PBT and the support found within has saved me. It has shown me the light and taught me the tools I need to succeed and heal. This community offers something that cannot be found elsewhere.


Thank you, Debi! This has been such an enlightening & healing course!

Before I began this course, healing was not possible. So as my final thoughts are expressed, I offer my sincerest appreciate & gratitude for what you do & how you do it. You've changed my life & as I figure out what I am called to do next, which I can now focus on with a clear mind, I wish you nothing but love & blessings moving forward.

Pat ... PA

I was given a lifeline...

This program felt like I was given a lifeline for navigating the treacherous waters of betrayal. When I found myself grappling in the aftermath, I felt lost, alone, and utterly shattered. Countless therapy sessions, with multiple experts, and nobody even mentioned betrayal trauma. But then I discovered this community, and everything changed. All my symptoms and feelings started to make sense. For the first time, I felt heard and understood. Starting this program felt like a beacon of hope in the darkness, guiding me towards a brighter, more fulfilling future.


Finding the PBT Institute was a lifesaver for me. The PBT Institute helped me find my way to a happier, healthier me and a new relationship with my husband. Don’t live another day being miserable - do this for you! The ripple effect on those you love will be incredible.

Debbie K

I went from feeling on the edge and hopeless, to seeing a future I never could have imagined before the betrayal. I have become an entirely new person who is competent in ways I never imagined.

Holly Hirshberg

The PBT Institute gave me a place to be heard and validated. I was assured the things I felt were real and true. I was given a way of thinking, a path forward, that led me toward healing. What I was looking for, that I did not get with any therapy, was a step by step way forward. The PBT community was the ONLY place where you could follow a path.


Top Notch

I have done the Reclaim program and found it to be very helpful and worth the expense. Dr. Debi and her staff are top notch and are very willing and able to help guide you through the devastation of betrayal into a new view on life!
Thanks so much for everything!

Scott S

Thanking for helping me find me again!

I feel ready to move past all that has been holding me back and step into my new future.
I know there are no promises for my future but I do know I am equipped to handle them thanks to you, your program, and your counselors. Thanking for helping me find me again!


I came here from Debi's 5-day Trust Again Challenge and won 1 month of the Standard Membership woohoo! Thank you so much again <3 I was a mess. Felt like I'd been shot. Multiple times from different people. Then, like the hospitals had all disappeared. I felt all alone. And on top of it all, unable to trust. Physically, I was sleeping a LOT. Lost weight. Would forget to eat. Mentally, brain fog 24/7. Lack of concentration. And I used to pride myself on my focus and clarity. Overthinking. Constant rumination on the event(s). It was lovely! I actually did the whole Betrayal to Breakthrough program within 3 weeks. I just got the last module finished today! I know Debi recommends 1 per week, but I wanted to finish it all within the free month, and I just started my gap year so I had the time. I've literally taken up 83 pages in my journal! Whoa, didn't even notice it until now. I'd just had my head down working. The community was also so welcoming, and it was pretty cool to see so many people from different walks of life, stages of life, and stages of healing. I felt so held and supported by the response to my introduction post. I was afraid to reach out given the nature of betrayal, but it was lovely to be held in that moment. After about 2 weeks I'd say? However, I think the results will be most apparent moving forward. Especially since I've just had my head down doing the work. Sense of companionship, reminding me that I'm not crazy. Betrayal to Breakthrough was awesome. The last thing I'd written down (which Debi said) is "I have been rebuilding from the rubble."

Tina Wang ... Australia

This is a priceless investment in yourself. I’ve done more in the program in 2 weeks than in 3 years of therapy and marriage counseling, tons of counseling seminars, tons of money-nothing has helped until this community.


When I started working with PBT six months ago, I was a hot mess. I didn’t trust anyone...especially myself. Fortunately, I chose to invest in myself and over these past months, have done all the work to transform myself into a happy, thriving, confident woman who could not be more grateful and excited about the rest of her life. Thank you, PBT!


Joining PBT was one of the best decisions I could have made. The community was amazingly supportive! So much love, so many with shared experiences. It is POWERFUL knowing you are not alone. I noticed results within a couple of weeks.

Zuzu Monro ... Canada

This experience was amazing for me. I came into The PBT Institute because I was absolutely stuck in Stage 3 and I couldn't make more progress on my own. I had no support and no guidance. I watched several coaching videos and coffee chats everyday. I did every lesson and worksheet more than once to make sure I got to the bottom of my issues. I so much appreciated the support I got in the community. I felt so hopeless at the beginning and felt like I wasn't making any progress until I was watching a coffee chat and realized I have become an entirely different person than I was before. It felt like my whole perspective shifted and locked into a new position of power, peace and strength.


