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121: How Mindfulness Helps Us Heal w/ Darrin Ford
You have probably heard of mindfulness as a buzzword before, but have you ever taken the time to explore exactly what the mind is? Darrin Ford is a licensed marriage and family therapist, nationally recognized speaker and internationally recognized author, who is here today to share his knowledge about the utilization of mindfulness when looking for ways to heal.
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You can practice mindfulness while walking, sitting, standing, or lying down. By practicing weaving your mindfulness into your everyday activities, you can change the way you think, act, and react and find more peace. Mindfulness can help you be less reactive to your triggers and help you on your path towards healing.
Darrin knows what it is like to be stuck in a trauma or addiction loop, and is here today to share his knowledge with you so that you can stop feeding into your reactions and start being more present. By adopting an observational relationship with your thoughts, behaviors, and habits, you can better understand your emotions and start to interject mindfulness to better suit your destiny. Time, consistency, and self-compassion are the keys to mindfulness, and with Darrin’s help, you can integrate mindfulness into your daily life seamlessly.
Are you ready to take the time to adapt mindfulness into your life? Share your history with mindfulness with us in the comments below.
In This Episode
- How to recognize when you are not being mindful and become more present
- Tips on ways to incorporate mindful habits into your daily life
- Explore the difference between mindfulness and meditation
- The role of equanimity and neuroplasticity when it comes to mindfulness
- How to practice non-judgment by practicing getting to know your emotions
Quotes
“You start to integrate these small interjections of mindfulness into your life, in small little doses, not in these big formal old fashioned ways. That doesn’t work for our busy lives, it’s not functional.” (6:22)
“It’s not that they wouldn’t feel the emotion connected to the trigger, its the way that we react to that emotion would be different, or would be more constructive versus destructive.” (14:59)
“You are the observer of this moment. You are the thing that sees your thoughts, see your mind’s reaction. You’re the one who has the ability to see that and then once you see it you can make a choice. I’m not saying that’s an easy choice, I’m not saying that when you choose not to react in the addictive, compulsive way, that you won’t feel a lot of emotional distress. You absolutely will. However, that is what’s needed.” (22:30)
“Emotions move us, they are an unconscious feeling that drives our thoughts. Our thoughts manifest into beliefs, our beliefs manifest into behaviors, our behaviors are practiced into habits, and our habits become our destiny.” (24:33)
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119: Healed People, Real People w/ Sue Mocker
Sue Mocker is an author, professional speaker, and hope consultant. Sue works in the spheres of healthcare, ministry, education, and business to make transformational changes in the matters of the heart. After experiencing both marital betrayal and familial betrayal, Sue did the hard work to find hope after healing and is here today to share her knowledge with you.
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Through her humorous and homemade stories, Sue is helping prove that while hurt people may hurt people, healed people can heal people as well. Sue wants you to know that there is a different way to think, be loved, heal, and grow by setting boundaries and honoring the level of treatment that you are deserving of.
By getting out of denial, calling out the lies you tell yourself, and grieving the process of betrayal, you can take giant brave leaps to be healed in a deep way while healing yourself and those around you.
You are worth it to take the time to seek out help and find strength in your healing. Are you ready to do what Sue did and discover what is really true? Let us know what healing options you are exploring in the comments below.
