Often when we think of health issues as a symptom of an unhealed betrayal we think on the grand scale of things, including cancer and heart disease. But did you know that everything from IBS, to skin issues, headaches, and chronic fatigue, could be a symptom of something greater? If you have experienced any type of health issue, there is a very good chance that an unhealed betrayal could be at the root of your symptoms.
Inna Topiler is a certified clinical nutritionist practicing a functional medicine approach to health, founder of Complete Nutrition and Wellness, Host of the Health Mysteries Solved Podcast, and so much more. While Inna did not start out to work in functional medicine, it was after a slew of her own health issues and a disappointment with the traditional treatment she received, that her passion to help others get to the root of their underlying health issues and reclaim their health began to take hold.
Today Inna is here to give us a look at the connection between your head and heart and explore the vital roles these connections play in your ability to live your life to the fullest. Chronic illness can be a result of your body betraying you, and it is only by directly addressing these unresolved betrayals that you can remove the physical manifestation of betrayal and start healing your betrayal through loyalty.
If you are struggling with physical symptoms that you just can’t make sense of, Inna wants to encourage you to look into your past betrayals, start understanding the connection between the mind and the body, and acknowledge your symptoms so that you can breathe healing towards it.
Have you ever experienced a bodily betrayal? Share your story of perseverance and determination with us in the comments below.
“I sought out a lot of conventional therapy at first, as a lot of people would, and I was really disenchanted with a lot of the disjointed care that I was getting. I was really frustrated because after months of seeing so many doctors I still had no answers at all. And I was angry, upset, I felt really lost, but this is where I started to feel betrayed.” (3:10)
“With his help, I embarked on this journey to balance my body. Now understanding what was happening, it was really really empowering for me.” (11:28)
“If there is anything going on in the body that normally may not be a problem, it will be an issue because of that weak immune system that we created because of the stress, which is really due to this old betrayal piece that people don’t realize.” (17:42)
“We shouldn’t be afraid to bring up the negative if we are doing it in a way that’s controlled. Almost that we are highlighting it for deletion, that’s how I like to see it.” (22:34)
“Once we feel it, the goal is not to blame it or make it go away. But rather we want to really acknowledge it and almost thank it, in a way, for showing up.” (25:04)
Marie-Ève Bonneau lived for almost a decade with a devastating chronic illness that brought her to the edge of all that she knew. It took rewiring her brain and surrendering deeply for Marie-Ève to allow her experience to transform and to start embracing something entirely new from within herself.
Now a psychotherapist, writer, facilitator, and initiation guide, Marie-Ève works to bring light to the darkness of those ready to transform difficulty into a path of awakening. If you have ever felt like the foundation of your life is crumbling, Marie-Ève’s experience with turning grief into gifts is something you need to hear.
By looking for the reason behind your betrayal, you can transform your mindset just like Marie-Ève and access your inner wisdom and the wisdom of the Universe. Everything from finding your calling through your crisis, taking time to be present with your feelings and how to start accessing your own heart space is on this episode as we explore how to shed, integrate and process into a new state of presence and beingness.
Have you ever felt like your body betrayed you? Share how you related to Marie-Ève’s story with us in the comments below.
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“In those early days it did feel like my body was betraying me, it felt like the divine or maybe even life itself was betraying me, and I really had this sinking feeling that all bets were off.” (4:11)
“It took three years of very intensive treatment to finally make tangible progress, which felt like a miracle because I had tried to hard to dent the symptoms and nothing was working.” (7:38)
“Slowly but surely I started to feel like the clouds were parting, and my energy was returning, and I could function again.” (8:24)
“Instead of seeing it as a betrayal, that my body has betrayed me, I was able to shift that. And from a loving space, to actually attend to myself and attend to my body deeply.” (13:13)
“I started to orient around what I would call my center or my deepest truth, my inner essence. And then to learn to listen deeply and live in a state of reflectivity and connection and to move into the world from that place.” (21:39)
“Catastrophe or challenges that happen, whether it is an illness or something else, it is not a mistake. Ultimately it’s not a betrayal, but that is actually an opportunity.” (26:12)
Sheila Sutherland woke up one day to find that her brain and body had betrayed her, unable to form full sentences and left with pain everywhere except her face and hair. The medical community had a lack of answers and an overindulgence of antibiotics which lead Sheila to venture out on her own and find healing on her own terms.
