If you ask me, fear is the biggest reason we stay stuck in our lives. While fear is at the root of almost everything, it is only by understanding the differences between irrational and realistic fears and constructive and destructive fears that we can reach the power of transformational fear. Dr. Carla Marie Manly is a clinical psychologist, author, and advocate who is here today to help us understand the different types of fear, how to work with them, and how to minimize them so that we can take action in a way that serves us best.
With a direct and honest approach with a dose of humor, Dr. Manly is here to help you navigate the soulful adventure into self-awareness. Instead of getting used to the voice of destructive fear that is prevalent in our society, Dr. Manly wants you to slow down and regain your power over your fear.
When going through a betrayal it is easy to stick to what you know and stay in your pain because it is familiar. Through the application of Dr. Manly’s strategies, you can start to strengthen the constructive over the destructive and stop giving your betrayal wiggle room. It is possible to overcome what is keeping you stuck, and with the help of Dr. Manly, you can gain insight into this challenging topic and find a way to focus on your optimal wellness.
The feelings you are having are universal and nothing to be ashamed of. By pushing through the shame you can start on your journey to healing and the joy that has been in you all along. Are you ready to allow yourself the power of knowing that through perseverance you can find the other side of fear? Share what gave you the most hope from Dr. Manly’s advice in the comments below.
“Unfortunately in this day and age, many of us are being riddled with irrational fears, unrealistic fears, that keep us from change, that keep us stuck and immobilized in life.” (3:05)
“This is the beautiful part about destructive fear. Destructive fear does not like the light. Destructive fear does not like clarity. Destructive fear does not like written agreements at all because destructive fear likes to be able to be manipulative and sneaky.” (12:56)
“When we make goals for ourselves, when we put things in writing, it becomes much more understandable for the psyche. That is why so many of us will make wishlists in our heads or think in our heads and not want to put it in writing. Because the minute we put something in writing, we feel a sense of clarity and accountability.” (19:04)
“There is something beautiful and connective about being held in a safe place where you can hear other women’s stories. Their lows, their successes, and know that if they can do it, I can do it too.” (21:48)
“Everything is to do with a reminder to the self when you get weak, that these are real things that happen. Is that in line with the kind of life I want in my future?” (26:20)
Stories of burnout are becoming increasingly frequent, but the standard medical community often brushes away the symptoms. After experiencing her own personal burnout, Nikole Stanfield realized that she needed to help others improve themselves through the same personal development. Now an Intuition Coach who helps successful business owners and entrepreneurs stop feeling unfulfilled and work through their burnout, Nikole’s passion is helping others love what they do.
In this episode, we will discover the connection between burnout and self-betrayal, learn ways that you can start to decrease your overwhelm in less than 30 minutes a day, and discover how we can break free from expectations to find a more authentic version of yourself. One for all of the people pleasers, type a’s and hard workers out there, Nikole’s advice is not to be missed.
The thoughts you have had in the past may have served you then, but by shifting your thought patterns you can start to go after what you really want and not what you feel obligated to do. While it may feel excruciatingly painful to say no to somebody, by pushing through the uncomfortable, you can start to say yes to yourself instead.
Are you ready to transform from an anchor into a set of wings? Share your experiences with burnout with us in the comments below.
“I’m an overachiever and have done so many things and have been super busy in my life, so this was a totally new place to be, and I had no idea what to do. I was terrified, and I didn’t know how to move forward.” (5:05)
“That’s where I feel like the betrayal came in. That I just ran over myself. And I didn’t listen to anything I wanted or what was best for me.” (9:49)
“When you are an entrepreneur you start taking on all these things that you need to hustle, this concept, you need to make sure that you are wearing all these different hats… and it gets overwhelming, its too much.” (17:07)
“If it doesn’t work for you, it doesn’t work for them. I don’t have to fall on the sword.” (21:39)
“The important part is that you recognize that you are having those thoughts. So then you can say okay, maybe I want to journal about it. Or you talk to someone you care about who will just listen to you. Or you work with a coach, or you meditate on it. Whatever that is, you can start to see how often this guilt is showing up in your life or this phrase that you keep telling yourself.” (25:06)
Dr. Anna Cabeca experienced a hormonal betrayal by her body when she was diagnosed with infertility and early menopause at the age of 38. Refusing to lay down and accept this, Dr. Cabeca started on a personal wellness journey to reduce her menopause side effects, which resulted in the delivery of a baby girl three years after her diagnosis.
