Have you ever walked into a room and immediately felt the energy? Everything in our world is made up of energy, including our own personal energy vortexes within our bodies. Dr. Ellen Albertson is a psychologist, registered dietitian, national board-certified health and wellness coach, reiki master and mindful self-compassion teacher who knows a thing or two about energy.
Dr. Ellen uses the power of our energy chakras to help women get unstuck and find confidence, energy, and clarity. Dubbed The Midlife Whisperer, Dr. Ellen is here today to explain how betrayal can impact you energetically, and share ways that you can regain your balance and feel more grounded and in control.
By connecting with your deep energetic wisdom you can start to trust your intuition, heal your chakras and implement self-compassion into your daily life. Everything from the way you dress to the amount of self-love you provide yourself can have a huge impact on your ability to heal. If you want actionable ways that you can start to reverse the energetic damage caused by your betrayal, this is an episode you cannot miss.
All of the resources you need to survive are inside of yourself. Are you ready to harness the power of your chakras and start treating yourself like your own best friend? Share how you use the power of your energy and self-compassion to heal with us in the comments below.
In This Episode
“Think about all the cells in your body came from sunlight. Everything you’ve eaten has either come from a plant or an animal that ate a plant, so you really are an energetic being.” (7:03)
“In terms of betrayal, this can really be shut down, because this is where joy lives. So in terms of being betrayed, you kind of feel that whole connection with life force, feeling creative, feeling vibrant is really kaput.” (10:58)
“You can feel these chakras in your body. You are not able to speak your truth, you’re not able to feel connected and communicate with people.” (16:53)
“We can heal and actually create something better, and everything is happening for your highest good.” (19:10)
Abigail Rebecca grew up in a devout Jehovah’s Witness family. When she began to question the strict religious rules and conditions she was expected to live her life by, Abigail was rejected by her family and told that she was a ‘bad association’ for the family.
Instead of going along with a life where she was never allowed to question things, Abigail struck out on her own and decided to create her own rules. This episode is filled with Abigail’s unique and emotional story and sheds a light on what happens when you are betrayed by both your family and your religion.
Now an international coach, speaker and host of The Whole Shebang Project, Abigail helps smart and independent women escape their soul-sucking corporate jobs so that they can live a fulfilled, happy and purposeful life without risking financial security and status. With her Big Change, Small Steps framework, Abigail is here to help you find your way to make a difference in the world while making millions doing it.
If you feel betrayed by your religion, family or upbringing because you were taught something that intuitively didn’t make sense to you, this is an episode that you can’t miss. By making decisions based out of love and not fear and trusting your gut and the fact that you are destined for something greater, Abigail is passionate about helping you listen to your inner voice.
A non-judgemental conversation about free will, questioning the other side of the story you have been told, and trusting yourself, Abigail is the expert you need to hear from. Have you ever felt betrayed by the false truths you were raised to believe? Share your story with us in the comments below.
In This Episode
“Looking back on it, I was completely, completely brainwashed and immersed in this religion that was basically dictating who I could hang around with, who could be my friends, what I should wear, the kind of life that I should lead, the kind of person I should marry. And really held by this fear that if I didn’t adhere to all the rules and the conditions… then eventually when the end of the world happens, that I would die.” (4:35)
“It’s so traumatic because everybody that you love, everybody that you hold dear in the world, just goes away. And you are left in this world that you don’t really understand because you haven’t been brought up like other people.” (13:28)
“I just started to realize that actually what I was taught when I was growing up, around associating with the right people and being careful about who influenced your mind, that was actually right. But they were doing it in a really controlling way, whereas I discovered that actually it was my choice, it was my choice who I wanted to associate with.” (17:28)
“They were doing this out of love because they truly thought it was the right thing. And I think the understanding around that, and not actually blaming them… that was the first thing, and then the second thing was really truly believing in myself that I was destined for more.” (20:00)
“If you are ever in any situation like I was, where you are in any religion or any cult where there is only one side of the story and you are not allowed to question and find out the other side, always find out what the other side of the story is. Because how can you make informed decisions if you only have one side of the story?” (26:46)
Have you ever heard of the DISC assessment? Midori Verity is one of the most innovative and successful marriage and communication coaches out there, who helps couples elevate their relationships by improving communication. Midori uses the DISC assessment to identify personality traits and help her clients adapt and adjust so that they can have a more peaceful and harmonious relationship, and is here today to share her knowledge with you.