"I'm not going to tell you what a great site, great coaches and an absolutely amazing community you have created, because we all know how true that is. What transpires within this community and the far reaching ripple effect is something one can only experience."


I'm finally starting to feel like myself again. PBT didn't just help me heal from betrayal, it saved my life.


I don't know if I've ever been this happy before. When you said nothing else like this exists, you were so right because I've been to 8 therapists in the last 2.5 years, tried EMDR, and nothing has worked until NOW.

Katie ... WV

Betrayal of two husbands in similar fashion I was a wreck both times after not seeing it coming. Have done some very good work and thought pbt could give the tools to trust again so that I can become a whole person. I looked forward to our daily time with Debi. First exercise let me know there is much I don’t know about myself. To move me further down the path of healing and wellbeing.

Joanie Belair ... Ohio

“I am so grateful for Debi and the coaches at PBT, at one of the lowest points in my life, the universe guided me to one of Debi’s TEDx talks and that lead me to PBT. It was so hard in the beginning and it took me some time to get to a place I felt comfortable having someone else see my pain, but once I did there was no turning back! With the tools and knowing that everyone here (PBT) understood the path I had come from and the new one I was on, I began to feel the support and my own inner strength. Having the classes available to watch at anytime gave me somewhere to go when I needed to shift my energy back to my path and stay focused. I began slowly recognizing patterns and realizing I had a choice to step aside when the environment was abusive, this didn’t have to be my life. Each time I got out of the way of the energy from my abuser and watched with no entanglement, I began to feel empowered to continue getting to know me and my internal ability to feel my power. Power for me is the quiet, peaceful knowledge that helps me feel and focus my thoughts though this process and life. There is so much more I am thankful for within the PBT and know that this is a new beginning that I will continue to foster and I am excited to see the places I am going and the person I am becoming! Thank you again Debi for this beautiful community and all the diversification and accessibility to the information you have developed and continue to create!”



“When I joined I thought I would never recover from my betrayal. I was trapped in stages 1-3 for longer than I knew. Being part of this community was support I needed to envision my best life, and go out and make it happen. I still have a lot of life to live, and I continue to work on myself every day. But I also know I have the strength to make it. I’ve gone from the first D-Day moment, discovery, to the second D-Day, divorce, and now am creating the best version of myself.”


I was ripe and ready for this program. The suffering I have been through has gone on much to long. 22 years is a long time to suffer. This program has helped me learn so much about myself. All of the misbeliefs that I had about myself made me feel so stuck! The bridging exercise, how to use these beliefs to create a new mindset was ingenius. I feel that I have made so much progress and I am only halfway through the program. I think I have progressing because I was so ready and was looking for a way to heal, but I didn't know how to go about it.

Thank you for developing this program of healing from betrayal. It has made a significant impact in the quality of my life. Now I have set so many goals for myself. I am just going to move forward now.

Julie B

I didn’t know where to turn and I know God led me to you, Debi. You have made a huge difference in my life, in the hardest time of my life, and I thank you so very much!

Sharon B.

If you have experienced betrayal of any kind, take this course from Betrayal to Breakthrough. Debi walks hand in hand with you through the 5 Stages of healing and you will come through stronger, more courageous and whole hearted.


This whole thing has opened up other endeavors and avenues in my life. As I gain knowledge, I feel more freed and liberated. I'm grateful for all of this learning and research--as I come to a state of peace--and a new worldview. Thank you, Debi. It's amazing--I'm learning to be happy again--and find a new life in spite of all this. Thank you, Thank you, Debi!!!

Katherine ... MT

I feel so much stronger, calmer, and more focused. I don't feel scared or overwhelmed any more. My boundaries are strong and I have no issue with enforcing them. I have found that if I experience a problem, I can use the skills that I have learned to get to the bottom of why I am feeling that way quickly and I can course correct immediately. Things that were triggers for me, don't even pop up on my radar anymore.


I owe my new life...

I owe my new life to Dr Debi and her crew. All of you all have been great. I was in a terrible spot for 40+ years and have moved on. I have been single for 15 months now and absolutely love it. My health is also improving after high stress for many years!

Don ... PBT Alumnus

I am so grateful!

I am delighted to report that I am feeling so much better, stronger, a new version of me, a new life and a hopeful, empowered future ahead. For many sustained months now. I look back on my years with PBT and learned and 'leaned in' so much from the coaches and members.

I am so grateful for the wisdom, support and roadmap that Dr. Debi created to help us all. Again, I am so grateful!


