Gabrielle Hartley is a strong, compassionate advocate coach who, for 25 years, has helped couples reach amicable resolutions during separation or divorce, even leading them to realize that, maybe, the relationship is worth a second try. 

She authored Better Apart: The Radically Positive Way to Separate, a book endorsed by Gwyneth Paltrow herself, and was named “The Conscious Uncoupling How To Book” by People Magazine.

About Guest/Topic

Gabrielle has counseled countless couples over the years and has kept 99% of her cases out of the courtroom and back on the road of second chances and new beginnings. She may not be able to conclude on first glance the fate that awaits a relationship, but by sharing her carefully curated methods of working through the self and the emotions a person has experienced, her clients are able to reach a peaceful resolution, whether it’s by letting go or hanging on. 

In this episode, Gabrielle talks about the positive ways to go through separation, letting go of the pain and resentment and finally finding peace within yourself.

In This Episode

  • Learn how the things that are happening to you may not typically be about you
  • Figure out how you can have a positive experience amidst separation and betrayal 
  • Explore the five elements that will help you navigate the roadmap of your relationship
  • Learn the ways you can forgive someone who has betrayed you and find peace within yourself 
  • Learn why the wrong type of support can do more harm than good


“The possibilities are really endless. The possibilities come from within the person who’s coming to see me.” (02:20)

“Easy now, hard later. Hard now, easy later. Take your pick, it’s going to be one of those two.” (11:10)

“Patience is about slowing down, giving yourself tools to respond rather than react.” (08:30)

“What respect is all about, of course, it’s about you. It’s about building up yourself especially when you feel like garbage after you’ve just been betrayed.” (12:20)

“It’s this concept of death and rebirth and there really is the death of the old relationships, the death of the old you, the death of the expectations and the grieving process that goes along with it.” (20:37)

 “The thing about forgiveness is it’s truly all about you. It is an exercise in being compassionate with yourself.” (23:45)


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