In This Episode
- How to rewire your brain to believe and trust in your worthiness
- The importance of letting down your guard and learning how to just breathe
- Ways that you can enter into the grieving process intentionally and on purpose
- Gain insight into different healing techniques such as EMDR, hypnotherapy and more
- Tips for becoming more familiar about different healing modalities guided by hope
Quotes
“I accepted poor treatment, I accepted things that people should never be accepted for treatment for their body. But what I do know, and what I have learned, is that childhood trauma, childhood sexual abuse, totally distorts the brain, totally changes what you think about yourself, totally reorganizes things in a way that creates a belief system about love, and it distorts it all.” (7:44)
“I started believing and understanding that my childhood trauma actually is connected to healing from this betrayal.” (10:15)
“There are all different kinds of reasons as to why we feel inadequate, insecure, unworthy, in different relationships. And its always helped me in my next step, whatever I was ready for.” (18:58)
“You do have value. There is hope, and there are modalities of healing out there that you may or may not connect too, that you may or may not have heard of, know about. Just find an opportunity to be open for something to be shown to you that is your next step.” (26:50)
“Healed people heal people, healing people heal people, you don’t have to be completely there, you don’t have to have completely arrived, but you are worth it.” (27:43)
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113: Essential Oils & Trauma Recovery w/ Jodi Cohen
Jodi Cohen is one of the bravest people I know, and one of my personal heroes. After losing her son in a devastating accident only 18 months ago, Jodi had to deal with not only the betrayal of expectations when you become a parent, but also the ripple effect her family’s story sent through her community.
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An award-winning journalist, best selling author, functional practitioner, and founder of Vibrant Blue Oils, Jodi has combined her life experiences, training in nutritional therapy, and aromatherapy to create unique proprietary blends of essential oils that have helped tens of thousands of people.
Jodi is all about gaining an understanding of post-traumatic growth and helping others focus on moments of clarity and relief. By getting out of the state of anger created by your mind and emotions, Jodi believes that you can get unstuck and heal in a real and authentic way. If you want to gain an understanding of the many layers of healing that take place, how to deal with outsiders and friends after a betrayal, or gain a sense of Jodi’s strength and resilience, this is the episode for you.
A topic that nobody ever wants to deal with, but that is so important to shed light on, Jodi is here to provide guidance, love, and most importantly, understanding. Do you know someone who would resonate with Jodi’s story? Tag them in the comments below.
In This Episode
- Learn about ‘tissue issue’ people and how to handle their actions during trauma
- Why essential oils are one of the most immediate ways to calm your nerves and mind
- How to get out of the state of anger in your head and ground yourself back to your body
- Tips for creating your own essential oil recipe to help you move through trauma
- The importance of asking for help and relishing in the good moments in life
Quotes
“Who goes out there and publicly broadcasts that you are a hot mess? Who that loves you is going to do that when you are in your deepest darkest hour? It is someone who really liked external validation, really liked the kudos that she got from being able to say she was supporting me.” (10:34)
“There was nothing in between, it was almost like the volume was on mute, or the highest decibel ever. And so just trying to navigate that so that you had more options, more speeds than just super low or super high, by helping yourself kind of center and ground with the oil.” (17:15)
“Its almost like you have to feel safe to really release. Because I think anger is the top layer of fear and sadness, and its almost like a tough nut to crack. Once you can get through that anger, then you can get to the core of the issue, and you can start to release it and move out of it.” (20:20)
“There are always new learning and new skills and peeling off the onion.” (22:32)
“I want to make sure everybody knows that they are not alone, that there is no shame. This is not something that they chose, and that there are periods that will be better, this is not forever.” (30:27)
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110: Traumatic Domestic Survival: Removing the Darkness and Finding the Light w/ Zoe Niklas
Zoe Niklas grew up enduring domestic violence, physical violence, emotional abuse, substance abuse, and sexual abuse. After multiple betrayals and traumatizing incidents involving both her mother and many stepfathers, Zoe harnessed her inner power and was able to break free at age 13. It wasn’t until she was finally taken in by a new family that she was able to embrace the healing power of love and create the life she knew she deserved.
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Author of the book Driving In The Dark: A Childhood Memoir, Zoe is the true epitome of taking trauma and turning it into a life of purpose. Today Zoe is here to share her encouraging, insightful and uplifting perspective with you so that you can understand that even your darkest days can be healed through the strength of true love.
Throughout her journey, Zoe has used the power of the written word and theater to regain her memory, health, and happiness. From driving her mother’s car at 11 years old after she had experienced a seizure while running away to commit suicide, to finding hope and healing in the vision of life that she knew she was destined to live, Zoe’s incredible story is one of trial and triumph.