I can most certainly see Dr. Debi REALLY knows what she's doing and the program is excellent. I've made real progress in such a short time and know that more can be learned to help me. I've been working on this issue for almost 5 years and I can see that this is the best program of all. Dr. Debi has given me hope that things can and will get better.


I was badly betrayed by my husband when I found out he was gay and living in denial. I had a lot of anxiety, digestive issues, and anger that were keeping me stuck! I did all the modules, participated in all the coffee chats, and did the work through the five stages that made it possible to move through my healing journey. I started to have less anxiety and worry as I faced both past betrayals with my parents and with my ex husband It helped me face the betrayal and heal from it! I have new boundaries and a new level of understanding, a new world view!

Pamela Gifford ... PA

I found the PBT Community just when I needed it most. I knew from the instant that I heard there was a coaching certification program that I would take it. I always wanted to coach, and sadly, this is an area where I have a lot of experience. With this certification, I can help others while staying immersed in the work.

Trina Summers ... Certified PBT Coach

Such an impact on my healing journey!

The last two months have had such an impact on my healing journey, and while I am not fully “there” just yet, I now know I AM going to get there, and am so glad that I made the decision to join and find the community, help and support, that I have needed. This is the place where healing can happen and I know that there are so many more of us out there with no roadmap or lighthouse at all.


This Thing no Longer Has a hold on Me.

This thing no longer has a hold on me. I can love and even trust freely again and that is a place I never thought I would get, or even think was good for me to get, 6 months ago. I do see reconciliation in our present/future . I feel better than I have in 20 months and the impact is reduced 99% over what it was at one time


I am about to finish the program and cannot believe the difference that it has made. Between the course and the classes, taking the Trust Again Challenge and reading the Trust Again book it feels like I have been in university for a full degree program. Although I would never wish a betrayal like mine on anyone, and can't believe that this has happened to me, the amount that I have learned about myself, my relationships, what I want and deserve, and that I will okay no matter what happens to me is truly a treasure.


The PBT program is great! Debi made it so easy to understand the 5 stage process we all go through after betrayal. Taking the Betrayal to Breakthrough program helped me to address any residual feelings I may still have had before starting the certification program. Debi made me feel comfortable going to her with any questions I may have and Ling made me feel comfortable going to her with any technical difficulties! Looking forward to continuing my journey with PBT Institute!

Anar Kamani ... Certified PBT Coach

I can’t thank you enough for all you have done for me in becoming my healthiest, transformed personal best. God truly sent one of his most admirable angels, when he created you! I am so tremendously blessed to have done the coursework and the hard stuff of “facing it, feeling it in order to heal it!” You are an inspiration to all.


Thanks for your faith in me and the tough love when it was necessary... Thanks so much for creating this outlet... I can’t imagine where I would be without it.

Mona ... Member

I attended two events where Debi was a speaker, participated in two webinars and one 5 day program, and I have read four of Debi's books and they have made a difference in my life. I enjoyed them all and it helps to write down my experiences and goals. I also visited several of the programs on line. Several things over the last three years had me whirling, Two family illnesses, a death in the family and of course the pandemic was overwhelming. It helped to be busy and thinking things through. I found all of the online classes very interesting. It actually helped to know I was in control of my thoughts. I found that my thinking changed after the week long five day program. It helped me to understand that I needed to heal myself but that I didn't have to do it alone. Many of my problems seemed much more mundane after hearing some of the other issues people were going through. I have great respect for Debi and all her staff.

Mary (Kathy) Hammack ... California

"You cannot imagine how grateful I am for you in my life! I have transformed to a level that I sometimes do not recognize the new Ultimate Light of Pamela. It became clearer to me that I was ready to move on, when I was only adding comments, not asking questions [in the community]. I meditate daily, Pray to God, Journal, walk outside, and have returned to my Yoga practice. When the fear arises and the unknown, I now move to transform fear to excitement. I know very well that my transformation is a lifetime process of growth and change, and I now feel open to face it! Love and Blessings to you and your family!"


PBT Changed My Life!

“I can’t say enough how you and the PBT community changed my life. I could not do this healing journey without you. I was living in despair for 40 years and couldn’t figure out why. I had denied being betrayed and was living a numbed life physically and emotionally. I didn’t know who I was. I was just going through the motions of taking care of my family and didn’t realize I had lost my soul for all those years. I’ve learned through you that betrayal is a different kind of pain. It stripped me of my identity and 40 years of my life.You have given me tools to dig deep within myself to discover my true self. It was crucial that I must acknowledge the pain in order to grow through it. Thanks for “holding my hand” through the 5 stages of betrayal. I never looked at pain as an opportunity for healing. Something I would never have done without your guidance. Thanks
Through all the tears, anger, insecurities and fears you were right there for me. Thanks
Thanks for always encouraging me to push forward. I am sooooo much better than I ever had been. I really like myself. I know longer neglect my feeling. I speak up. I know I deserve to be loved and cared for. I’m not what happened to me. What happened to me were stepping stones upward to opportunities toward happiness and joy. Thank You for guiding me through my healing journey. I am a brand new me and I owe it all to you and the PBT community.

