Understanding and Overcoming

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Let’s tackle a topic that often goes unnoticed but can deeply affect us: self-betrayal. It’s a complex dance between how others might betray us and the ways we end up betraying ourselves. We’ll shed light on how self-betrayal shows up in our lives, explore the reasons behind it, and share some thoughts on how to nurture self-awareness and start the healing process.

What is Self-Betrayal?

At its core, self-betrayal happens when we act against our own best interests, even though we know better. It can appear in various forms, like sticking to unhealthy eating habits, staying in draining relationships, or continually choosing activities that bring us down emotionally.

Examples of Self-Betrayal:

  • Eating Habits: Reaching for junk food even when we know it doesn’t make us feel good.
  • Media Choices: Watching shows or consuming media that leave us feeling anxious or scared.
  • Relationship Dynamics: Keeping up with one-sided relationships where we give more than we receive.

Understanding the ‘Why’ Behind Self-Betrayal

Self-betrayal isn’t about character flaws; it’s more about not having the right tools, strategies, or struggling with our self-esteem at the moment. Let’s shift from blaming ourselves to understanding and showing compassion for our struggles.

The Importance of Awareness

Becoming aware of how you feel after betraying yourself is a key step towards change. Those feelings are signals, guiding you to recognize and address self-betrayal.

The Impact of Self-Betrayal

The toll of betraying ourselves can be both emotional and physical. It’s often about dealing with discomfort and stepping into the unknown, which isn’t easy but is definitely worthwhile.

Ways to Overcome Self-Betrayal

  • Getting to the Root: Start by understanding why you fall into patterns of self-betrayal.
  • Making Different Choices: Sometimes, it’s about choosing the lesser of two discomforts to help ourselves grow.
  • Moving Forward: Recognizing the importance of advancing in our personal development for clearer and stronger futures.

Let’s Wrap it Up

As we wrap up, think about where self-betrayal might be playing a role in your life. Using tools like journaling and deep reflection, try to pinpoint actions and thoughts that better align with your truest self. Remember, it’s not about perfection, it’s about progress. Moving in the direction that’s in your best interest, even if it’s incrementally, is worth it. Over time, those “seemingly” small actions add up until you see it, feel it, and live with the new changes, along with the new confidence that’s earned as a result.

Dr. Debi-A Trusted Resource in an Untrusting Niche

Dr. Debi Silber, Founder and CEO of The PBT (Post Betrayal Transformation) Institute and  National Forgiveness Day is a WBENC-Certified WBE (Women’s Business Enterprise), an award-winning speaker, bestselling author, holistic psychologist, a health, mindset and personal development expert who helps (along with her incredibly gifted Certified PBT-Post Betrayal Transformation Coaches and Practitioners) a predictable, proven multi-pronged approach to help people heal (physically, mentally and emotionally) from the trauma of shattered trust and betrayal.

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