With over 20 years of experience in the science and education fields, Shiela used her knowledge and the power of holistic medicine to heal her myalgic encephalomyelitis and find peace in the betrayal of her body.
By making meaning out of your trauma and finding what works best for your own healing journey, Sheila is proof of the power of managing your behavior and responses to increase success in both your personal and professional lives. Through meditation, gut healing, kickboxing, nature and more, Sheila is here to provide tangible ways to help you live your life with the utmost happiness.
If you are looking for tools on how to overcome a bodily betrayal or master this thing that we call life, Sheila is the guru you need to help you pay attention to your body and your mind to take back control of your body and your life.
Have you ever dealt with a bodily betrayal? Share your story with us in the comments below.
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“As great as it was that they could put a name on it, the problem was that because it was so rarely diagnosed and not really studied, there was no medical protocol.” (7:34)
“I had a rather strong conversation with my doctor and said, ‘I need to figure this out on my own’. Because unfortunately the traditional medical community doesn’t really have anything for me for this, and I need to try something else because this isn’t working.” (9:29)
“Meditation, like anything, is a practice. You have to do it on a consistent, regular basis. And in doing that my mind finally went, oh, so we can rest a little bit. And it started learning that there was another way to do it.” (16:40)
“Eventually it was, ‘I have to let this go.’ And it took time, it is not an easy, overnight process, but I had to get to the point of ‘I can’t keep holding onto this.’” (24:48)
Dr. Meg Haworth is a wellness expert, nutritional celebrity chef, transpersonal psychologist and best-selling author who is proof that it truly is possible to heal from anything. Having faced over a dozen chronic illnesses, survived childhood sexual abuse and getting struck by lightning, Dr. Meg focuses on holistic wellness solutions for those who have developed a chronic illness as a result of their adverse experiences.
Going through a betrayal impacts every part of us, including physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually. When we are not able to heal and release this trauma it can build up inside of our cellular memory and cause illness, disease and unnecessary stress. It is only by treating our symptoms in a holistic way that we can begin to understand the mind-body connection, and Dr. Meg is here to shine a light on your environment’s ability to alter the core of your being.
Chronic illness as a result of betrayal is something that many struggle with, but it doesn’t have to be that way. If you are ready to heal your mind, body, and soul as one whole entity, Dr. Meg is here to help you find your enlightening power of choice and get to the next level of your healing journey.
Have your past experiences resulted in a physical, mental or emotional illness? Share how you are working to release the past and move forward holistically in the comments below.
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“Most medical practitioners, they are always looking for what is wrong with you physically and how do we help that physically. But it was really the mental, emotional and spiritual issues that were beneath it all that were the biggest thing that unlocked the mystery of my own health.” (3:23)
“I knew I was spinning in anxiety all the time, I knew that I was a wreck on the inside and that the smiling outside didn’t match the inside, I knew all of that. But I didn’t understand how it was wearing away at my physical body.” (7:28)
“That question in that moment really changed the course of my life, because then I decided that I needed to take my healing into my own hands and look at some alternatives or complementary care that might be able to help me actually heal.” (12:14)
“You’re looking at the connection between the mind, the body and the spirit, and the mental emotional and spiritual are really at the core of the experience.” (20:18)
Transformation happens through consistent action, major perspective shifts, and a willingness to adventure into the unknown. Regardless of how much trauma and betrayal you’ve experienced in your life, if you’re willing to put the work in, you will see results. Our guest, Monica Bennett, shares today how she’s worked through her past to now help women overcome theirs.
Monica’s parents were both Holocaust survivors and her childhood was full of fear and uncertainty. She grew up in an unhappy and disappointing environment and later learned that she was generationally passing these traumas onto her daughter. But over the years, she’s learned many coping mechanisms for working through and healing from her trauma.
The way we respond to betrayal can actually become a pattern in our lives; it’s something we get used to. Breaking that pattern helps us move forward. Monica finds that writing three pages of her thoughts every morning helps her make sense of her thoughts. She also shares how other aspects of her life impact how she responds to trauma, including the food she eats.