You can make it through the pain you are experiencing. By taking action and taking control of the course of your life, Zoe is here to provide you with inspiration to get you the help that you need and stop your suffering. How does Zoe’s story inspire you to take your biggest crisis and turn it into your greatest gift? Share how you related to Zoe with us in the comments below.
In This Episode:
- Learn how Zoe made sense of a childhood filled with broken expectations
- Four steps to help you deal with your problems and overcome your trauma
- Ways to embrace your own worthiness and stop questioning your own worth
- Why you don’t have to accept the victim mentality of being ‘scarred for life’
- How to cultivate a vision of the life that you want and are destined to live
Quotes
“They never dissed me or said I was tarnished by my background. They loved me, and that love made me love myself.” (14:51)
“I heard a voice as clear as I am sitting talking to you, and it was like a man speaking in a megaphone in my right ear. And that voice said “get help now”.” (17:33)
“That’s why I say that I am the luckiest person in the world because I knew what I wanted and I followed the way to get there.” (21:47)
“Never stop, never stop trying to save yourself, don’t stop, keep going.” (24:39)
“I am sure there are kids out there that are just as hurt as I was, and I made it, and so I want them to know that it’s okay. You can hurt and you can do all of those things, but you can make it.” (27:39)
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106: Betrayed in the Workplace w/ Holly Bertone
Holly Bertone was on the highest levels of financial management when she was diagnosed with breast cancer. After beginning the journey to recovery while becoming newly engaged, she was diagnosed with the autoimmune disease Hashimoto’s less than a year later. While she expected support from the company that she had worked so hard for, Holly was met with accusations and dismissal.
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The experience of betrayal and bullying in the workplace lead Holly to write her book, Thriving in the Workplace with Autoimmune Disease: Know Your Rights, Resolve Conflict and Reduce Stress. Since then Holly has become a sought after speaker, wellness expert, Amazon bestseller and President and CEO of Pink Fortitude.
Today Holly is here to share her story of overcoming medical adversity, lessons learned from betrayal in the workplace, and how you can thrive in gratitude despite your past experiences. If you have ever experienced workplace betrayal, this is episode is filled with practical information that you can’t miss.
Holly literally wrote the book on your rights and responsibilities in the workplace when dealing with an autoimmune disease or another workplace betrayal, and is passionate about sharing her resources with everyone so that you own your place in the workplace.
Have you experienced workplace betrayal? Share your story with us in the comments below.
In This Episode
- A look into the shifting of priorities after a lifechanging diagnosis or event
- Learn about paid leave during a health crisis, who to speak with for answers and more
- The importance of self-reflection and difficult conversations when dealing with betrayal
- Which offices you should be contacting if you are experiencing workplace discrimination
- How to make sense and peace out of your workplace betrayal and when its time to leave
Quotes
“I just felt this peace that breast cancer was my gift and that this whole life transition was my new gift in life.” (5:45)
“An autoimmune disease is, as they say, the gift that keeps on giving. Cancer kicked my butt temporarily, autoimmune disease was a much bigger, longer journey of kicking my butt.” (8:24)
“You’re supposed to be in a management position, you are supposed to be supporting me, and I have legal documentation telling me that you are supposed to be doing this.” (14:09)
“There are not a lot of resources out there. I tried to find what I could, and its like navigating a sea without a map, you are just in this ocean and you can’t even see land at this point.” (19:20)
“I guess I kind of divorced myself from that connection and said ‘I need to stand on my own two feet during this process’. And I need to be my own advocate and I need to figure things out myself.” (23:06)
“I would not wish my journey on anyone, but I am so grateful that I have been able to go through it.” (24:55)
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105: Self Care and Self Love After Betrayal w/ Tammy Lawman and Brooke Emery
So often we forget to prioritize our own self-love and self-care after a betrayal, but these practices can hold the key to discovering who you are, how to come back to yourself and ways to stop putting other people ahead of you. Self-care is not selfish, it is self-preservation, and with the expert advice of our next guests, you can implement these self-love routines despite your busy schedule and start reaping the rewards.
