What They’re Saying

This community and the support found within has saved me. It has shown me the light and taught me the tools I need to succeed and heal. My journey is far from over but I am not the same person I was when I joined. This community is most definitely one of a kind and offers something that can not be found elsewhere. One of the biggest take aways is that I am not alone, that it is okay to feel the way I feel, and that I am going to be okay - no matter what crosses my path.

I was ripe and ready for this program. The suffering I have been through has gone on much to long. 22 years is a long time to suffer. This program has helped me learn so much about myself. All of the misbeliefs that I had about myself made me feel so stuck! The bridging exercise, how to use these beliefs to create a new mindset was ingenius. I feel that I have made so much progress and I am only halfway through the program. I think I have progressing because I was so ready and was looking for a way to heal, but I didn't know how to go about it.

Thank you for developing this program of healing from betrayal. It has made a significant impact in the quality of my life. Now I have set so many goals for myself. I am just going to move forward now.

“This is a priceless investment in yourself. I’ve done more in the program in 2 weeks than in 3 years of therapy and marriage counseling, tons of counseling seminars, tons of money-nothing has helped until this community. “

"You cannot imagine how grateful I am for you in my life! I have transformed to a level that I sometimes do not recognize the new Ultimate Light of Pamela. It became clearer to me that I was ready to move on, when I was only adding comments, not asking questions [in the community]. I meditate daily, Pray to God, Journal, walk outside, and have returned to my Yoga practice. When the fear arises and the unknown, I now move to transform fear to excitement. I know very well that my transformation is a lifetime process of growth and change, and I now feel open to face it! Love and Blessings to you and your family!"

I was badly betrayed by my husband when I found out he was gay and living in denial. I had a lot of anxiety, digestive issues, and anger that were keeping me stuck! I did all the modules, participated in all the coffee chats, and did the work through the five stages that made it possible to move through my healing journey. I started to have less anxiety and worry as I faced both past betrayals with my parents and with my ex husband It helped me face the betrayal and heal from it! I have new boundaries and a new level of understanding, a new world view!

When I came into this community, I was a mess. I learned so much and was inspired to grow. I am really a different person now. The ability to watch the classes at any time was a lifesaver because I work full time. I would watch a lot of the time at 5 am before starting my day. I was inspired to do yoga, read all kinds of books, journal to help work through all of the feelings and decide where I was going. I worked on a couple of the legs of my table for a long time.

I am about to finish the program and cannot believe the difference that it has made. Between the course and the classes, taking the Trust Again Challenge and reading the Trust Again book it feels like I have been in university for a full degree program. Although I would never wish a betrayal like mine on anyone, and can't believe that this has happened to me, the amount that I have learned about myself, my relationships, what I want and deserve, and that I will okay no matter what happens to me is truly a treasure.

"When I started working with PBT six months ago, I was a hot mess. I didn’t trust anyone...especially myself. Fortunately, I chose to invest in myself and over these past months, have done all the work to transform myself into a happy, thriving, confident woman who could not be more grateful and excited about the rest of her life. Thank you, PBT!"

I joined 10 months after d-day. I was floundering, getting nowhere. I tried therapy, different communities, groups, videos, podcasts, etc. But still was going in circles. PBT was a godsend. Without PBT, I think I would still be a mess.

“I know I would not be in the place I am right now without having found you and your program!!! People ask me how I am doing and they are surprised when I tell them I am doing good. It’s almost like they don’t hear me because then they start saying “I know it’s really hard right now” or they say “Things will get better” and I tell them that I found an awesome person named Dr Debi and her program called PBT Institute. I have been to other counselors and programs, and they feel like it’s a place to bash your partner or all the things they did wrong. I leave feeling worse about the situation I was in, not encouraged that things can get better.The last counselor I went to told me to watch a Youtube video about “Betrayal Trauma”. As soon as she said that I was like “wow” that is exactly what I have gone through. She said that the video was going to explain exactly what I have been going through and all of her patients love it. That video didn’t make any sense at all. I remember thinking “What?” Then the next video started playing and it was Dr Debi’s TEDx talk.She was able to say in words what I had been going through and how I had been feeling. It got me excited to know that finally someone knew and really understood what I am going through. Day 1 of this program has been about healing me as a person, finding my best self and being able to know I really can become that person. No more hashing feelings over and over and over again without any change.Thank you for everything- your energy, passion, love and inspiration. You have changed my world for the better and that has meant so much to me!!”

For the first month, I was learning, the second month, I really changed. Month 2, progress was really fast. One day, I realized I am entirely different now than I was before. It was shocking. It was like everything just locked into place and I had new coping skills, thinking skills and a new perspective. Wow! I went from feeling on the edge and hopeless, to seeing a future I never could have imagined before the betrayal. I have become an entirely new person who is competent in ways I never imagined.