After experiencing her own health successes, Dr. Cabeca began counseling others and has since changed the lives of thousands of women across the globe. With her Keto-Green 16 program, Dr. Cabeca can help you lose weight, feel more energetic, and gain the clarity and sense of calm that you have been longing for.
When you feel like you have lost control, taking care of your body and your hormones are one of the top ways that you can start to regain your inner power. Today Dr. Cabeca is here to explain everything from hormones such as cortisol and oxytocin to the benefits of intermittent fasting and building up insulin sensitivity.
By enhancing your physiology and hormonal control you can improve your quality of life, mental state, and more. If you are ready for strategies to help you make lemonade out of your life’s lemons, this is the episode for you. Let us know what you found most interesting about Dr. Cabeca’s knowledge and inspiring story with us in the comments below.
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“When our body is having to make excess insulin, we become insulin resistant. And that increases our risk factors for diabetes, hypertension and Alzheimers and dementia.” (12:39)
“I’ve worked with thousands of patients and honestly everyone can do it, we are designed to do it.” (16:31)
“The piece that surpasses all understanding is nothing in my external environment had changed, but my internal milieu had changed. So the most important for me was this piece.” (19:14)
“This approach of creating insulin sensitivity, managing cortisol, and putting oxytocin in the winners circle so to speak, gave me my life back.” (20:18)
“It takes more than hormones to fix our hormones.” (25:21)
“Physiology drives behavior. So we have to heal the physiology in order, often, to get control of our thoughts and our mental atmosphere, and it does make a difference.” (28:25)
Dr. Michelle Eggenberger is an author, holistic stress and anxiety coach, doctor of oriental medicine, licensed acupuncturist, health coach and certified yoga teacher, just to name a few. After recovering from her own romantic betrayal and a string of health issues, Dr. Michelle realized that it was within her power to find a better way to live.
Through this journey of self-discovery, Dr. Michelle realized the importance of prioritizing self-love and self-worth and has since been on a mission to share her message with the world. Living proof that you can manifest the things you want in life if you work to keep the mind, body, and spirit healthy, Dr. Michelle is here to help you allow the Universe to guide you to where you need to be.
You have the choice to choose yourself and give yourself the happy life that you deserve. Making the decision to prioritize both your mental and physical health while becoming aware of how your thoughts affect you is key to becoming the architect of your own destiny.
Are you ready to allow Dr. Michelle to teach you how to harness the power of your body through yoga, awareness and the mind-heart connection so that you can find joy after your betrayal? Share your self-love and self-compassion tips with us in the comments below.
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“One of the reasons why when we have a romantic betrayal it is so powerful in our own self-worth and all that is because of the vulnerability factor.” (6:05)
“Slowly I started finding the strength to understand my self-worth and my self-love and what I needed to do to step out of that relationship, that that relationship was no longer fit for me.” (10:23)
“We are so perfectly done that our body, when we haven’t been taking care of our mind and our emotions, our body will tell us.” (17:31)
“One of the things that happens when you start doing yoga as a real practice, you start going into the mind-heart connection. And that is where the real magic happens, for everything. That is where the real transformation and real healing happens.” (20:42)
“It’s the thoughts that we create that will create the feelings that we experience, that will create the actions and the reality that we see.” (22:48)
Have you ever felt dismissed or ignored in the doctor’s office? This can be a form of medical betrayal and can leave many people feeling confused and without answers. Dr. Tom Moorcroft realized the deep connection between mental and emotional symptoms and hidden infections such as Lyme disease and mold and has set out to bring the news to patients and doctors alike to help provide those suffering from the trusting care they deserve.
It may surprise you that everything from your brain to your heart and your gut are connected. When you experience trauma, betrayal or are infected with a toxin that impacts your immune or digestive system, it can wreak havoc on your body and cause mood changes, sleep disruptions and a whole host of other mental, emotional and physical issues. In this episode Dr. Tom is explaining the science behind physical and behavioral changes due to an illness or infection, the difference between Pandas, Pans, and Polyvagal Theory, and what symptoms to be looking out for.
Get ready to learn something on this episode as we dive into how your doctor’s dismissal to the psychologist’s office could be misplaced, understand how your gut is related to all systems of your body, and explore how to reconnect with your head and heart by healing the disease you may not even know you have.
Just because your doctor may not understand the complexity of your symptoms, it doesn’t mean that they do not exist. Once you are able to understand how the gut, heart, and mind are all connected, you can work to heal yourself from the inside out and give yourself permission to do the things you love again. Has a steal infection or illness impacted you or the ones you love? Share what steps you are taking to find a solution in the comments below.