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Tammy Lawman and Brooke Emery are the co-creators of the Self-Love and Self-Care Symposium, a space dedicated to teaching you how to love yourself more fully, appreciate your unique gifts and take better care of yourself so that you can shine more brightly in the world. Tammy, a business strategist, and marketing expert, and Brooke, a connector and creative business strategist, work together to bring big vision to their clients and provide the fuel necessary to inspire, motivate and transform.
These two self-care experts are here today to give you simple strategies to start giving yourself a little bit more love. By allowing yourself the right to say no, connecting to your forgotten child and putting yourself on your own to-do list, you can start to shine your light brighter in the world. Are you ready to embrace Tammy and Brooke’s simple, easy and free steps so that you can figure out what you want out of your life and go after it?
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In This Episode
- Why saying no and setting boundaries can be a powerful act of self-love
- Ways to prioritize self-care and cultivate self-love within your busy schedule
- Short and brief rituals that can help you get your day back on track
- The importance of starting your day with an uplifting gratitude routine
- How to check in with your inner child and have more fun along the journey
Quotes
“When you are saying no to something else, you are saying yes to yourself.” (6:45)
“For me, to be able to share authentically and connect deeply with another person is the greatest act of self-love.” (11:25)
“Just try it on like an experiment. Just because that works for me, it doesn’t mean it is going to work for that person. But just trying to, maybe drive down a different road, you know? Just experiment with how the morning routine goes, because I really feel that the morning is how things set up.” (22:38)
“We’re sharing all kinds of tips and methodologies, all to help you get back to a place of fully loving yourself more and really learning how to take care of yourself, how to tap into your intuition and how to feel good in your body.” (25:24)
“We believe that when you love yourself you can go out in the world and you can fully love with your whole heart and really share your unique abilities and talents with the world.” (28:55)
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104: Betrayed by Expectations. Me vs. You w/ Maggie Kelly
Maggie Kelly is a mindful life coach, meditation instructor, podcaster, public speaker and awakener. After her son was born with cystic fibrosis, Maggie felt betrayed by her expectations of health for her son. Through meditation and mindfulness practices Maggie was able to turn introspectively to address her fear and dismiss her limiting beliefs.
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Despite what you may think, ultimately you are not in charge. It is only by giving in to this universal power and accepting that you cannot control everything that you can find true peace. Today Maggie is here to provide you with actionable steps so that you can illuminate the roadblocks inside of yourself that are standing in the way of living an envisioned and awakened life.
By returning to the very foundational essence of who you are and what you are capable of, you can tune into what is around you and become at peace with the fact that nothing is permanent, both good or bad. Are you ready to take responsibility for your part in your betrayal and become okay with what happens when life doesn’t fit your perfect picture? Share your thoughts on Maggie’s story with us in the comments below.
In This Episode
- How to make sense and meaning out of a betrayal of expectations and health
- The role of meditation when changing your way of being and creating a shift
- Getting comfortable with the idea that nothing is permanent or lasts forever
- Why it’s a good thing to question your thoughts and stop believing them as fact
- Investigating your role in your own betrayal by turning inward instead of outward
Quotes
“I think that it’s important when we are talking about betrayal and having a breakthrough from that experience or coming out of the grief of having been betrayed, I think it is important for us to stop and be a little mindful as to how did we get there.” (2:49)
“I was living out constant and consistent never-ending fear, that that is what drove the show. The fear always drove the show and that’s when I started to really get in touch with what that fear was about.” (8:03)
“Most of us believe what we think, and very seldom do we check it out with anybody.” (13:16)
“What meditation is about is for you to be able to notice that in that stillness your thoughts start to stray and take you away. And then in that noticing, bringing yourself back to that place of stillness.” (19:23)
“What’s really important when you are thinking that you have been betrayed is for you to actually step back and survey the situation and ask yourself what was my part.” (21:57)
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103: Responsibility vs. Blame: An Example of Rebuilding After Betrayal w/ Eva Medilek
Eva Medilek’s life came crashing down when she found text messages on her husband’s phone suggesting he was in love with another woman. What came next was a painful and messy situation, but through hard work and personal development, they were able to make the decision to do whatever it took to kill their old relationship and create a new one together.
