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107: Relationship Harmony or Chaos; A Personality Assessment Tells All w/ Midori Verity
Have you ever heard of the DISC assessment? Midori Verity is one of the most innovative and successful marriage and communication coaches out there, who helps couples elevate their relationships by improving communication. Midori uses the DISC assessment to identify personality traits and help her clients adapt and adjust so that they can have a more peaceful and harmonious relationship, and is here today to share her knowledge with you.
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If you are feeling unheard in your relationship or need help connecting, Midori’s insight into the four personality types can help you press the reset button and start to develop more support and synergy in your relationship. The DISC assessment can help you understand why your relationship is in trouble, assess what you need to do to move forward, and even help you when making decisions in the future.
By learning about what makes your personality type tick, you can better prepare yourself to find the job or relationship that suits you perfectly, and who doesn’t want that? When it comes to relationships, it is all about the Platinum Rule, which helps you speak the language your partner speaks so that you know you are both being heard and understood.
Are you ready to learn about you and your partner’s personality types and harness that information to start speaking each other’s languages? Share where you fall on the DISC assessment with us in the comments below.
In This Episode
- Which personality combinations work well, and don’t work well, in relationships
- Learn how high-stress situations can impact the way in which you communicate
- Why it is important to understand the different personality types of your partner
- Tips for each personality type to communicate in another personality language
- Discover which personality combinations are most likely to experience a betrayal
Quotes
“We all have a different language, we all have a different behavioral style and personality type, and when we can match that, we are going to be listened to more, we are going to be received more, and our conversations are going to be much more successful.” (3:37)
“When you go through challenges in life, whether it’s in your relationship or outside of your relationship it doesn’t matter, but when we go through challenges and we feel stressed, we react differently, that’s why this is so important.” (11:02)
“In general, our natural graphs stay about the same, they will not change that much. But, we can learn techniques to help us improve in certain areas so that we can acquiesce in relationships.” (27:15)
“You have to kind of get to know what you are. I recommend for everybody to take a DISC assessment, even if you did before, take it again. And think about it from a relationship standpoint.” (28:29)
“The way that we see the world, is not how others see the world. So if you are bashing heads with your partner, often just some tweaks in the way that you understand them and the way you respond to them will diffuse situations.” (30:16)
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092: Dating (Each Other) Again After Betrayal w/ Dr. Corey Allan
Dr. Corey Allan is a marriage and family therapist, author, speaker and licensed professional counselor with a Ph.D. in family therapy. He and his wife run Sexy Marriage, a podcast and online article resource that aims to help those experiencing difficulties in a partnership and provide resources to work through the dark days to experience more passion and trust in their relationships.
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Unfortunately, betrayal has become an increasingly frequent part of any relationship, and it is only by understanding the steps necessary to overcoming partnership betrayal that you can start making the steps that feel best for your unique situation.
Corey believes that marriage is more about becoming a better human than it is about the two people being happy. And when you keep things simple, you can experience more in marriage and life. By learning how to trust yourself again, accepting the cyclical cycle of getting better and becoming a major player in your relationship for your own sake, you can earn back your free choice and start living a life that demonstrates that you are worth choosing.
If you are ready to take the courageous step and ask yourself how your marital betrayal can be used for personal development, Corey is the expert for you. Are you ready to reanalyze what you thought maybe a dealbreaker in your relationship? Share what you learned from Corey in the comments below.
In This Episode
- How to view your betrayal like collateral damage rather than a personal attack
- Individual and couple recommendations when experiencing a marital betrayal
- Things that can move the needle on your partnership recovery journey
- A peek into a general timeline for getting over shame, bitterness and more
- Tips for rebuilding trust in a relationship and yourself after a betrayal
Quotes
“If they will buy into the fact that the relationship was co-created that helped create the dynamic to where an affair would occur. But whoever it was that was betrayed, it is not their fault, it was a choice by their spouse, by their partner.” (4:13)
“I am the therapist that I don’t hold people’s hands, I come straight at them. I figure you are paying money to get the truth, so lets not sugar coat stuff, that’s speaking to the best in people.” (12:38)
“This isn’t about what was done as much as it is the result, which is their hurt, their pain, their sadness, their disappointment, their grief, their whatever. Because what was has to be grieved, it was lost, so now we have to create something different.” (18:55)
“Affairs are actually symptoms of something else, they are not the main thing, they are a part of the main thing.” (22:33)
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089: Another Look at Porn Addiction w/ Joshua A. Shea
Joshua A. Shea is a recovering pornography addict who is here to shed a different light on the topic of porn addiction and what goes on inside the mind of a porn addict. Joshua’s 20-year addiction came to a head when he pulled himself off his bipolar medication and engaged an underage girl in an online chat room. Now sober, out of prison and still living with his wife and children, Joshua is here to explain the real motivating factors behind his own personal porn addiction.