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“A lot of people feel like they have been betrayed by the system. And it’s not so much the system doing the wrong thing on purpose, it’s often that their symptoms are so complex that they don’t understand it.” (2:38)
“I’m not saying don’t do therapy, don’t do the medicines, but also once you do those things that are medically appropriate, also continue to look for the underlying cause.” (8:39)
“If we change what is going on in the gut, it changes our ability to create new memories, retrieve old memories, and also to deal with fear properly.” (17:27)
“Just because someone else is using different words and reacting to an experience different than I am, it doesn’t mean that I am right and they are wrong or vice versa.” (22:53)
“As you open your heart and experience some more joy, your gut will open up.” (27:39)
Have you ever considered that your digestive issues could be linked to an unhealed trauma or lack of trust? Dr. Marisol Teijeiro, aka The Queen of the Thrones, is the world leader in passion and gut health and has discovered the hierarchy on how to get healthy. Today Dr. Marisol is here to explain how your past betrayals could be showing up as a gut issue and what you can do to literally let go of your shit.
The thing is, our digestion isn’t just about how we digest our foods. Your digestive system is a representation of how you are digesting your life and can be a clear indicator that you are holding onto something that you need to address.
If you are struggling with any kind of digestive issue, want to understand the emotional component of digestive disorders or want to explore the ultra-sensitive gut-brain connection, you are going to love this episode. With Dr. Marisol’s expertise, you can understand how your stools can show how stressed you are, learn how your body works when responding to trauma and use your betrayal as a way to heal your body and help you find your purpose in this world.
Are you ready to start listening to your gut and transition from shit-show to owning your throne? Share your digestive journey with us in the comment below.
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“Any kind of stressor, emotional or physical, will completely run down the digestive system.” (4:06)
“Our digestion isn’t just about digesting food… it’s a manifestation of how we are digesting our lives.” (5:38)
“If you don’t feel good from a mental, emotional, spiritual level, the place that it is going to manifest for your wakeup call is going to be in your body, bottom line.” (15:49)
“We are each given a gift, and our journeys are part of that gift. And we really need to embrace it and be in the present and realize that what has happened to us, those traumas, are really gifts for us to evolve and it is our mission in this world and it will show us our purpose.” (18:37)
Sheila Sutherland woke up one day to find that her brain and body had betrayed her, unable to form full sentences and left with pain everywhere except her face and hair. The medical community had a lack of answers and an overindulgence of antibiotics which lead Sheila to venture out on her own and find healing on her own terms.
With over 20 years of experience in the science and education fields, Shiela used her knowledge and the power of holistic medicine to heal her myalgic encephalomyelitis and find peace in the betrayal of her body.
By making meaning out of your trauma and finding what works best for your own healing journey, Sheila is proof of the power of managing your behavior and responses to increase success in both your personal and professional lives. Through meditation, gut healing, kickboxing, nature and more, Sheila is here to provide tangible ways to help you live your life with the utmost happiness.
If you are looking for tools on how to overcome a bodily betrayal or master this thing that we call life, Sheila is the guru you need to help you pay attention to your body and your mind to take back control of your body and your life.
Have you ever dealt with a bodily betrayal? Share your story with us in the comments below.
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“As great as it was that they could put a name on it, the problem was that because it was so rarely diagnosed and not really studied, there was no medical protocol.” (7:34)
“I had a rather strong conversation with my doctor and said, ‘I need to figure this out on my own’. Because unfortunately the traditional medical community doesn’t really have anything for me for this, and I need to try something else because this isn’t working.” (9:29)
“Meditation, like anything, is a practice. You have to do it on a consistent, regular basis. And in doing that my mind finally went, oh, so we can rest a little bit. And it started learning that there was another way to do it.” (16:40)
“Eventually it was, ‘I have to let this go.’ And it took time, it is not an easy, overnight process, but I had to get to the point of ‘I can’t keep holding onto this.’” (24:48)
Dr. Meg Haworth is a wellness expert, nutritional celebrity chef, transpersonal psychologist and best-selling author who is proof that it truly is possible to heal from anything. Having faced over a dozen chronic illnesses, survived childhood sexual abuse and getting struck by lightning, Dr. Meg focuses on holistic wellness solutions for those who have developed a chronic illness as a result of their adverse experiences.
Going through a betrayal impacts every part of us, including physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually. When we are not able to heal and release this trauma it can build up inside of our cellular memory and cause illness, disease and unnecessary stress. It is only by treating our symptoms in a holistic way that we can begin to understand the mind-body connection, and Dr. Meg is here to shine a light on your environment’s ability to alter the core of your being.