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Now a relationship style success coach, Eva helps other powerful women create a meaningful life by becoming more vulnerable and intimate. Eva is proof that your betrayal can open you up to revealing your greatest gift, and is here today to share her story and wisdom with you.
By staying in the present creation of what you can build, Eva is here to help you stop worrying about the past and start thriving in your future. Everything from the importance of personal development to tools that you can take back to your relationship is on the agenda today as Eva helps you close the intimacy gap.
Passionate about what is possible on the other side of betrayal, Eva wants to help you refocus your energy and persevere through your pain. An inspiring story of forgiveness, trust, and intimacy, this is an episode you don’t want to miss.
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In This Episode
- The importance of finding a therapist that works for both partners
- Why you need to stand in the power of the relationship you want and deserve
- How to have trust in your partner as a highly driven individual
- Why your greatest betrayal can reveal your greatest gift and purpose
- The role of your tribe and why you need to surround yourself with positivity
Quotes
“Once I realized that he was literally falling in love with another woman, my heart was racing, I just really wanted to collapse because I realized that everything that we were working to achieve could be lost. My marriage could end, and I could end up spending all of this time building this dream and end up alone again.” (6:24)
“Your investment is in the relationship, in the relationship that you are both creating together, it is actually not in the person.” (12:26)
“To use that drive to focus on intimacy, vulnerability, and connection in their relationships, and really rechanneling that energy and learning how to shift it.” (19:35
“Diamonds are made from that pressure, and the fire, and that’s where you can create something beautiful.” (22:51)
“I didn’t want this to be hidden and under the rug, life is real and how we show up in life and handle all of the challenges that life brings us, we get in trouble when we try to hide.” (30:10)
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101: Perceived Betrayal, Early Betrayal – What We Learn as Children w/ Michelle Dickinson
Michelle Dickinson is a passionate potter who has worked in the pharmaceutical industry for eighteen years and is the author of the memoir Breaking Into My Life, a rare glimpse into a young girl’s experience living with and loving her bipolar mother. Michelle has overcome years of neglect and confusion surrounding her mother’s mental condition and is here today to share how she came out on the other side a vehement advocate for mental health and ending the stigma.
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Through her self-work and internal healing, Michelle has reached a place of forgiveness and determination to hold space in the mental health community and remove the stigma for those suffering and their caretakers. By transforming her experiences with her mother’s illness from harmful to empowering, Michelle is making massive strides when it comes to providing help to those who need it.
Michelle wants you to be courageous and take the first step towards healing, instead of pretending that what inhibits you doesn’t exist. Out of your greatest messes comes your message, and this episode is all about transformation and gaining the confidence to choose the life you want for yourself instead of the life you know.
You are not your past, and from this moment forward you have the power to create what you want for yourself and claim it as your own. Michelle is here to provide advice, hope and inspire your perseverance so that you too can triumph over what ails you.
How has Michelle inspired you to take your painful experience and turn it into something positive? Share your thoughts with us in the comments below.