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For Joshua, it was never about the pornography or the alcohol but instead about the control he gained from using this material. If you have been hurt by someone’s porn usage or want to gain a better understanding of the decision-making process of a pornography addict, this is an episode you need to listen too.
Despite the fact that many adults look at pornography, it is a topic that nobody wants to talk about. Joshua wants to open up that conversation and shine a light on the problem of pornography addiction to help others who may be struggling as well. If you are the spouse or the partner of a pornography addict, Joshua wants to make sure that you know that it has nothing to do with you and provide you with insights to help you understand that there is no stereotypical addict.
Do you or somebody that you love struggle with pornography addiction? Share this episode with them and let us know how transformation has proven possible for you in the comments below.
In This Episode
- Understanding the role of past trauma, alcohol and control played in Joshua’s addiction
- Why you should not confuse intercourse with a pornography addiction
- Learn how Joshua’s wife handled the situation and did the work to heal
- Explore what recovery looks like now and the importance of being willing to try
- Addressing the way that the Internet is changing society and pornography usage
Quotes
“Pornography and alcohol, they both allowed me to escape someplace else. They allowed me to go somewhere where I was in control. And that ultimately is what my pornography addiction specifically was about my entire life.” (5:07)
“I think I even made the joke back then that all of these different people would only ever meet at my funeral, and they would all have very different stories to share with one another because they all knew different versions of me.” (10:46)
“Despite the magazine falling apart, despite the fact that I was drinking more and my relationships with my family were falling apart, life was crumbling, and the one place that I could exert control was in the middle of the night in these chat rooms.” (17:10)
“I don’t blame the addiction for what I did. The addiction did make me get out of control, it did make me not recognize cause and effect and not recognize what could happen and make poor decisions. However, I made the very poor decision to pull myself off my bipolar medication.” (21:41)
“Despite the fact that the vast majority of people are looking at pornography, everybody wants to pretend that they don’t. And if everybody pretends that they don’t look at pornography, I am not even saying addicts, but if everybody pretends that they don’t look at pornography, how can we even begin to have conversations about pornography addiction?” (29:12)
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Recovering Porn Addict Website
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084: Intimate Deception w/ Dr. Sheri Keffer
Dr. Sheri Keffer‘s life came screeching to a halt when she found out that her new marriage to a pastor was filled with pornography, affairs, and prostitutes. Now a clinical sex addiction therapist and EMDR practitioner in addition to her audience of over two million people per week on her regular co-hosting gig at New Life Live, Dr. Sheri knows what it takes to heal and helps others realize that they are not alone, not crazy and can heal after sexual betrayal.
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The way men and women experience sexual betrayal is very different, and it is only by engaging in a total truth-telling process that you can work to heal yourself and your relationship. The physical and mental symptoms of betrayal can seem overwhelming, but when you equip yourself with the right boundaries and ability to see the truth for what it is, healing is possible.
The process of rebuilding starts with you first, and it is Dr. Sheri’s mission is to give betrayed partners a roadmap to healing and recovery. With tools like EMDR and therapy, Dr. Sheri is here to tell you that you are worth fighting for and it is possible to rebuild with or without the person that hurt you as long as you have the truth first.
Have you or a loved one experienced sexual betrayal? How do you relate to Dr. Sheri’s story of deception and healing through exposing the truth? Share your story with us in the comments below.
