rebuild your self-esteem from feelings of rejection and abandonment and help you manage and heal from your betrayal trauma. 

Today we dive into the bio-psycho assessment process, sexual dependency inventories and formal disclosure processes so that you can be equipped with the necessary knowledge to take the first steps to recover. When dealing with a sex addict it takes wisdom and insight to figure out how to heal, and Mari is here to help you gain that knowledge. 

How has sex addiction impacted your relationship? Share with us in the comments below. 

In This Episode

  • Learn how sex addiction differs from alcohol or drug addiction 
  • A look into the assessment and treatment process for individuals and couples
  • The common denominator between betrayed partners of sexual addiction 
  • Understanding what self-care means to different people based on your history 
  • Exploring the role your faith plays in your relationship and values

Quotes

“When we talk about my specialization, which is working with sex addicts and their betrayed partners, we’re talking about a different level of trauma because a bottle of vodka, for example, doesn’t have a penis or breasts or a vagina.” (5:23)

“All of this information, these messages that we hear that have so much mistruth to them, we really do need to challenge them and show up for ourself.” (17:12)

“It is very likely that they can heal as long as both people are willing to do the work.” (21:59)

“This is truly a labor of love to help women get their feet back on the ground.” (31:43)

Links

The Counselor’s Coach

Growth Counseling Services

Shine Retreat for Women

Healing from Betrayal by Mari Lee 

Facing Heartbreak by Mari Lee

Other Resources

Women Hacking Betrayal Facebook Group

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From Betrayal To Breakthrough 072: How to Rewire Your Brain After Betrayal w/ Louise Swartswalter

072: How to Rewire Your Brain After Betrayal w/ Louise Swartswalter

Louise Swartswalter has had a 20-year career transforming lives using a unique multi-dimensional approach to helping others cleanse the body mind and spirit of all that is blocking you from achieving your goals. 

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After using multi-sensory development protocols to help children with dyslexia, Louise realized the same principles could be applied to healing ourselves as well. With this knowledge, Louise created the B.R.A.I.N System and has helped her clients move from anxiety to calm in as little as one session. 

Louise works with what is impacting you energetically, even if you do not currently realize its impact, so that you can clear yourself spiritually, mentally and physically. By clearing these blocks, you can release what is holding you back and rewire your brain for success. 

Join us as we explore the power of muscle testing, biofeedback, and the impact of the spoken word so that you can empower yourself to clear whatever is blocking your goals and intentions for good. 

Have known or unknown energetic blockers been keeping you back from living your full potential? Share your story in the comments below.

In This Episode

  • Learn what biofeedback is and the great impact it can have on your brain
  • Understanding how your thoughts and words are connected to your nervous system
  • Simple ways to muscle test so you can have a fail-proof BS meter at your disposal
  • How to use the B.R.A.I.N. System to empower yourself and clear your blocks
  • Releasing the brain-soul connection from your betrayal to find true healing

Quotes

“When I started releasing the blocks in the field and the brain-soul connections in the field is really when I became more of who I came here to be.” (3:36)

“I started putting them on biofeedback and I started to see their brains change in a different way than I could help them with reading, writing, and spelling. One little guy jumped 2 grades in reading just with biofeedback.” (16:54)

“It’s totally possible to completely change your life and change your energy.” (21:42)

“If you’re not feeling like yourself, or you feel like you are out of balance, keep seeking, find those answers for yourself whatever they are. Everybody has a gift to give. And if you are not using your gifts in the world you are not honoring God.” (32:01)

Links

Louise Swartswalter Website

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Albuquerque Natural Health Center

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