In This Episode
- Gain a glimpse into life as a child caregiver for an undiagnosed bipolar parent
- Tips for creating self-care boundaries and practices in the name of self-preservation
- Why you need to let go of the limiting beliefs you may not even know you tell yourself
- Signs that you need to look within yourself and do the hard work of self-discovery
- The importance of abolishing the stigma around mental health and providing help to everyone who needs it
Quotes
“Our needs were always on the back burner. If I had a bad day at school or there was an upset with a girlfriend, that didn’t matter. What mattered was if she had what she needs. So I quickly learned how to hide my own needs and put whatever I needed on the shelf and really just focus on her.” (6:07)
“She kind of gave me permission to create that boundary and that space and love myself and take care of myself, when no one had ever done that for me.” (12:00)
“Self-care wasn’t something that I grew up learning. I was having to learn how to create boundaries and care for myself, this was an act of caring for myself by doing that.” (17:06)
“You don’t realize how these experiences from your youth and your relationship with your mother alter what you believe you can and cannot do in your life.” (21:52)
“I would want every child to know that they are perfect, whole and complete, just as they are, and that their potential is limitless. ” (23:57)
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100: The 7 Greatest Lessons Learned from Recording 100 Episodes w/ Dr. Debi Silber
I can hardly believe that we have reached the 100 episode milestone, and I know that you have learned a lot throughout the amazing array of guests I have been lucky enough to talk to. To celebrate I wanted to share with you the seven greatest lessons I have learned in the past 99 episodes, and provide you with a recap of some of the experts that may be worth revisiting depending on your topic of interest.
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My goal is to provide you with an array of tools and amazing insights so that you can take off your rose-colored glasses and start moving the needle on your healing journey. Everything from divorce to forgiveness and essential oils has been covered in the past 100 episodes, and I am here today to highlight those that are going to help you live a confident and resilient life regardless of your betrayal history.
If you are ready to heal from your betrayal physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually, I am here to help you onto the path of true happiness. No matter what your betrayal you can come out on the other side, and it is through these seven greatest lessons that you can empower yourself to do so.
Are you ready to rediscover the fire within yourself and find the lesson you need to learn in order to heal? Share some of your favorite episodes with us and let us know what topics you want to hear more of in the comments below.
In This Episode
- Recap the biggest takeaways and greatest lessons from the last 99 episodes
- Highlight the non-negotiable importance of support when dealing with betrayal trauma
- Learn the role of the body-mind connection when dealing with betrayal
- Why you should choose empowerment instead of a victim mindset to achieve healing
- Tips for embracing resilience, transformation, and forgiveness when healing from betrayal
Quotes
“Those were the episodes that I feel really shared the depth and importance of relationships and possibility, so if any of those resonated with you, go on in and listen to those again, you will get so much more out of it.” (17:49)
“While it may be impossible to eliminate all of the stress from your life, it is possible to train your brain to handle stressful situations with more grace and ease by employing tools such as regarding your mind before a stressful event and replenishing yourself afterward, you can build up your capacity to cope with the challenges of life.” (28:28)
“There are so many different tools that we can use to heal and that is why hopefully I want you to listen and relisten so that you can find the tools that work for you.” (31:57)
“Going through a betrayal impacts every part of us including physically, mentally and emotionally, and spiritually. When we are not able to heal and release the trauma, it can build up inside our cellular memory and cause illness, disease and unnecessary stress. It is only by treating our symptoms in a holistic way that we can begin to understand the mind-body connection.” (42:49)
“If you feel as though you wear a shield of protective armor that is hiding a fraud, its time to take off your battle uniform and live a life full of authenticity and happiness.” (1:09:22)
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099: Bouncing Back from Self-Betrayal w/ Darrah Brustein
Darrah Brustein is equal parts teacher, connector and founder of Life By Design, Not By Default. After multiple betrayals in the business world including losing her job, embezzlement from her partners, and the lack of faith from her mother, Darrah came out the other side as the embodiment of the power of persistence.
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Now a prolific writer, co-host of a YouTube channel with Deepak Chopra and a profound speaker, Darrah is here to share how you can build a life of your own design. Darrah is passionate about sharing everything that got her to where she is today, from the benefits of business betrayals to embracing your failures and what she learned as a result. After being burned by the people she trusted and a system she believed in, Darrah harnessed her motivation to move forward and leaned into her intuition, and you can too.
The true manifestation of effortlessness, Darrah wants to help you define a life that defines success for yourself, builds a career to help you fund it and attracts a network to support it. No matter the challenges you have faced, success is often right around the corner from failure, but if you stop at failure you will never reach it. Darrah is here to inspire you to create your zone of genius and keep moving forward while embracing the lessons the universe wants you to learn.
