After finding herself in an abusive relationship that she wasn’t quite sure how she got into, Brittany Blomsterberg realized she had to fully accept and love every part of herself in order to gain the strength to put herself first and get out. Today’s episode is about loving all the parts of yourself, the good the bad and the ugly, because all of those emotions are part of what makes you, you.

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When you start to lose yourself you may begin to feel trapped. While your intuition is trying to get your attention, it can be hard to listen for if you don’t know the right signals. Brittany is sharing all the ways you can begin to ask yourself questions that will guide you in the direction you want to go.

Once you are able to look at your relationships and start making sense and meaning out of your situation, you can then begin to lead yourself to forgiveness. By embracing every component of yourself, including the darkness, you can be a more integrated and accepting person.

What did it take for you to fully accept and love yourself? Let us know in the comments below!

In This Episode

  • Recognizing an abusive relationship and getting out of it
  • How to begin to rebuild trust with your betrayer
  • Being able to better support others through religion and spirituality
  • Why you can’t rush forgiveness or healing
  • Paying attention to your emotions and intuition so that you can stay in check with your body


“During the situation, I knew something was off like energetically I could feel it. But I didn’t have the language and I didn’t understand exactly what that was.” (1:53)

“There is an enmeshment there, and it’s an identity. You know, losing your identity and if you start to become one with this other person who doesn’t have your best interest, you know you can get very easily lost.” (5:15)

“It took me feeling empathetic for myself first. I started being gentle with me, and I started to acknowledge that there was nothing wrong with me.” (10:43)

“I do believe that this particular situation helped me so much in being able to support others in the abuse cycle. Especially women who feel like they’re extremely strong and intellectual, and ‘how could I get here how could this happen?’” (16:10)

“Its a check engine light. It’s telling you something that you need to pay attention to support your entire system. So listen to it, check in with it, be curious about it. Don’t avoid it, don’t be mad at it, don’t disregard it. That is your own intuitive way of being able to protect yourself, support yourself, and making sure you are guided to what is most loving for you.” (19:33)


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