Chronic illness as a result of betrayal is something that many struggle with, but it doesn’t have to be that way. If you are ready to heal your mind, body, and soul as one whole entity, Dr. Meg is here to help you find your enlightening power of choice and get to the next level of your healing journey.
Have your past experiences resulted in a physical, mental or emotional illness? Share how you are working to release the past and move forward holistically in the comments below.
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“Most medical practitioners, they are always looking for what is wrong with you physically and how do we help that physically. But it was really the mental, emotional and spiritual issues that were beneath it all that were the biggest thing that unlocked the mystery of my own health.” (3:23)
“I knew I was spinning in anxiety all the time, I knew that I was a wreck on the inside and that the smiling outside didn’t match the inside, I knew all of that. But I didn’t understand how it was wearing away at my physical body.” (7:28)
“That question in that moment really changed the course of my life, because then I decided that I needed to take my healing into my own hands and look at some alternatives or complementary care that might be able to help me actually heal.” (12:14)
“You’re looking at the connection between the mind, the body and the spirit, and the mental emotional and spiritual are really at the core of the experience.” (20:18)
Dr. Doni Wilson’s clients report peak energy, restful sleep, optimal weight and memory, enhanced fertility, and an overall sensation of feeling younger. It may shock you, but all of these results are achieved through the management of chronic stress. A celebrated naturopathic doctor, certified midwife, and nutrition specialist, Dr. Doni helps high performers understand their genetic tendencies to recover from stress exposure and cure the physical ailments associated with stress.
The stress you feel on a daily basis impacts every system and organ in your body, and every issue can cause a ripple effect until your stress compiles into physical symptoms. On this episode, Dr. Doni explains exactly how stress impacts your adrenal glands and telomeres, ways your physical inflammation is affecting your anxiety, depression, and sleep and how to find a middle ground with stress where you can outsmart it and recover from it.
When it comes to your health, you cant guess based on the symptoms, you need to find out what is going on so you can see your levels improve and start feeling better. Instead of ignoring your stress and having it potentially develop into something worse, learn how to understand it so that you can go from stress mode to stress recovery.
Dr. Doni establishes steps to take to identify what is needed for you to correct your imbalances and feel better, how to know if unmanaged stress is creating the physical symptoms you have, examples of nutrients you can use to calm your cortisol and balance your hormones, and so much more on this information packed episode.
Have you ever connected the dots between your stress and your physical symptoms? Share how Dr. Doni opened your eyes in the comments below!
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“We can find this middle place with stress where we are actually outsmarting it and were recovering from it and we are staying healthy even though stress is there.” (3:01)
“The good news is, we can reverse and recover from stress.” (11:54)
“We want you to feel better faster and effectively, and so instead of guessing its much better to test.” (16:54)
“It may start as a digestive issue, the next thing you know you are feeling anxious and you can’t sleep, and it feels like its more and more different things going on. But I would say it is one thing, its the effects of stress just compiling in a vicious cycle.” (23:09)
“Instead of just allowing this to happen, you start to realize, hey I have a say here, I can start to make choices that are going to help my body get back to balance.” (27:35)
It wasn’t until the third ‘major crisis wake up call’ in Vince Kramer’s life that he decided to make a change and take back control of his life. After his wife blindsided him with a years-long affair and subsequent divorce, Vince had a hard time shaking off the shame and embarrassment he felt from this betrayal. It wasn’t until he met his new wife, and began asking himself questions of spirituality and enlightenment, that he found his true calling in life.
Now Vince is here to help share his stories and knowledge to help others avoid his blindspots. Often men are told that they need to turn their emotions off and be successful at all costs, and this just isn’t true. Vince is a real-life example of the importance of understanding your feelings, why sometimes it is much more important to listen to a problem than try to solve it, and what you can do to help you forgive yourself and others.
Vince was able to challenge his soul and learned how to tap into your higher self and the divine knowledge of the universe. Today he is ready to help you realize the gift of your life and find your own individual answers from the inside so you can express who you truly are on the inside.
How does your story of betrayal relate to Vince? Let us know in the comments below!