In This Episode
- Exploring the shock after a marital sexual betrayal and how to find the right help
- Learn about betrayal blindness is and why it can be so powerful
- Why your well-meaning therapist could be doing more harm than good
- The importance of taking care of yourself and being in a truth-telling process
- How EMDR can help you connect your thoughtful and emotional brain
Quotes
“All of it hurts, but the more intimate, the more emotional, the longer that relationship is, the more compulsive the sexual behavior is. It is harmful to us.” (4:59)
“At some point, I had to wake up from this nightmare I was living in that I really didn’t want to look at.” (10:34)
“A partner who is betrayed needs two things that are critical to heal, like two pillars, they need safety and they need the truth. And until they have those two things, a betrayed partner cannot settle into their body.” (19:17)
“The first step of recovery, whether you are staying with your partner or not, is recovery for yourself. Because you can’t fight for that relationship if you are lying flat on the ground.” (28:32)
“We have to be very proactive in getting in front of good therapists that know what they are doing with sexual deception.” (28:10)
Links
Intimate Deception by Dr. Sheri Keffer
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083: How to Increase Intimacy for Better Relationships w/ Dr. Alexandra Stockwell
Dr. Alexandra Stockwell is a physician turned relationship and intimacy expert who helps committed couples shift their mindset and find the emotional and sensual intimacy that they crave. After watching her nine-year-old daughter’s zest and vibrancy for life, Alexandra realized that she needed to find that spark within herself again if she wanted to foster a healthy and happy life for her children.
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Many people view a long term relationship as a place where passion goes to die, but when you are able to shift your mindset and find peace within yourself, you can bring pleasure and purpose to all aspects of your life.
In this episode, Alexandra explains how children of divorce can often share similar looming thoughts and feelings, how you can be inspired by prioritizing yourself and your connection with your partner and explores the uncharted territory of life after betrayal to be truly honest with the reality of your relationship.
If you want to find hope in intimacy after betrayal, re-establishing your connection as a couple or find the courage to address the real issues within yourself and your relationship, Alexandra is the expert for you. How do you address your own internal betrayals that may be sabotaging your happiness? Share with us in the comments below.
In This Episode
- Common symptoms, fears and looming thoughts found in many children of divorce
- How to prioritize connecting with your partner as two sensual adults
- Addressing the lack of models and information when it comes to an ideal relationship
- Tips for creating a healthy, honest and romantic relationship after betrayal
- The importance of figuring out how you have betrayed yourself first
Quotes
“I knew that if she continued to grow up in my presence, living at home for another nine years, there was no way that she could sustain all of her radiance because there was a part of me that was uncomfortable and unsatisfied.” (7:21)
“Once we have a particular identity… it’s like it ends out vibrations and then things happen that reveal that to us.” (15:01)
“When you want to be great at innovation, there are all kinds of people you might learn from, Elon Musk or whatever. The same thing in sports, in music, but when it comes to relationships, there really is a lack of models worth emulating.” (20:25)
“I want to be able to give people a sense of where to move towards no matter where you are starting.” (30:42)
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Dr. Alexandra Stockwell Website
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077: Moving From Wounds to Empowerment w/ Monica Bennett
Transformation happens through consistent action, major perspective shifts, and a willingness to adventure into the unknown. Regardless of how much trauma and betrayal you’ve experienced in your life, if you’re willing to put the work in, you will see results. Our guest, Monica Bennett, shares today how she’s worked through her past to now help women overcome theirs.
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Monica’s parents were both Holocaust survivors and her childhood was full of fear and uncertainty. She grew up in an unhappy and disappointing environment and later learned that she was generationally passing these traumas onto her daughter. But over the years, she’s learned many coping mechanisms for working through and healing from her trauma.
The way we respond to betrayal can actually become a pattern in our lives; it’s something we get used to. Breaking that pattern helps us move forward. Monica finds that writing three pages of her thoughts every morning helps her make sense of her thoughts. She also shares how other aspects of her life impact how she responds to trauma, including the food she eats.
Monica explains that one of the hardest parts of healing from trauma, for her, was learning who she was outside of it. When you’ve sat in trauma for years, do you really know who you are? She gives us some examples of how she learned who she is. And while it’s not for everyone, Monica worked with a holistic shaman for a number of years to get to the root cause of her trauma.
How have you committed to working through your trauma every day? Let us know what you gained most from Monica’s story in the comments below!
