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February 20

Behavior & Mindset

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Navigating the Loss of a Friendship/Relationship after Betrayal

It can be so hard dealing with the loss of a friendship or relationship that has been damaged by betrayal. So where do you begin? Here are seven strategies to keep in mind as you navigate the process of healing and moving forward.

Allow yourself to grieve:

It’s important to acknowledge and honor the loss you are experiencing. Give yourself permission to feel the range of emotions that come with it, whether it’s sadness, anger, confusion, or disappointment. Recognize that healing takes time and that it’s natural to mourn the end of a meaningful connection.

Seek support from people you trust:

Surround yourself with a supportive network of family and friends who can offer comfort, understanding, and a listening ear. Share your feelings and thoughts with those you trust, as talking through your emotions can help in processing the loss and finding solace.

Practice self-compassion:

Be gentle with yourself during this challenging time. It’s common to blame yourself or question your judgment after experiencing betrayal, but it’s important to remember that the actions of the betrayer were not your fault. Treat yourself with kindness, practice self-care, and engage in activities that bring you joy and healing.

Set healthy boundaries:

As you process the loss, it’s crucial to establish clear boundaries to protect yourself emotionally. This may involve limiting contact or completely severing ties with the person who betrayed your trust. Focus on prioritizing your well-being and surround yourself with relationships that are nurturing, supportive, and built on trust. If the betrayer is ready and willing to change, that’s their work to do.

Embrace forgiveness (if and when you’re ready):

Forgiveness is a deeply personal and complex process that takes time. While it may not be an immediate or easy step, consider the possibility of forgiveness as a means of freeing yourself from the weight of resentment and anger. However, forgiveness doesn’t necessarily mean reconciling or reestablishing the relationship. It’s about finding peace within yourself and letting go of the power the pain has over you.

Engage in self-reflection and growth:

Use this experience as an opportunity for self-reflection and personal growth. Consider the lessons you have learned from this betrayal and how they can inform your future relationships. Explore your own values, boundaries, and needs, and commit to nurturing relationships that align with your authentic self.

Seek professional guidance if needed:

This is the type of trauma where healing is done best in community…but the right type of community. Be sure you’re not surrounding yourself with those who drain and deplete you. Or, those who are so tied to their story, you only feel like you belong if you stay in that same place too. For individual support, consider working with a Certified PBT (Post Betrayal Transformation) Coach or Practitioner who specializes in betrayal and relationship trauma. They can provide you with valuable insights, coping strategies, and support tailored to your specific needs (make sure whoever you’re working with is well trained in the proven and predictable 5 Stages from Betrayal to Breakthrough). Well meaning counselors, therapists, etc. may offer great support to help you unpack your story but at some point, it’s important to move to the next Stage vs. continually unpack.

Remember, healing from the loss of a friendship or relationship takes time and is a unique journey for each person. Be patient with yourself as you navigate through the emotions and embrace the opportunity for growth and self-discovery.

Wishing you strength, resilience, and the ability to forge new and meaningful connections as you move through your experience.

Dr. Debi-A Trusted Resource in an Untrusting Niche

Dr. Debi Silber, Founder and CEO of The PBT (Post Betrayal Transformation) Institute and  National Forgiveness Day is a WBENC-Certified WBE (Women’s Business Enterprise), an award-winning speaker, bestselling author, holistic psychologist, a health, mindset and personal development expert who helps (along with her incredibly gifted Certified PBT-Post Betrayal Transformation Coaches and Practitioners) a predictable, proven multi-pronged approach to help people heal (physically, mentally and emotionally) from the trauma of shattered trust and betrayal.

About the author 

Dr. Debi

A Trusted Resource in an Untrusting Niche

Dr. Debi Silber, founder of The PBT (Post Betrayal Transformation) Institute https://thepbtinstitute.com is an award-winning speaker, bestselling author, holistic psychologist, a health, mindset and personal development expert who’s created a proven multi-pronged approach to help people heal (physically, mentally and emotionally) from the trauma of betrayal.

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