Can you relate to Darrah’s story of business betrayal? Head on over to the episode page and let us know what has kept you going or held you back in the comments below.
In This Episode
- Questions you should ask yourself if it seems bad luck is following your every move
- Ways to become comfortable with uncertainty and lean into whatever life throws at you
- Tips for following your intuition and how to use your past to embrace your future
- How Darrah was able to cultivate a dream relationship with Deepak Chopra
Quotes
“I realized that the narrative that I had been taught, and almost spoon-fed my whole life, of you know, kind of the American dream. Go to school, get good grades, get a job, get the house, and so on, happily ever after, was not working for me in any way, shape or form.” (7:22)
“Instead of doing the thing I did the first time and picking the thing that I already knew I was passionate about and trying to make that an enjoyable and fulfilling career, which didn’t work. Let me try and reverse engineer this and try and find things that I am excited about doing and help me feel motivated and energized on a day to day basis and then become excited about the product or service as a result.” (9:09)
“It all came back down to the reputation and that we were building and building and doing it the right with integrity, and someone ripped that out from under us.” (16:57)
“I am a deep believer in where the current is taking you and where momentum exists organically is the cue that you are on the right path. And when it is not, and you are white-knuckling it and when you are swimming upstream is when you are not.” (19:18)
“Look for the evidence in your past to find even a tiny example of when things clicked and worked and how that felt, and let that even be a tiny example for you of how you can build more of that.” (26:05)
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098: Betrayed by the Medical Community w/ Dr. Tom Moorcroft
Have you ever felt dismissed or ignored in the doctor’s office? This can be a form of medical betrayal and can leave many people feeling confused and without answers. Dr. Tom Moorcroft realized the deep connection between mental and emotional symptoms and hidden infections such as Lyme disease and mold and has set out to bring the news to patients and doctors alike to help provide those suffering from the trusting care they deserve.
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It may surprise you that everything from your brain to your heart and your gut are connected. When you experience trauma, betrayal or are infected with a toxin that impacts your immune or digestive system, it can wreak havoc on your body and cause mood changes, sleep disruptions and a whole host of other mental, emotional and physical issues. In this episode Dr. Tom is explaining the science behind physical and behavioral changes due to an illness or infection, the difference between Pandas, Pans, and Polyvagal Theory, and what symptoms to be looking out for.
Get ready to learn something on this episode as we dive into how your doctor’s dismissal to the psychologist’s office could be misplaced, understand how your gut is related to all systems of your body, and explore how to reconnect with your head and heart by healing the disease you may not even know you have.
Just because your doctor may not understand the complexity of your symptoms, it doesn’t mean that they do not exist. Once you are able to understand how the gut, heart, and mind are all connected, you can work to heal yourself from the inside out and give yourself permission to do the things you love again. Has a steal infection or illness impacted you or the ones you love? Share what steps you are taking to find a solution in the comments below.
In This Episode
- Different therapeutic approaches to become grounded in who you are
- How to step away from including your disease as part of your identity
- Understanding the connection between your gut, anxiety, and memories
- Helping to heal your emotions, brain, and heart by first healing your gut
- Altering the biochemical changes in your brain after experiencing a betrayal
Quotes
“A lot of people feel like they have been betrayed by the system. And it’s not so much the system doing the wrong thing on purpose, it’s often that their symptoms are so complex that they don’t understand it.” (2:38)
“I’m not saying don’t do therapy, don’t do the medicines, but also once you do those things that are medically appropriate, also continue to look for the underlying cause.” (8:39)
“If we change what is going on in the gut, it changes our ability to create new memories, retrieve old memories, and also to deal with fear properly.” (17:27)
“Just because someone else is using different words and reacting to an experience different than I am, it doesn’t mean that I am right and they are wrong or vice versa.” (22:53)
“As you open your heart and experience some more joy, your gut will open up.” (27:39)
Links
Dr. Tom Moorcroft Origins of Health Website
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