Monica explains that one of the hardest parts of healing from trauma, for her, was learning who she was outside of it. When you’ve sat in trauma for years, do you really know who you are? She gives us some examples of how she learned who she is. And while it’s not for everyone, Monica worked with a holistic shaman for a number of years to get to the root cause of her trauma.
How have you committed to working through your trauma every day? Let us know what you gained most from Monica’s story in the comments below!
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“Once you start looking and becoming aware of your past betrayal, you have understanding. Once you have understanding, then you have clarity. And once you have the clarity, then you can start to move forward.” (3:00)
“These words, these neuropathways, are so almost hardwired, that slowly we have to learn to disconnect like a wire to a plug in the wall. We have to learn to disconnect slowly.” (15:00)
“Unfortunately, you have to step out into the unknown if you do want to heal. And that’s where the tricky part comes because the unknown can be so uncomfortable, that you’ll come back to the known, even though that is so uncomfortable. But at least it’s familiar.” (18:18)
“I realize that not every day is a good day, but I know I have the insight to navigate the days with gratitude.” (25:39)
Call Monica on 516-297-0672
After a business partnership resulted in the loss of money, security and time with his family, Sachin Patel realized he needed to make a change. Thanks to his emotional imprinting, strong faith in karma and desire to learn from the experience, Sachin has since harnessed the pain of his betrayal into a stronger business and leadership role.
A must-listen for any business owners struggling with resiliency after things didn’t work out the way they expected, Sachin is an inspiring example of how to come back from a betrayal stronger than ever.
Combining his desire to keep people out of the medical system by empowering them through self-care, and his ability to let things roll off his back thanks to emotional imprinting, Sachin is here to explain why following your hunches is usually a good thing.
Has a business relationship or experience soured your ability to move on? Share what inspired you most about Sachin’s story in the comments below!
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“I had to keep a smile on my face the whole time, which was a tough thing to do.” (12:02)
“I was just kind of banking on the fact that ‘hey this could pay off in the long run, and if it does it’s going to pay off big’. And once I realized that it wasn’t, it was time for me to walk.” (13:34)
“When you lie to someone, that’s betraying them. When you lead someone on, that’s betraying them. Even if your intentions are good, if it is not the truth, its betrayal.” (17:59)
“I don’t feel super bad for myself because I learned so much, it was like a $60,000 education I got. And it was through that education that I realized, ‘hey, here is how I can run my business so that I never do this to somebody else’.” (24:14)
“We can use what we have learned to serve us, to make sure that we don’t do it to somebody else, and just create a much better future for ourselves instead of living in the past.” (27:59)
After a betrayal, it takes a willingness from both parties and the ability to hold space for one another’s pain in order to move forward. Anna Osborn is an LMFT, founder of Life Unscripted Counselling and co-creator of Shine Retreat for Women. Anna works to help couples find safety and healing while navigating the tricky waters of rebuilding a relationship after betrayal.
You owe it to yourself to bring your best and healthiest self into the next chapter of your life, with or without your relationship with another. It takes some hard work to find consistency between your words and your actions, but with some effort, you can find peace within the ‘what-ifs’ and actually do the work necessary to heal.
Being able to triage the huge intense wound of a betrayal is possible when you are able to remember what it was like before and rebuild trust after grieving the loss of that chapter in your relationship. If you want to improve your communication, deepen intimacy, heal from betrayal or change your negative patterns of disconnection, Anna is the expert for you.
Have you been betrayed and are considering rebuilding a life with the person that hurt you? Let us know what you gained most from Anna’s insight in the comments below.
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“Although the choices that the betraying partner made are devastating and unfair and all those sorts of things, life is multi-layered.” (7:45)
“There’s a way that the relationship has been breaking down, that has lead to greater vulnerabilities, to where the betraying partner made this choice.” (10:59)
“I really believe that when it comes to this type of work its really about supporting and helping people on the path, to be able to lay something down, because it’s simply too heavy to be able to carry into the future and the relationship that they deserve.” (15:21)
“Part of the healing process is to create enough stillness around to know what you need healing to look like. And that is a day by day journey.” (27:36)
Contact Anna and Mari at info@ShineRetreatForWomen.com
A licensed marriage, family and sex addiction therapist, Mari Lee understands the differences between sex addiction and other forms of addiction such as drugs and alcohol. The founder of Growth Counselling Services and the Shine Women’s Retreat in Laguna Beach, CA, Mari is an expert on helping sex addicts, and their betrayed partners, find clarity and understanding.