If you are feeling unheard in your relationship or need help connecting, Midori’s insight into the four personality types can help you press the reset button and start to develop more support and synergy in your relationship. The DISC assessment can help you understand why your relationship is in trouble, assess what you need to do to move forward, and even help you when making decisions in the future.
By learning about what makes your personality type tick, you can better prepare yourself to find the job or relationship that suits you perfectly, and who doesn’t want that? When it comes to relationships, it is all about the Platinum Rule, which helps you speak the language your partner speaks so that you know you are both being heard and understood.
Are you ready to learn about you and your partner’s personality types and harness that information to start speaking each other’s languages? Share where you fall on the DISC assessment with us in the comments below.
In This Episode
“We all have a different language, we all have a different behavioral style and personality type, and when we can match that, we are going to be listened to more, we are going to be received more, and our conversations are going to be much more successful.” (3:37)
“When you go through challenges in life, whether it’s in your relationship or outside of your relationship it doesn’t matter, but when we go through challenges and we feel stressed, we react differently, that’s why this is so important.” (11:02)
“In general, our natural graphs stay about the same, they will not change that much. But, we can learn techniques to help us improve in certain areas so that we can acquiesce in relationships.” (27:15)
“You have to kind of get to know what you are. I recommend for everybody to take a DISC assessment, even if you did before, take it again. And think about it from a relationship standpoint.” (28:29)
“The way that we see the world, is not how others see the world. So if you are bashing heads with your partner, often just some tweaks in the way that you understand them and the way you respond to them will diffuse situations.” (30:16)
Maggie Kelly is a mindful life coach, meditation instructor, podcaster, public speaker and awakener. After her son was born with cystic fibrosis, Maggie felt betrayed by her expectations of health for her son. Through meditation and mindfulness practices Maggie was able to turn introspectively to address her fear and dismiss her limiting beliefs.
Despite what you may think, ultimately you are not in charge. It is only by giving in to this universal power and accepting that you cannot control everything that you can find true peace. Today Maggie is here to provide you with actionable steps so that you can illuminate the roadblocks inside of yourself that are standing in the way of living an envisioned and awakened life.
By returning to the very foundational essence of who you are and what you are capable of, you can tune into what is around you and become at peace with the fact that nothing is permanent, both good or bad. Are you ready to take responsibility for your part in your betrayal and become okay with what happens when life doesn’t fit your perfect picture? Share your thoughts on Maggie’s story with us in the comments below.
In This Episode
“I think that it’s important when we are talking about betrayal and having a breakthrough from that experience or coming out of the grief of having been betrayed, I think it is important for us to stop and be a little mindful as to how did we get there.” (2:49)
“I was living out constant and consistent never-ending fear, that that is what drove the show. The fear always drove the show and that’s when I started to really get in touch with what that fear was about.” (8:03)
“Most of us believe what we think, and very seldom do we check it out with anybody.” (13:16)
“What meditation is about is for you to be able to notice that in that stillness your thoughts start to stray and take you away. And then in that noticing, bringing yourself back to that place of stillness.” (19:23)
“What’s really important when you are thinking that you have been betrayed is for you to actually step back and survey the situation and ask yourself what was my part.” (21:57)
Eva Medilek’s life came crashing down when she found text messages on her husband’s phone suggesting he was in love with another woman. What came next was a painful and messy situation, but through hard work and personal development, they were able to make the decision to do whatever it took to kill their old relationship and create a new one together.
Now a relationship style success coach, Eva helps other powerful women create a meaningful life by becoming more vulnerable and intimate. Eva is proof that your betrayal can open you up to revealing your greatest gift, and is here today to share her story and wisdom with you.
By staying in the present creation of what you can build, Eva is here to help you stop worrying about the past and start thriving in your future. Everything from the importance of personal development to tools that you can take back to your relationship is on the agenda today as Eva helps you close the intimacy gap.
Passionate about what is possible on the other side of betrayal, Eva wants to help you refocus your energy and persevere through your pain. An inspiring story of forgiveness, trust, and intimacy, this is an episode you don’t want to miss.
Has personal development played a role in your ability to move through your betrayal? Share your story with us in the comments below.