In This Episode
- How to move forward after betrayal
- Why betrayal can impact multiple generations
- How responding to betrayal can become a pattern
- Why writing out morning pages every day can help you understand your betrayal
- How your food habits can impact how your body responds to betrayal
- How you can create your identity outside of trauma
- What mirror work is and how it can help you move through trauma
- What role a shaman can play in working through feelings of betrayal
- Why you need to commit to working through betrayal every day
- What can help you break through old limiting beliefs
Quotes
“Once you start looking and becoming aware of your past betrayal, you have understanding. Once you have understanding, then you have clarity. And once you have the clarity, then you can start to move forward.” (3:00)
“These words, these neuropathways, are so almost hardwired, that slowly we have to learn to disconnect like a wire to a plug in the wall. We have to learn to disconnect slowly.” (15:00)
“Unfortunately, you have to step out into the unknown if you do want to heal. And that’s where the tricky part comes because the unknown can be so uncomfortable, that you’ll come back to the known, even though that is so uncomfortable. But at least it’s familiar.” (18:18)
“I realize that not every day is a good day, but I know I have the insight to navigate the days with gratitude.” (25:39)
Links
The Artist’s Way by Julia Cameron
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076: When Things Go Sideways w/ Sachin Patel
After a business partnership resulted in the loss of money, security and time with his family, Sachin Patel realized he needed to make a change. Thanks to his emotional imprinting, strong faith in karma and desire to learn from the experience, Sachin has since harnessed the pain of his betrayal into a stronger business and leadership role.
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A must-listen for any business owners struggling with resiliency after things didn’t work out the way they expected, Sachin is an inspiring example of how to come back from a betrayal stronger than ever.
Combining his desire to keep people out of the medical system by empowering them through self-care, and his ability to let things roll off his back thanks to emotional imprinting, Sachin is here to explain why following your hunches is usually a good thing.
Has a business relationship or experience soured your ability to move on? Share what inspired you most about Sachin’s story in the comments below!
In This Episode
- How a bad business situation ended up being the best thing that ever happened
- The role emotional imprinting can play in your ability to let things go
- Ways to reverse engineer your betrayal so that it doesn’t happen to someone else
- Tips to become a better business owner and leader despite your hardships
- Having faith in karma and the manifestation of your thoughts
Quotes
“I had to keep a smile on my face the whole time, which was a tough thing to do.” (12:02)
“I was just kind of banking on the fact that ‘hey this could pay off in the long run, and if it does it’s going to pay off big’. And once I realized that it wasn’t, it was time for me to walk.” (13:34)
“When you lie to someone, that’s betraying them. When you lead someone on, that’s betraying them. Even if your intentions are good, if it is not the truth, its betrayal.” (17:59)
“I don’t feel super bad for myself because I learned so much, it was like a $60,000 education I got. And it was through that education that I realized, ‘hey, here is how I can run my business so that I never do this to somebody else’.” (24:14)
“We can use what we have learned to serve us, to make sure that we don’t do it to somebody else, and just create a much better future for ourselves instead of living in the past.” (27:59)
Links
The Living Proof Institute Website
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075: End Emotional Eating w/ Tricia Nelson
You may not know it, but you are somewhere on the emotional eating spectrum. Your ability to dial your eating back is what determines your likeliness to eat again, which is something Tricia Nelson knows all too well.
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The world’s top leading emotional eating expert is here with us today to give us all the knowledge necessary to combat your emotional eating from the root. Tricia has worked for over three decades to understand the hidden causes of the addictive personality. Tricia has identified 24 different personality types that make up the emotional eater, created ways to combat it for good, and is sharing this crucial information with you today.
If you want different results when it comes to your weight and are looking to move beyond where you are now and find happiness, you need to address your emotions and their connection to food. Emotional eating is something you cannot overcome on your own, and Tricia is here to provide support and a proven system to help you overcome your emotional eating and get you through to the other side faster and more successfully.
How did this episode connect to your relationship with food and your emotions? Share with us in the comments below!