This experience was amazing for me. I came into The PBT Institute because I was absolutely stuck in Stage 3 and I couldn't make more progress on my own. I had no support and no guidance. I watched several coaching videos and coffee chats everyday. I did every lesson and worksheet more than once to make sure I got to the bottom of my issues. I so much appreciated the support I got in the community. I felt so hopeless at the beginning and felt like I wasn't making any progress until I was watching a coffee chat and realized I have become an entirely different person than I was before. It felt like my whole perspective shifted and locked into a new position of power, peace and strength.

The PBT program is great! Debi made it so easy to understand the 5 stage process we all go through after betrayal. Taking the Betrayal to Breakthrough program helped me to address any residual feelings I may still have had before starting the certification program. Debi made me feel comfortable going to her with any questions I may have and Ling made me feel comfortable going to her with any technical difficulties! Looking forward to continuing my journey with PBT Institute!

Betrayal of two husbands in similar fashion I was a wreck both times after not seeing it coming. Have done some very good work and thought pbt could give the tools to trust again so that I can become a whole person. I looked forward to our daily time with Debi. First exercise let me know there is much I don’t know about myself. To move me further down the path of healing and wellbeing.

“If you have experienced betrayal of any kind, take this course from Betrayal to Breakthrough. Debi walks hand in hand with you through the 5 Stages of healing and you will come through stronger, more courageous and whole hearted.”

After 28 years of "happy marriage", the discovery of multiple betrayals left me totally devastated and not sure who to trust. I couldn't even trust my own intuition. I was so lucky to find the PBT community. The program, classes and coaches are amazing. They gave me the help that I needed to heal, grow and eventually thrive again.

"Thanks so much!! It has been quite a journey... and I do remember not even knowing how to introduce my situation... it felt so complex and almost impossible to resolve in any way... but doing the program... attending classes... speaking to coaches... engaging with other members made such a difference... it literally changed my life...To (Coach Michelle) Thanks for your faith in me and the tough love when it was necessary... deep down inside I knew I had it in me... but it was nice to have it confirmed by someone outside my circle of family and friends... To (Coach Peggy) Thanks for the positive vibes and seeing the positive path in my future... that is often the hardest to see when struggling with post-betrayal trauma... To (Member Jane) Thanks for being a witness to this transformation and a co-warrior on this path toward our great future...To (Community Engagement Manager Stephanie) Thanks for being you and being at once encouraging and cautious when necessary... and Debi...Thanks so much for creating this outlet... I can’t imagine where I would be without it."

“I am so grateful for Debi and the coaches at PBT, at one of the lowest points in my life, the universe guided me to one of Debi’s TEDx talks and that lead me to PBT. It was so hard in the beginning and it took me some time to get to a place I felt comfortable having someone else see my pain, but once I did there was no turning back! With the tools and knowing that everyone here (PBT) understood the path I had come from and the new one I was on, I began to feel the support and my own inner strength. Having the classes available to watch at anytime gave me somewhere to go when I needed to shift my energy back to my path and stay focused. I began slowly recognizing patterns and realizing I had a choice to step aside when the environment was abusive, this didn’t have to be my life. Each time I got out of the way of the energy from my abuser and watched with no entanglement, I began to feel empowered to continue getting to know me and my internal ability to feel my power. Power for me is the quiet, peaceful knowledge that helps me feel and focus my thoughts though this process and life. There is so much more I am thankful for within the PBT and know that this is a new beginning that I will continue to foster and I am excited to see the places I am going and the person I am becoming! Thank you again Debi for this beautiful community and all the diversification and accessibility to the information you have developed and continue to create!”

I came here from Debi's 5-day Trust Again Challenge and won 1 month of the Standard Membership woohoo! Thank you so much again <3 I was a mess. Felt like I'd been shot. Multiple times from different people. Then, like the hospitals had all disappeared. I felt all alone. And on top of it all, unable to trust. Physically, I was sleeping a LOT. Lost weight. Would forget to eat. Mentally, brain fog 24/7. Lack of concentration. And I used to pride myself on my focus and clarity. Overthinking. Constant rumination on the event(s). It was lovely! I actually did the whole Betrayal to Breakthrough program within 3 weeks. I just got the last module finished today! I know Debi recommends 1 per week, but I wanted to finish it all within the free month, and I just started my gap year so I had the time. I've literally taken up 83 pages in my journal! Whoa, didn't even notice it until now. I'd just had my head down working. The community was also so welcoming, and it was pretty cool to see so many people from different walks of life, stages of life, and stages of healing. I felt so held and supported by the response to my introduction post. I was afraid to reach out given the nature of betrayal, but it was lovely to be held in that moment. After about 2 weeks I'd say? However, I think the results will be most apparent moving forward. Especially since I've just had my head down doing the work. Sense of companionship, reminding me that I'm not crazy. Betrayal to Breakthrough was awesome. The last thing I'd written down (which Debi said) is "I have been rebuilding from the rubble."

