July 17



Betrayal is not the betrayer’s fault. This statement holds true in various aspects of life, whether it be in personal relationships, friendships, or even professional settings. Betrayal is a deeply personal and hurtful experience that can have long-lasting effects on the individual who has been betrayed. It is important to recognize that the responsibility for the betrayal lies solely with the betrayer, and not with the person who has been betrayed.

In this episode, we are joined by Mr. Jay, a beloved Certified PBT Practitioner who works with betrayed individuals and betrayers. He believes it is an obligation to help others navigate through the stages and phases of betrayal or even prevent it from happening. He has a Master’s Degree in Education, a Ministry Credentialed, a Certified Special Education Teacher, Author of a children’s book, a Military Veteran, an Inspirational Public Speaker, an Activist, Wedding Officiant, and Adoptive Parent.

Mr. Jay shares his knowledge and experiences in dealing with trauma and betrayal, emphasizing the importance of sharing, and learning from these experiences. He takes us on a journey through the different stages of healing, emphasizing the transformative power of personal growth. From feeling overwhelmed and exhausted to eventually experiencing life from a new perspective, he illustrates the profound changes that occur when we invest in our own healing. This discussion offers hope and guidance to those who may be in the earlier stages of their healing process, reminding them that there is light at the end of the tunnel.

Listen in as Mr. Jay discusses the stages and foundations of betrayal and offers insights on how to potentially prevent it.

Memorable Quotes

“It’s good to share some knowledge and information. I always say what a waste it would have been if all the lessons I learned from my own trauma and betrayal, I would have took to my grave.” – Mr. Jay

“You are now changing the course of history and the future to ensure your children are not talking to a professional because of the trauma you gave them because you did the hard work. You’re breaking generational curses. So, whether it’s anything about merchandise or big, huge businesses, it could also be, you know what, I when I’m six feet under, I want to be talked about in a completely different way than I would have been if I did not do this healing.” – Mr. Jay

Key Takeaways:

[00:02:04] Preventing betrayal in relationships.

[00:04:23] Whose responsibility is it?

[00:08:52] Unattaching the story of betrayal.

[00:12:02] Attitude trumps action.

[00:14:23] Thinking about drinking poison.

[00:18:00] Real forgiveness and healing.

[00:22:23] Breaking generational curses.

[00:25:10] Rebuilding after betrayal.

[00:27:14] Coveting your energy.

[00:30:16] Transforming and evolving relationships.



Website: https://mrjayrelationshipcoach.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mrjayrelationshipcoach/

YouTube: https://tinyurl.com/xfv8b4vb


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Gabriela Besel

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Gabriela is the front line of it all. She welcomes all new members into the community, gets them onboarded and continues to support them throughout their time spent with PBT.

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