In This Episode
- The difference between emotional eating and being a food addict
- How saying no to things can build your self-esteem and confidence
- Ways you can become aware and tap into the emotions behind food
- The most common personality characteristics that make us eat emotionally
- Understanding the direct link between how you are feeling and what you are eating
Quotes
“It wasn’t until I started to address the emotional eating that I was really able to lose the weight and keep it off.” (3:22)
“Those times when we are really eating so much, the sense of shame and guilt that comes with that, it’s so detrimental to our overall self-esteem and our relationships. There’s like a barrier between us. Not just a barrier of fat but a barrier of guilt and shame between us and other people.” (8:45)
“Just somebody listening to this, it is going to heighten their awareness. Somebody who hears this is never going to be quite as in denial in before, and it is hopefully going to start the pattern of healing by just recognizing ‘wow there is more to it than I just like chocolate.’” (13:08)
“It’s okay to be a deep feeler, it’s a beautiful thing if you know how to process your emotions and have a healthy way of dealing with emotions so that you are not overloaded so that you are not absorbing the pain of the world and using food as support.” (21:42)
“The key is getting off of the diet mentality. Stop trying to lose weight and start addressing emotional eating.” (24:08)
Links
Free Guide To Heal Your Hunger
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074: Healing Negative Relationship Messages w/ Anna Osborn
After a betrayal, it takes a willingness from both parties and the ability to hold space for one another’s pain in order to move forward. Anna Osborn is an LMFT, founder of Life Unscripted Counselling and co-creator of Shine Retreat for Women. Anna works to help couples find safety and healing while navigating the tricky waters of rebuilding a relationship after betrayal.
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You owe it to yourself to bring your best and healthiest self into the next chapter of your life, with or without your relationship with another. It takes some hard work to find consistency between your words and your actions, but with some effort, you can find peace within the ‘what-ifs’ and actually do the work necessary to heal.
Being able to triage the huge intense wound of a betrayal is possible when you are able to remember what it was like before and rebuild trust after grieving the loss of that chapter in your relationship. If you want to improve your communication, deepen intimacy, heal from betrayal or change your negative patterns of disconnection, Anna is the expert for you.
Have you been betrayed and are considering rebuilding a life with the person that hurt you? Let us know what you gained most from Anna’s insight in the comments below.
In This Episode
- Signs to learn if your partner is truly being present in your healing journey
- How to gain the emotional understanding of what it means to really hear somebody
- Creating body awareness and the ability to give a voice to your physical sensations
- Suggestions for both the betrayed partner and the betrayer to move on without shame
- Learn ways that you can build or rebuild trust in your relationship and yourself
Quotes
“Although the choices that the betraying partner made are devastating and unfair and all those sorts of things, life is multi-layered.” (7:45)
“There’s a way that the relationship has been breaking down, that has lead to greater vulnerabilities, to where the betraying partner made this choice.” (10:59)
“I really believe that when it comes to this type of work its really about supporting and helping people on the path, to be able to lay something down, because it’s simply too heavy to be able to carry into the future and the relationship that they deserve.” (15:21)
“Part of the healing process is to create enough stillness around to know what you need healing to look like. And that is a day by day journey.” (27:36)
Links
Contact Anna and Mari at info@ShineRetreatForWomen.com
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073: Why Finding a Supportive Tribe Helps You Heal w/ Mari Lee
A licensed marriage, family and sex addiction therapist, Mari Lee understands the differences between sex addiction and other forms of addiction such as drugs and alcohol. The founder of Growth Counselling Services and the Shine Women’s Retreat in Laguna Beach, CA, Mari is an expert on helping sex addicts, and their betrayed partners, find clarity and understanding.
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This type of trauma can leave many physical, mental and emotional symptoms in its wake, and through the help of professional like Mari you can discover if healing is possible in your relationship. Mari is here to help you rebuild your self-esteem from feelings of rejection and abandonment and help you manage and heal from your betrayal trauma.
Today we dive into the bio-psycho assessment process, sexual dependency inventories and formal disclosure processes so that you can be equipped with the necessary knowledge to take the first steps to recover. When dealing with a sex addict it takes wisdom and insight to figure out how to heal, and Mari is here to help you gain that knowledge.
How has sex addiction impacted your relationship? Share with us in the comments below.