This type of trauma can leave many physical, mental and emotional symptoms in its wake, and through the help of professional like Mari you can discover if healing is possible in your relationship. Mari is here to help you rebuild your self-esteem from feelings of rejection and abandonment and help you manage and heal from your betrayal trauma.
Today we dive into the bio-psycho assessment process, sexual dependency inventories and formal disclosure processes so that you can be equipped with the necessary knowledge to take the first steps to recover. When dealing with a sex addict it takes wisdom and insight to figure out how to heal, and Mari is here to help you gain that knowledge.
How has sex addiction impacted your relationship? Share with us in the comments below.
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“When we talk about my specialization, which is working with sex addicts and their betrayed partners, we’re talking about a different level of trauma because a bottle of vodka, for example, doesn’t have a penis or breasts or a vagina.” (5:23)
“All of this information, these messages that we hear that have so much mistruth to them, we really do need to challenge them and show up for ourself.” (17:12)
“It is very likely that they can heal as long as both people are willing to do the work.” (21:59)
“This is truly a labor of love to help women get their feet back on the ground.” (31:43)
Louise Swartswalter has had a 20-year career transforming lives using a unique multi-dimensional approach to helping others cleanse the body mind and spirit of all that is blocking you from achieving your goals.
After using multi-sensory development protocols to help children with dyslexia, Louise realized the same principles could be applied to healing ourselves as well. With this knowledge, Louise created the B.R.A.I.N System and has helped her clients move from anxiety to calm in as little as one session.
Louise works with what is impacting you energetically, even if you do not currently realize its impact, so that you can clear yourself spiritually, mentally and physically. By clearing these blocks, you can release what is holding you back and rewire your brain for success.
Join us as we explore the power of muscle testing, biofeedback, and the impact of the spoken word so that you can empower yourself to clear whatever is blocking your goals and intentions for good.
Have known or unknown energetic blockers been keeping you back from living your full potential? Share your story in the comments below.
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“When I started releasing the blocks in the field and the brain-soul connections in the field is really when I became more of who I came here to be.” (3:36)
“I started putting them on biofeedback and I started to see their brains change in a different way than I could help them with reading, writing, and spelling. One little guy jumped 2 grades in reading just with biofeedback.” (16:54)
“It’s totally possible to completely change your life and change your energy.” (21:42)
“If you’re not feeling like yourself, or you feel like you are out of balance, keep seeking, find those answers for yourself whatever they are. Everybody has a gift to give. And if you are not using your gifts in the world you are not honoring God.” (32:01)
Most of what we are doing comes from our subconscious programming that is largely influenced by our family patterns. Your lineage could be a great indicator of your susceptibility to being betrayed, or being a betrayer, and it is only by understanding it that you can correct your patterns and move forward.
Johanna Lynn is the founder of the Family Imprint Institute and helps her clients resolve painful patterns that can live on in generations as if on repeat. Your unconscious loyalty to a parent, or your ancestral alarm clock, could be having a major impact on the way you make your decisions and your ability to find happiness.
We tend to paint our partner with the same brush of what we didn’t get enough of as a child, and the way you are triggered in a relationship can help you understand the greater forces at play. Invisible factors that you have inherited play a major role in how you make decisions about your life and relationships. Johanna is here to explain exactly how you can take control of those patterns so you can keep the good and get rid of the rest.
Are you ready to be real about your lineage and put your pain to bed? Share what you learned in this episode in the comments below.