"This has done wonders for me. I was stuck for almost 6 years after my betrayal .

It took One Step of this program to break my everyday pattern of being stuck!! That took a weight off my shoulders that I didn't even know was there. I have been able to heal in ways I never thought was possible for me!! Thank you so much for Everything Debi..I will recommend this program to everyone I know going forward who needs help. Thank you again."

The PBT Institute gave me a place to be heard and validated. I was assured the things I felt were real and true. I was given a way of thinking, a path forward, that led me toward healing.

What I was looking for, that I did not get with any therapy, was a step by step way forward. The PBT community was the ONLY place where you could follow a path. Work on this and this until you are ready for the next stage.This community is the only reason I am able to move forward as quickly as I am. I came in at stage 2 and I am in stage 5!

"The PBT community has offered me the amazing support and encouragement I needed when I was so lost. I do not know where I would be without this healing journey laid out and supported by PBT. PBT has given me hope and a return to vitality, happiness, and a life worth living. I am forever grateful! Thank you, Debi, and team."

I feel so much stronger, calmer, and more focused. I don't feel scared or overwhelmed any more. My boundaries are strong and I have no issue with enforcing them. I have found that if I experience a problem, I can use the skills that I have learned to get to the bottom of why I am feeling that way quickly and I can course correct immediately. Things that were triggers for me, don't even pop up on my radar anymore.

I can’t thank you enough for all you have done for me in becoming my healthiest, transformed personal best. God truly sent one of his most admirable angels, when he created you! I am so tremendously blessed to have done the coursework and the hard stuff of “facing it, feeling it in order to heal it!” You are an inspiration to all.

This whole thing has opened up other endeavors and avenues in my life. As I gain knowledge, I feel more freed and liberated. I'm grateful for all of this learning and research--as I come to a state of peace--and a new worldview. Thank you, Debi. It's amazing--I'm learning to be happy again--and find a new life in spite of all this. Thank you, Thank you, Debi!!!

I don't know if I've ever been this happy before. I'm so grateful for PBT-so blessed. I KNOW I'll get there and that it's just a work in progress! I'm almost crying as I'm writing this to you right now. Thank you so much again for PBT!!! When you said nothing else like this exists, you were so right because I've been to 8 therapists in the last 2.5 years, tried EMDR, and nothing has worked until NOW. You're seriously such an angel!

Thank you so much for offering your program at the generous price you did just when I was dealing with my husband leaving and friends bombarding me with their opinions, suggestions and appeals to take him back. All that is past now. With your help I found the courage to decide what I truly want and the strength to stay with my vision for my life. I am in a wonderful place now with my kids and I know I will navigate the future with grace and joy.

“When I joined I thought I would never recover from my betrayal. I was trapped in stages 1-3 for longer than I knew. Being part of this community was support I needed to envision my best life, and go out and make it happen. I still have a lot of life to live, and I continue to work on myself every day. But I also know I have the strength to make it. I’ve gone from the first D-Day moment, discovery, to the second D-Day, divorce, and now am creating the best version of myself.”

I can most certainly see Dr. Debi REALLY knows what she's doing and the program is excellent. I've made real progress in such a short time and know that more can be learned to help me. I've been working on this issue for almost 5 years and I can see that this is the best program of all. Dr. Debi has given me hope that things can and will get better.

Thank you, Debi! This has been such an enlightening & healing course!

Before I began this course, healing was not possible. So as my final thoughts are expressed, I offer my sincerest appreciate & gratitude for what you do & how you do it. You've changed my life & as I figure out what I am called to do next, which I can now focus on with a clear mind, I wish you nothing but love & blessings moving forward.

“A month after PBT online was made available to members, I suddenly experienced a trauma response from a flashback of a darker time in my life. During that flashback experience, I asked the universe to guide me to release my trauma. The following day my answer came when I heard Debi for the first time on an online summit. As I heard about the 5 stages of PBT, I received the clarity and awareness that I needed to launch forward from the state of feeling trapped by my trauma experiences. Fortunately I signed up as a member of the PBT online community, which turned out to offer a “buffet” of supportive resources to meet my needs to connect and learn the steps toward transformation and more. This is by far the best online support community I have ever seen or experienced and covers all the bases.”