In This Episode
- Learn how sex addiction differs from alcohol or drug addiction
- A look into the assessment and treatment process for individuals and couples
- The common denominator between betrayed partners of sexual addiction
- Understanding what self-care means to different people based on your history
- Exploring the role your faith plays in your relationship and values
Quotes
“When we talk about my specialization, which is working with sex addicts and their betrayed partners, we’re talking about a different level of trauma because a bottle of vodka, for example, doesn’t have a penis or breasts or a vagina.” (5:23)
“All of this information, these messages that we hear that have so much mistruth to them, we really do need to challenge them and show up for ourself.” (17:12)
“It is very likely that they can heal as long as both people are willing to do the work.” (21:59)
“This is truly a labor of love to help women get their feet back on the ground.” (31:43)
Links
Healing from Betrayal by Mari Lee
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072: How to Rewire Your Brain After Betrayal w/ Louise Swartswalter
Louise Swartswalter has had a 20-year career transforming lives using a unique multi-dimensional approach to helping others cleanse the body mind and spirit of all that is blocking you from achieving your goals.
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After using multi-sensory development protocols to help children with dyslexia, Louise realized the same principles could be applied to healing ourselves as well. With this knowledge, Louise created the B.R.A.I.N System and has helped her clients move from anxiety to calm in as little as one session.
Louise works with what is impacting you energetically, even if you do not currently realize its impact, so that you can clear yourself spiritually, mentally and physically. By clearing these blocks, you can release what is holding you back and rewire your brain for success.
Join us as we explore the power of muscle testing, biofeedback, and the impact of the spoken word so that you can empower yourself to clear whatever is blocking your goals and intentions for good.
Have known or unknown energetic blockers been keeping you back from living your full potential? Share your story in the comments below.
In This Episode
- Learn what biofeedback is and the great impact it can have on your brain
- Understanding how your thoughts and words are connected to your nervous system
- Simple ways to muscle test so you can have a fail-proof BS meter at your disposal
- How to use the B.R.A.I.N. System to empower yourself and clear your blocks
- Releasing the brain-soul connection from your betrayal to find true healing
Quotes
“When I started releasing the blocks in the field and the brain-soul connections in the field is really when I became more of who I came here to be.” (3:36)
“I started putting them on biofeedback and I started to see their brains change in a different way than I could help them with reading, writing, and spelling. One little guy jumped 2 grades in reading just with biofeedback.” (16:54)
“It’s totally possible to completely change your life and change your energy.” (21:42)
“If you’re not feeling like yourself, or you feel like you are out of balance, keep seeking, find those answers for yourself whatever they are. Everybody has a gift to give. And if you are not using your gifts in the world you are not honoring God.” (32:01)
Links
Albuquerque Natural Health Center
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071: On the Other Side of Betrayal w/ Johanna Lynn
Most of what we are doing comes from our subconscious programming that is largely influenced by our family patterns. Your lineage could be a great indicator of your susceptibility to being betrayed, or being a betrayer, and it is only by understanding it that you can correct your patterns and move forward.
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Johanna Lynn is the founder of the Family Imprint Institute and helps her clients resolve painful patterns that can live on in generations as if on repeat. Your unconscious loyalty to a parent, or your ancestral alarm clock, could be having a major impact on the way you make your decisions and your ability to find happiness.
We tend to paint our partner with the same brush of what we didn’t get enough of as a child, and the way you are triggered in a relationship can help you understand the greater forces at play. Invisible factors that you have inherited play a major role in how you make decisions about your life and relationships. Johanna is here to explain exactly how you can take control of those patterns so you can keep the good and get rid of the rest.
Are you ready to be real about your lineage and put your pain to bed? Share what you learned in this episode in the comments below.
In This Episode
- Recognizing the invisible factors that play into how you make decisions
- Why you shouldn’t jump back into a relationship too soon after your betrayal
- The importance of giving your child equal access to each parent
- What to do if you are noticing narcissistic behavior in yourself or your partner
- Digging into the impact your family lineage could be having on your relationship
Quotes
“They say 70% of what goes on in a marriage has to do with each other’s family of origin. But I can tell you, the more years I am in this work, the more I am convinced its a lot more like 99%.” (5:46)
“Until we’ve really recognized, ‘aha, this was the part I brought into the relationship that kind of exploded in front of my face’, were less likely to recreate that in the next relationship.” (11:02)
“We’re doing this not for the ex, were doing this for our children. Children do best with equal access to both parents, and the last thing we want is our children to be on our side against their own father. This is a huge determinant to kids and amplifies the likelihood that they will show up in a similar relationship.” (22:33)
“Betrayal doesn’t have to be the end of your story; perhaps it is the start of a brand new book, with all kinds of new experiences. So make it a learning experience that opens the door to something better.” (26:03)
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