In This Episode
“Once I realized that he was literally falling in love with another woman, my heart was racing, I just really wanted to collapse because I realized that everything that we were working to achieve could be lost. My marriage could end, and I could end up spending all of this time building this dream and end up alone again.” (6:24)
“Your investment is in the relationship, in the relationship that you are both creating together, it is actually not in the person.” (12:26)
“To use that drive to focus on intimacy, vulnerability, and connection in their relationships, and really rechanneling that energy and learning how to shift it.” (19:35
“Diamonds are made from that pressure, and the fire, and that’s where you can create something beautiful.” (22:51)
“I didn’t want this to be hidden and under the rug, life is real and how we show up in life and handle all of the challenges that life brings us, we get in trouble when we try to hide.” (30:10)
Michelle Dickinson is a passionate potter who has worked in the pharmaceutical industry for eighteen years and is the author of the memoir Breaking Into My Life, a rare glimpse into a young girl’s experience living with and loving her bipolar mother. Michelle has overcome years of neglect and confusion surrounding her mother’s mental condition and is here today to share how she came out on the other side a vehement advocate for mental health and ending the stigma.
Through her self-work and internal healing, Michelle has reached a place of forgiveness and determination to hold space in the mental health community and remove the stigma for those suffering and their caretakers. By transforming her experiences with her mother’s illness from harmful to empowering, Michelle is making massive strides when it comes to providing help to those who need it.
Michelle wants you to be courageous and take the first step towards healing, instead of pretending that what inhibits you doesn’t exist. Out of your greatest messes comes your message, and this episode is all about transformation and gaining the confidence to choose the life you want for yourself instead of the life you know.
You are not your past, and from this moment forward you have the power to create what you want for yourself and claim it as your own. Michelle is here to provide advice, hope and inspire your perseverance so that you too can triumph over what ails you.
How has Michelle inspired you to take your painful experience and turn it into something positive? Share your thoughts with us in the comments below.
In This Episode
“Our needs were always on the back burner. If I had a bad day at school or there was an upset with a girlfriend, that didn’t matter. What mattered was if she had what she needs. So I quickly learned how to hide my own needs and put whatever I needed on the shelf and really just focus on her.” (6:07)
“She kind of gave me permission to create that boundary and that space and love myself and take care of myself, when no one had ever done that for me.” (12:00)
“Self-care wasn’t something that I grew up learning. I was having to learn how to create boundaries and care for myself, this was an act of caring for myself by doing that.” (17:06)
“You don’t realize how these experiences from your youth and your relationship with your mother alter what you believe you can and cannot do in your life.” (21:52)
“I would want every child to know that they are perfect, whole and complete, just as they are, and that their potential is limitless. ” (23:57)
I can hardly believe that we have reached the 100 episode milestone, and I know that you have learned a lot throughout the amazing array of guests I have been lucky enough to talk to. To celebrate I wanted to share with you the seven greatest lessons I have learned in the past 99 episodes, and provide you with a recap of some of the experts that may be worth revisiting depending on your topic of interest.
My goal is to provide you with an array of tools and amazing insights so that you can take off your rose-colored glasses and start moving the needle on your healing journey. Everything from divorce to forgiveness and essential oils has been covered in the past 100 episodes, and I am here today to highlight those that are going to help you live a confident and resilient life regardless of your betrayal history.
If you are ready to heal from your betrayal physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually, I am here to help you onto the path of true happiness. No matter what your betrayal you can come out on the other side, and it is through these seven greatest lessons that you can empower yourself to do so.
Are you ready to rediscover the fire within yourself and find the lesson you need to learn in order to heal? Share some of your favorite episodes with us and let us know what topics you want to hear more of in the comments below.
In This Episode
“Those were the episodes that I feel really shared the depth and importance of relationships and possibility, so if any of those resonated with you, go on in and listen to those again, you will get so much more out of it.” (17:49)
“While it may be impossible to eliminate all of the stress from your life, it is possible to train your brain to handle stressful situations with more grace and ease by employing tools such as regarding your mind before a stressful event and replenishing yourself afterward, you can build up your capacity to cope with the challenges of life.” (28:28)
“There are so many different tools that we can use to heal and that is why hopefully I want you to listen and relisten so that you can find the tools that work for you.” (31:57)
“Going through a betrayal impacts every part of us including physically, mentally and emotionally, and spiritually. When we are not able to heal and release the trauma, it can build up inside our cellular memory and cause illness, disease and unnecessary stress. It is only by treating our symptoms in a holistic way that we can begin to understand the mind-body connection.” (42:49)
“If you feel as though you wear a shield of protective armor that is hiding a fraud, its time to take off your battle uniform and live a life full of authenticity and happiness.” (1:09:22)
Darrah Brustein is equal parts teacher, connector and founder of Life By Design, Not By Default. After multiple betrayals in the business world including losing her job, embezzlement from her partners, and the lack of faith from her mother, Darrah came out the other side as the embodiment of the power of persistence.
