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February 2

Rewiring the Brain

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According to Linda Graham, psychotherapist and author of Bouncing Back, resilience is: “The capacity to respond to pressures and tragedies quickly, adaptively and effectively.”

So why do we need to be resilient?

It’s inevitable that in our lifetimes, circumstances will come along that throw us off track. We can lose a job…or lose a loved one. We argue with a coworker…or discover we’ve been betrayed at the deepest level by someone we trusted. At some stage of our lives, we could be struggling with finances…or receive news that forever changes our lives in an instant. Some of these circumstances are easy enough to bounce back from while others can completely derail us. How we handle these life events has a lot to do with our wiring, our beliefs, our worldview, our thoughts, and our conditioning.

We used to believe that our brains were fixed by around age 25. The great news is, through neuroplasticity, we can rewire our brain to harness new ways of coping. This hardwires us so that we can more easily adapt and recover from the less severe stressors as well as recover from trauma.

The more I learn about the brain, the more I respect this amazing organ and its capacity. Years ago I was a believer that “we are who we are” and I’ve since learned that while who we are may have been shaped by lots of influences like family, how we were raised, what we’ve experienced and more, we are in complete control of either staying the same, or changing our brain and propelling forward if we choose to.

So how do we do that

I’ll be covering that in this blog series. Before that, here are the ways the brain is conditioned:

  • Conditioning: This is what the brain does all the time, on its own when we’re going about our day. This is the result of repeated thoughts which over time, have become unconscious beliefs. For example, have you ever noticed how you seem to respond to a particular scenario the same way time after time? That’s conditioning.
  • New Conditioning: Here’s where we learn a new way to work with the brain. Maybe we begin a mindfulness practice, we start to journal, meditate or begin a gratitude practice. We’re creating new wiring which opens the door to a new perspective and new way to think, act, and react.
  • Reconditioning: Here’s where we actually rewire the brain. When we choose to use those new practices instead of those triggers, we lessen the emotional charge the stressors previously caused. For example, maybe when you think of your ex partner, you feel angry, bitter and resentful. With reconditioning, you’re choosing to use one of the tools and strategies you learned. Through new conditioning, the power of the positive emotion you learned through your mindfulness practice for example, is stronger than the negative charge you feel when thinking about your ex. At the very moment you’d normally go to that automatic and negative response, you choose a different response to create a different outcome. Over time, the negative experience loses its emotional charge. The memory will still be there, but the impact and hold it has over you has lost its grip.
  • Deconditioning: Here’s where we’re daydreaming, visualizing and open to new possibilities because we’re using the insights we’re receiving during these mentally relaxed times to implement change. For example, your current insight is a result of the clarity you are feeling. You can formulate and create clarity with your new meditation practice.

Becoming more resilient allows us to better handle how we respond, and handle the challenges we face. Stay tuned for ways to increase your resilience. Continue to hardwire the brain in ways that support you. Bring you closer to the body, health, life, mindset and lifestyle you want most.

Have you started a new conditioning process, like journaling or a mindfulness practice? We’d love to know, comment and share!

About the author 

Dr. Debi

Dr. Debi Silber, founder of The PBT (Post Betrayal Transformation) Institute https://thepbtinstitute.com is an award-winning speaker, bestselling author, holistic psychologist, a health, mindset and personal development expert who’s created a proven multi-pronged approach to help people heal (physically, mentally and emotionally) from the trauma of betrayal.

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