I learned to set boundaries with the takers and stopped chasing/associating with some toxic people and life has opened up so much more. I have more time for my fun and loving relationships. I am celebrating how far I have come.

“I found one of your podcasts at just the right time, in the middle of some of my darkest days. Your words of encouragement and wisdom have been so very helpful to me when I was so lost and blindsided by the betrayal pain I was experiencing. I didn’t know where to turn and I know God led me to you. You have made a huge difference in my life, in the hardest time of my life, and I thank you so very much!”

I’m so very grateful for you Debi. You’ve created a sanctity for me and for many others. Through your pain and strife you’ve risen through the ashes to create a place of love, healing, and hope for a better life. I recognize how special this community is and how blessed I am to be a part of it. I know your life’s struggles have created a healing balm for me and I’m writing you to say thank you. Thank you for taking your pain and turning it into a place of healing for me. Thank you for sharing your grief. Thank you for giving me hope. Thank you for giving me a sense that my life has purpose. Thank you for showing me that the pain I’m experiencing is for the good of myself and the good of my children. I’ve felt lost most of my life until I’ve found this community. I see my path a little clearer now. I know what to do next in my life and I’m going to follow through with it. Thank you for bringing light into this dark, dark world. This world needs more people like you. You are a light and a beacon for love, calm, and healing. Thank you for being you and for sharing your gifts with us all. My heart is full ❤️

I enjoyed the program. I did one module per week and reread and listened to the recordings a few times until it sunk in. My favorite module was 'Module 2" I started doing meditation, deep breathing and yoga and completely changed my diet. I was able to keep my stress under control. 6 weeks later I had blood work done and my levels were off the charts, between having Grave's and now Hashimoto's Disease. Doctor told me to stop my medication. I just had blood work done again and my T4 is normal and my TSH went from 103 to 9.6...much closer to normal. I'm finally starting to feel like myself again. PBT didn't just help me heal from betrayal, it saved my life. I would have been on medication for a disease I didn't even have and the medication was making my symptoms worse and I had no idea I just assumed it was my disease.

I was inspired to joint the PBT community after a betrayal. I was blindsided and lost, very confused, and horribly hurt. I think I found Dr. Debi after watching some YouTube videos. I looked at the website and decided to join. I'd already spent 3-4 sessions with a counsellor at $143 per session and found out later that she KNEW he was having an affair (we were both seeing her, he thought I should go talk to her about my jealousy issues). So what did I have to lose with Dr. Debi!! Turns out it was one of the best decisions I could have made. My experience affected me mentally and emotionally more than anything. The community was amazingly supportive! So much love, so many with shared experiences. It is POWERFUL knowing you are not alone. I noticed results within a couple of weeks I think. I've managed to come out of the dark tunnel of betrayal. The Masterclasses were extremely helpful. The community blogs always held my interest and gave me hope.

I attended two events where Debi was a speaker, participated in two webinars and one 5 day program, and I have read four of Debi's books and they have made a difference in my life. I enjoyed them all and it helps to write down my experiences and goals. I also visited several of the programs on line. Several things over the last three years had me whirling, Two family illnesses, a death in the family and of course the pandemic was overwhelming. It helped to be busy and thinking things through. I found all of the online classes very interesting. It actually helped to know I was in control of my thoughts. I found that my thinking changed after the week long five day program. It helped me to understand that I needed to heal myself but that I didn't have to do it alone. Many of my problems seemed much more mundane after hearing some of the other issues people were going through. I have great respect for Debi and all her staff.

"I'm not going to tell you what a great site, great coaches and an absolutely amazing community you have created, because we all know how true that is. What transpires within this community and the far reaching ripple effect is something one can only experience."

“Finding the PBT Institute was a lifesaver for me. I had been suffering for almost a year after finding out about my husband’s betrayal many years before and was stuck in anger, resentment, hurt and disbelief. The PBT Institute and Dr. Debi and this fabulous community helped me find my way to a happier, healthier me and a new relationship with my husband. Don’t live another day being miserable - do this for you! The ripple effect on those you love will be incredible.”

I found the PBT Community just when I needed it most. I knew from the instant that I heard there was a coaching certification program that I would take it. I always wanted to coach, and sadly, this is an area where I have a lot of experience. With this certification, I can help others while staying immersed in the work.

The first time I heard you speak I knew I had to join PBT and work with you and I am so grateful that I did. It was nice to work with someone who has been there, gets it and healed in such a positive way. You are a role model and an inspiration to all who are on this journey of what is truly possible. You helped me understand where I am and what I need to do to move forward. The seed has been planted and I am taking better care of myself in so many ways. I am much more focused on where I am going rather than where I have been. Your work has changed my life and I know it will change the lives of many others as well. 🙏