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“They say 70% of what goes on in a marriage has to do with each other’s family of origin. But I can tell you, the more years I am in this work, the more I am convinced its a lot more like 99%.” (5:46)
“Until we’ve really recognized, ‘aha, this was the part I brought into the relationship that kind of exploded in front of my face’, were less likely to recreate that in the next relationship.” (11:02)
“We’re doing this not for the ex, were doing this for our children. Children do best with equal access to both parents, and the last thing we want is our children to be on our side against their own father. This is a huge determinant to kids and amplifies the likelihood that they will show up in a similar relationship.” (22:33)
“Betrayal doesn’t have to be the end of your story; perhaps it is the start of a brand new book, with all kinds of new experiences. So make it a learning experience that opens the door to something better.” (26:03)
Donna Martini is a writer, activist, wellness coach and part of the Fab 14. One of the strongest and most inspirational women I know, Donna has shown courage when embracing her childhood and marital betrayals and has been able to stop attracting negativity through a plethora of modalities.
Today Donna is here to share her struggle and how she was able to turn her pain into triumph and transformation. Learn how to positively manipulate your mindset, energy of the heart and soul voice, why you should choose to love unconditionally to help you get through your anger and resentment, ways to surrender to something more powerful than your betrayal, and much more.
Donna is living proof that on the other side of healing, you will discover the strongest, wisest and most empowered version of you. When you make the decision to go forward after betrayal you can set goals, gain self-esteem and trust in the messages and motivation you are receiving.
Are you ready to stop attracting the victim mentality and train your brain and body to hear your soul’s voice? Share what steps you are taking in the comments below.
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“I am happy not to remember everything because it is sometimes painful to go back there. But now I can go back and laugh about it and realize that I was physically changing to survive.” (7:22)
“You just need to willingness, and once you create the willingness and want to follow it, I call it the soul guidance, you lift out of whatever it is you are going through.” (10:22)
“We put on this armor, but I realized our biggest gift is really carrying a shield of love.” (15:57)
“I knew I had to cover betrayal, and it wasn’t easy for me to go there, it didn’t come naturally out. Because it’s just not something I go back to. I don’t think I am blocking it, I think it’s just that I feel so healed about it I don’t think about it anymore.” (31:32)
I’m convinced that there is no one stronger than someone who has healed from a painful experience with betrayal. Every day I work with the most incredible people who are rebuilding their lives after everything they’ve known has been torn down.
1-The person they trusted the most blindsided them.
2-The life they expected has shattered into a million pieces.
3-The dreams they envisioned have been destroyed.
4-Their health, confidence and even their sanity takes a nose dive.
Yet, even with all that, there’s a tiny seed of hope, a glimmer of possibility where although they don’t believe it fully, they think: “Can I heal from this?”
Then they find a reason to try. If not for them, for their children. Anything that can give them incentive to move through this unimaginable pain they never saw coming.
That’s the first step. Then they slowly come to realize that just because it happened TO them, it’s not ABOUT them.
This is a tough one to accept but when they do, they have even more motivation to heal.
They create their own “recipe” of what works for them, learn that although many well meaning people in their lives are trying to help, advice from people who haven’t been through it can do more harm than good.
They find the right support, feel a little better and keep going. They build on it and as they do, they’re regaining their energy, their perspective and slowly creating an entirely new life filled with hope and possibility.
They slowly become a role model, a force to be reckoned with and they eventually learn that while it was done to them and it was never about them, it was actually done FOR them.
They create radiant health, new boundaries, new relationships, new dreams, goals and visions. They’re blown away by their own strength as they learn they’re so much stronger than they thought. They’re ready for new opportunities, new adventures and new possibilities.
They learn that the person who hurt them the most was their greatest teacher and eventually, although they may not want to admit it, they’re grateful for all they learned through this trauma. As they stand up with a strength they never knew they had, they’ve achieved an amazing state of healing-Post Betrayal Transformation (PBT). Everyone around them knows the old version of them no longer exists and if they can’t step up or keep up with them, they simply fade away. This amazing rebuilt soul has an entirely new way to look at life. They’re wary to trust yet go for it anyway. They’re scared of a new opportunity but realize nothing could be nearly as scary as what they’ve just been through. They live more, laugh more, love more as they realize all of this was an incredibly painful yet life altering opportunity to show them just how magnificent they are.
Yep, that’s what healing from betrayal looks like and I’m honored to be among you my fierce cohorts. With love and the deepest admiration for the journey you’re on, you got this.
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