Now a prolific writer, co-host of a YouTube channel with Deepak Chopra and a profound speaker, Darrah is here to share how you can build a life of your own design. Darrah is passionate about sharing everything that got her to where she is today, from the benefits of business betrayals to embracing your failures and what she learned as a result. After being burned by the people she trusted and a system she believed in, Darrah harnessed her motivation to move forward and leaned into her intuition, and you can too.
The true manifestation of effortlessness, Darrah wants to help you define a life that defines success for yourself, builds a career to help you fund it and attracts a network to support it. No matter the challenges you have faced, success is often right around the corner from failure, but if you stop at failure you will never reach it. Darrah is here to inspire you to create your zone of genius and keep moving forward while embracing the lessons the universe wants you to learn.
Can you relate to Darrah’s story of business betrayal? Head on over to the episode page and let us know what has kept you going or held you back in the comments below.
In This Episode
“I realized that the narrative that I had been taught, and almost spoon-fed my whole life, of you know, kind of the American dream. Go to school, get good grades, get a job, get the house, and so on, happily ever after, was not working for me in any way, shape or form.” (7:22)
“Instead of doing the thing I did the first time and picking the thing that I already knew I was passionate about and trying to make that an enjoyable and fulfilling career, which didn’t work. Let me try and reverse engineer this and try and find things that I am excited about doing and help me feel motivated and energized on a day to day basis and then become excited about the product or service as a result.” (9:09)
“It all came back down to the reputation and that we were building and building and doing it the right with integrity, and someone ripped that out from under us.” (16:57)
“I am a deep believer in where the current is taking you and where momentum exists organically is the cue that you are on the right path. And when it is not, and you are white-knuckling it and when you are swimming upstream is when you are not.” (19:18)
“Look for the evidence in your past to find even a tiny example of when things clicked and worked and how that felt, and let that even be a tiny example for you of how you can build more of that.” (26:05)
Clare Dubé is a financial therapist and founder of Smart Chats, a financial service helping couples and business partners save their finances and their relationships. Clare is an expert in taking financial situations from chaos to clarity and connection due to her own family business betrayal, and she works zealously to help others from making the same mistakes.
Unequal payments and draws in her family business lead Clare to start doing some self-work which prepared her for the ultimate betrayal of being cut out of what she was owed by her brothers, including her children’s college funds. Today Clare is here to shed light on how to keep things fair, embrace your value and start creating some boundaries.
If you have experienced a family or business betrayal and want to start looking at your situation with a different lens so that you can start to ease your pain, Clare’s journey is one you have got to hear. How does Clare’s story of resilience and turning your hardest pain into your greatest gift inspire you to stand up for yourself? Share your thoughts with us in the comments below.
In This Episode
“It was when I started to really work very hard in this business and brought so much value to the business that I was starting to realize that shift was coming. It’s not about my self-worth, it’s the value I am putting forth in this company.” (5:16)
“Its really a deep dive that you have to keep questioning because you can’t just accept the first answer, you have to keep on going.” (7:33)
“I could choose to be a victim in it or I could choose to roll up my sleeves, start my own business and use my value in a way that I knew was best.” (11:42)
“It has to become a boundary, it has to be a lesson learned and it has to be a reminder.” (15:08)
“If you have been betrayed, whether it is in business or relationships, everybody plays a part so question where you are, what part you played, and be a part of it. Don’t take yourself out of the situation.” (19:21)
After being betrayed by what felt like 1,000 cuts, Rachell Kitchen was able to pick herself up and continue fighting. A survivor of extreme violence, divorce, drastic family health issues and even the murder of her father, Rachell is here to share her personal experience in the hopes of empowering you to move your life from chaos to clarity.
Now a speaker, author, life and transition coach as well as the CEO of Level Up 4 Life Coaching, Rachell knows a thing or two about perseverance and the ability to bounce back. Today Rachell is an open book explaining how her series of betrayals showed her the importance of asking for help and avoiding destructive thoughts.