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“I never thought of taking my life in any way, but there were times where it was like, ‘if something happened today, it just wouldn’t be that bad” (6:10)
“When people were looking at us, it looked perfect to them. But there was an always an ache every once and a while you know, there’s got to be more to life than this.” (11:03)
“It was very therapeutic for us, but more importantly it was a divine destiny” (14:57)
“I am important. I have something to bring to the world that the world needs. And it is my responsibility to realize that I co-create every situation.” (21:06)
“I am going to try everything. If it works for me that’s cool; if it doesn’t work for me, alright, I’m not going to do it. But I am going to try everything” (23:56)
Today I am joined by a fellow betrayal expert and podcast host, Anne Blythe, as we reframe betrayal as abuse and explore the often unacknowledged pain that women can be in for years. The founder of Betrayal Trauma Recovery, a 501(c)(3) non-profit organization, Anne is passionate about providing education and support to women who have experienced an abusive betrayal and are seeking healing.
After realizing that she was in an abusive relationship herself, Anne founded Betrayal Trauma Recovery as a means to help women gain the words and acceptance necessary to explain and define an abusive betrayal experience in order to move on and make forward progress. Today she dives in deep as we explore themes of our oversexualized society and its harmful impact on women, the importance of collective grief and support, and why we need to become better educated on what abuse looks and sounds like.
Anne and I are here to make sure that you know that you are not crazy, and you are not alone. Listen in as Anne explains some common forms of abuse found in betrayal situations, ways to identify your abuse and set boundaries, and the importance of believing victims and trusting women. When you are able to educate yourself about abusive betrayal and find a support system of women who have been through it, you can walk through the fog and come out on the other side more aware and present than ever before.
By supporting all women, not just victims, to achieve a happier, healthier and more peaceful life, we can reduce the abuse cycle and resolve our issues at the core. Anne is here to help you circumvent the confusion period after an abusive betrayal and get on the path to feeling safe again.
Are some of the signs and feelings associated with an abusive betrayal sounding familiar to you? Share your thoughts and concerns with us in the comments below!
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“That type of behavior, where you are purposefully manipulating someone to control the narrative of how they perceive you is abuse.” (3:33)
“As I have taken the time to heal, and as I have seen women come to our community and heal, my life has become immeasurably better. I have felt peace and I have moved forward with my life.” (10:54)
“Our community is an amazing place where women can feel validated, and where they can hear their experience through someone else’s words sometimes.” (12:08)
“The misogyny that is rampant right now and the Me Too Movement really shows that people don’t understand the way that objectifying women harms them.” (20:47)
“I have a Masters degree, I am not stupid, and I didn’t know I was being abused. And so many women are in that situation.” (23:44)
“It takes a while to get out of the fog, but I think the important thing is to start walking on that path, and you will be lead to the places and the people that you need to find.” (29:09)
Debora Wayne is an internationally known energy healer and pain release specialist whose expertise lies in helping people rapidly find and remove the hidden causes of their chronic pain, depression, trauma and more. An artist, reiki master, dancer, yoga teacher and founder of the Biofield Healing Institute, Debora is an expert when it comes to the manifestation of emotional wounds into physical ailments.
Everything in our world is energy, and negative energy can become stuck inside of you, with no place to escape. Debora helps her clients tap into this unresolved energy trauma to heal themselves before this energy manifests into a disease or illness in the body. While a physical manifestation of emotion is your bodies way of crying out for help, Debora has created an accurate and fast acting way to heal your biofield energy and change the patterns of your vibrations for good.
Every thought we have creates an emotional reaction inside the body, which releases chemicals and impacts our nervous system, immune system, and more. By equipping yourself with tools to help tap into your unconscious energy fields, identify your unresolved trauma and interrupt your energy patterns, you can release your stuck energy and shift your awareness. Based on the principles of physics and wildly embraced over decades of healing, Debora provides insights to help you alter your energetic pattern and start feeling better almost instantly.
Your chronic back pain or headaches could be a result of unaddressed emotional trauma. By facing your patterns, recognizing your symptoms and being willing to transform, you can heal your bodies energetic information, along with your physical conditions as well.
How does Debora’s work inspire you to dig a little deeper into your past? Share with us in the comments below!
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“I kept trying to force myself into a box, into a world, into a life, that wasn’t right for me, and it almost killed me.” (4:30)
“Our brain does not know how to keep us happy, it just keeps us alive, repeating this same pattern again and again until somebody helps you go deeper and asks you the right questions to get to the root.” (13:13)
“Within seconds I can scan someone’s field, feel exactly where there is a disturbance, and change the vibration and create a harmonious vibration, and the old pattern will get interrupted and drop out of the field.” (21:19)
“We’re very disconnected often times from much of the information that is constantly inside us, and around us, that is affecting us, but we have never learned to pay attention to it.” (25:08)
“We are constantly getting information that is energetic, we just haven’t learned to take it seriously.” (26:49)