With A Grateful Heart to Dr. Debi and the PBT Community,”

Again I Say Thank You:heart:


I learned to set boundaries with the takers and stopped chasing/associating with some toxic people and life has opened up so much more. I have more time for my fun and loving relationships. I am celebrating how far I have come.

Ila, TX

"The PBT community has offered me the amazing support and encouragement I needed when I was so lost. I do not know where I would be without this healing journey laid out and supported by PBT. PBT has given me hope and a return to vitality, happiness, and a life worth living. I am forever grateful! Thank you, Debi, and team."


I joined 10 months after d-day. I was floundering, getting nowhere. I tried therapy, different communities, groups, videos, podcasts, etc. But still was going in circles. PBT was a godsend. Without PBT, I think I would still be a mess.


The first time I heard you speak I knew I had to join PBT and work with you and I am so grateful that I did. It was nice to work with someone who has been there, gets it and healed in such a positive way. You are a role model and an inspiration to all who are on this journey of what is truly possible. You helped me understand where I am and what I need to do to move forward. The seed has been planted and I am taking better care of myself in so many ways. I am much more focused on where I am going rather than where I have been. Your work has changed my life and I know it will change the lives of many others as well. 🙏

Tracey, MI

I’m so very grateful for you Debi. You’ve created a sanctity for me and for many others. This world needs more people like you. You are a light and a beacon for love, calm, and healing. Thank you for being you and for sharing your gifts with us all. My heart is full ❤️


I will always be grateful...

Thank you. I will always be grateful for finding this community. It is a support system that many need but unfortunately may not always find. There is simply no way my wife or I would be where we are individually or as a couple if it were not for the PBT® Community.


I’m amazed at the level of growth...

I want to thank the whole PBT team. These last 3 months have been incredibly helpful in my healing journey. When I look back at what I was experiencing in December and think about the journey from then until now, I’m amazed at the level of growth and transformation that’s blossomed in my heart, head, and soul. This resource was critical for me at my hardest and most painful moments. I felt so seen, so validated, and so supported. I am a much stronger person as a result of everything I’ve been through and my self-worth and self-confidence are restored, thanks to having this PBT resource.

Andrea ... PBT Alumna

“A month after PBT online was made available to members, I suddenly experienced a trauma response from a flashback of a darker time in my life. During that flashback experience, I asked the universe to guide me to release my trauma. The following day my answer came when I heard Debi for the first time on an online summit. As I heard about the 5 stages of PBT, I received the clarity and awareness that I needed to launch forward from the state of feeling trapped by my trauma experiences. Fortunately I signed up as a member of the PBT online community, which turned out to offer a “buffet” of supportive resources to meet my needs to connect and learn the steps toward transformation and more. This is by far the best online support community I have ever seen or experienced and covers all the bases.”

Kelley G ... CA

After 28 years of "happy marriage", the discovery of multiple betrayals left me totally devastated and not sure who to trust. I couldn't even trust my own intuition. I was so lucky to find the PBT community. The program, classes and coaches are amazing. They gave me the help that I needed to heal, grow and eventually thrive again.


"This has done wonders for me. I was stuck for almost 6 years after my betrayal .
It took One Step of this program to break my everyday pattern of being stuck!! That took a weight off my shoulders that I didn't even know was there. I have been able to heal in ways I never thought was possible for me!! Thank you so much for Everything Debi..I will recommend this program to everyone I know going forward who needs help. Thank you again."

MIchelle C.

I know I would not be in the place I am right now without having found you and your program!!! Thank you for everything- your energy, passion, love and inspiration. You have changed my world for the better and that has meant so much to me!!

Sheri P

When I came into this community, I was a mess. I learned so much and was inspired to grow. I am really a different person now.


Thank you so much for offering your program at the generous price you did just when I was dealing with my husband leaving and friends bombarding me with their opinions, suggestions and appeals to take him back. All that is past now. With your help I found the courage to decide what I truly want and the strength to stay with my vision for my life. I am in a wonderful place now with my kids and I know I will navigate the future with grace and joy.

Irene, TX