Betrayals or large life transitions can often feel like too much to handle, and it is only by embracing some of the techniques Rachell learned at rock bottom that you can understand the cycle of change and dedicate yourself to showing up in that process.
A beautiful example of healing past post betrayal syndrome and an advocate for never allowing yourself to be victimized, Rachell is here to help you flip that switch and start healing from your traumas. Are you ready to embrace a new recipe for healing and fight your way through the dark side? Share what you loved most about Rachells story in the comments below.
In This Episode
“It just really did feel like a series of betrayals by a thousand cuts, it was coming at me from every angle, and I really just felt victimized.” (3:00)
“You may not like what is happening right now at this moment, but look how rich your life is, look how abundant you do have it.” (12:02)
“You can decide how you like to show up for the day, in that situation, versus acting out and acting in a way that would not honor your values and how you would like to show up.” (16:58)
“My gift that God put me here to do is to share my capacity to love. And how do I do that? By what I do best, helping other women find theirs.” (20:59)
“You do not have to be a victim to your circumstances, you do not have to undervalue the power that you have within, and give the power to the obstacle.” (27:48)
Dr. Corey Allan is a marriage and family therapist, author, speaker and licensed professional counselor with a Ph.D. in family therapy. He and his wife run Sexy Marriage, a podcast and online article resource that aims to help those experiencing difficulties in a partnership and provide resources to work through the dark days to experience more passion and trust in their relationships.
Unfortunately, betrayal has become an increasingly frequent part of any relationship, and it is only by understanding the steps necessary to overcoming partnership betrayal that you can start making the steps that feel best for your unique situation.
Corey believes that marriage is more about becoming a better human than it is about the two people being happy. And when you keep things simple, you can experience more in marriage and life. By learning how to trust yourself again, accepting the cyclical cycle of getting better and becoming a major player in your relationship for your own sake, you can earn back your free choice and start living a life that demonstrates that you are worth choosing.
If you are ready to take the courageous step and ask yourself how your marital betrayal can be used for personal development, Corey is the expert for you. Are you ready to reanalyze what you thought maybe a dealbreaker in your relationship? Share what you learned from Corey in the comments below.
In This Episode
“If they will buy into the fact that the relationship was co-created that helped create the dynamic to where an affair would occur. But whoever it was that was betrayed, it is not their fault, it was a choice by their spouse, by their partner.” (4:13)
“I am the therapist that I don’t hold people’s hands, I come straight at them. I figure you are paying money to get the truth, so lets not sugar coat stuff, that’s speaking to the best in people.” (12:38)
“This isn’t about what was done as much as it is the result, which is their hurt, their pain, their sadness, their disappointment, their grief, their whatever. Because what was has to be grieved, it was lost, so now we have to create something different.” (18:55)
“Affairs are actually symptoms of something else, they are not the main thing, they are a part of the main thing.” (22:33)
Dr. Tarra Bates-Duford has seen her share of betrayal through her career as a forensic psychologist, marriage and family therapist. She has seen first hand the effects of traumatic experiences and the symptoms of re-emergence. Today Dr. Bates-Duford is here to shed some light on her experiences working to stabilize families, navigate mental illness, and help patients recover from abuse in order to get back to daily functioning.
If you have ever been curious about an expert’s opinion on relationship advice for everything from couples to parents to siblings, Dr. Bates-Duford is your girl. All topics are on the table today, including how to confront yourself in the mirror and the best way to get out of that ‘stuck’ state. By digging deep and getting into your own truth, you can take initiative in your relationship and disentangle yourself from the pain you feel today.
Have you ever experienced couples counseling? Let us know how it impacted your relationship in the comments below.
In This Episode
“She found that she couldn’t even meet herself in the eye because she knew what she was saying wasn’t entirely true, she was trying to convince herself that this person wanted to help but couldn’t help.” (7:25)
“Certain people will never put themselves in your shoes. You can still love them, but it doesn’t mean you have to compromise yourself in order to prove that you are a strong and supportive family member.” (8:01)
“If someone else on the outside betrays us it’s really not that big a deal because, at the end of the day, part of us almost feels like we are expecting it because we don’t hold them to the same standard as we do a family member or romantic partner.” (12:15)
“Typically when people come into couples therapy it is at the point of brink, and most marriages won’t survive at that point… you need to get in as soon as you start to have negative feelings.” (21:00)