You have probably heard of mindfulness as a buzzword before, but have you ever taken the time to explore exactly what the mind is? Darrin Ford is a licensed marriage and family therapist, nationally recognized speaker and internationally recognized author, who is here today to share his knowledge about the utilization of mindfulness when looking for ways to heal.
You can practice mindfulness while walking, sitting, standing, or lying down. By practicing weaving your mindfulness into your everyday activities, you can change the way you think, act, and react and find more peace. Mindfulness can help you be less reactive to your triggers and help you on your path towards healing.
Darrin knows what it is like to be stuck in a trauma or addiction loop, and is here today to share his knowledge with you so that you can stop feeding into your reactions and start being more present. By adopting an observational relationship with your thoughts, behaviors, and habits, you can better understand your emotions and start to interject mindfulness to better suit your destiny. Time, consistency, and self-compassion are the keys to mindfulness, and with Darrin’s help, you can integrate mindfulness into your daily life seamlessly.
Are you ready to take the time to adapt mindfulness into your life? Share your history with mindfulness with us in the comments below.
“You start to integrate these small interjections of mindfulness into your life, in small little doses, not in these big formal old fashioned ways. That doesn’t work for our busy lives, it’s not functional.” (6:22)
“It’s not that they wouldn’t feel the emotion connected to the trigger, its the way that we react to that emotion would be different, or would be more constructive versus destructive.” (14:59)
“You are the observer of this moment. You are the thing that sees your thoughts, see your mind’s reaction. You’re the one who has the ability to see that and then once you see it you can make a choice. I’m not saying that’s an easy choice, I’m not saying that when you choose not to react in the addictive, compulsive way, that you won’t feel a lot of emotional distress. You absolutely will. However, that is what’s needed.” (22:30)
“Emotions move us, they are an unconscious feeling that drives our thoughts. Our thoughts manifest into beliefs, our beliefs manifest into behaviors, our behaviors are practiced into habits, and our habits become our destiny.” (24:33)
If you ask me, fear is the biggest reason we stay stuck in our lives. While fear is at the root of almost everything, it is only by understanding the differences between irrational and realistic fears and constructive and destructive fears that we can reach the power of transformational fear. Dr. Carla Marie Manly is a clinical psychologist, author, and advocate who is here today to help us understand the different types of fear, how to work with them, and how to minimize them so that we can take action in a way that serves us best.
With a direct and honest approach with a dose of humor, Dr. Manly is here to help you navigate the soulful adventure into self-awareness. Instead of getting used to the voice of destructive fear that is prevalent in our society, Dr. Manly wants you to slow down and regain your power over your fear.
When going through a betrayal it is easy to stick to what you know and stay in your pain because it is familiar. Through the application of Dr. Manly’s strategies, you can start to strengthen the constructive over the destructive and stop giving your betrayal wiggle room. It is possible to overcome what is keeping you stuck, and with the help of Dr. Manly, you can gain insight into this challenging topic and find a way to focus on your optimal wellness.
The feelings you are having are universal and nothing to be ashamed of. By pushing through the shame you can start on your journey to healing and the joy that has been in you all along. Are you ready to allow yourself the power of knowing that through perseverance you can find the other side of fear? Share what gave you the most hope from Dr. Manly’s advice in the comments below.
“Unfortunately in this day and age, many of us are being riddled with irrational fears, unrealistic fears, that keep us from change, that keep us stuck and immobilized in life.” (3:05)
“This is the beautiful part about destructive fear. Destructive fear does not like the light. Destructive fear does not like clarity. Destructive fear does not like written agreements at all because destructive fear likes to be able to be manipulative and sneaky.” (12:56)
“When we make goals for ourselves, when we put things in writing, it becomes much more understandable for the psyche. That is why so many of us will make wishlists in our heads or think in our heads and not want to put it in writing. Because the minute we put something in writing, we feel a sense of clarity and accountability.” (19:04)
“There is something beautiful and connective about being held in a safe place where you can hear other women’s stories. Their lows, their successes, and know that if they can do it, I can do it too.” (21:48)
“Everything is to do with a reminder to the self when you get weak, that these are real things that happen. Is that in line with the kind of life I want in my future?” (26:20)
Most good comedy and humor come from the painful parts of life, but have you ever considered how finding the humor in a hard situation could help you heal? Paul Osincup is a humor strategist, TEDx speaker, and leading expert in the professional application of humor to reduce stress, build resilience, increase influence, and boost happiness. Paul believes in the power of humor in leadership and is here today to share how humor can enhance health and human performance.
Paul is on a mission to increase global workplace happiness by helping others rewire themselves to find the funny. By implementing tools to help you laugh a bit more, you may be able to heal from your betrayal a bit easier as well. There is real power in humor, and if you need help getting started, Paul is here to introduce you to the world of humor and help you develop your sense of humor intentionally and strategically. Laughing is proven to reduce cortisol, boosts serotonin and oxytocin, and helps improve your connection with others.
By spicing up the mundane things in your life that you have to do, laughter is possible no matter what you are going through. Regardless of what type of humor you like, you can encourage the presence of humor in your life by implementing Paul’s simple and effective strategies. Are you ready to train your brain to look for humor in the mundane and painful? Share how laughter has helped you heal in the comments below.
“Humor is not a talent, humor is a habit.” (3:26)
“Ultimately, like any other form of communication, I think humor can be used as a tool and as a weapon. And for me, I like humor that makes people feel good and makes me feel good.” (7:34)
“We studied the application of humor and just doing that exercise seven days, writing down three things you found amusing or funny each day, they found actually decreases depressive symptoms and increases happiness for up to six months.” (17:02)
“Humor is one of the things that actually starts firing in all areas of the brain, and so it does a lot for our overall feelings of happiness.” (19:09)
“Just because something is hurtful, doesn’t mean it’s not okay to laugh about it. And there is a really close connection between laughing and crying.” (22:39)
“Regardless of what you are going through… you don’t have to hope for humor to happen. You can harness it and be intentional about it.” (28:34)
Stories of burnout are becoming increasingly frequent, but the standard medical community often brushes away the symptoms. After experiencing her own personal burnout, Nikole Stanfield realized that she needed to help others improve themselves through the same personal development. Now an Intuition Coach who helps successful business owners and entrepreneurs stop feeling unfulfilled and work through their burnout, Nikole’s passion is helping others love what they do.
In this episode, we will discover the connection between burnout and self-betrayal, learn ways that you can start to decrease your overwhelm in less than 30 minutes a day, and discover how we can break free from expectations to find a more authentic version of yourself. One for all of the people pleasers, type a’s and hard workers out there, Nikole’s advice is not to be missed.
The thoughts you have had in the past may have served you then, but by shifting your thought patterns you can start to go after what you really want and not what you feel obligated to do. While it may feel excruciatingly painful to say no to somebody, by pushing through the uncomfortable, you can start to say yes to yourself instead.
Are you ready to transform from an anchor into a set of wings? Share your experiences with burnout with us in the comments below.
“I’m an overachiever and have done so many things and have been super busy in my life, so this was a totally new place to be, and I had no idea what to do. I was terrified, and I didn’t know how to move forward.” (5:05)
“That’s where I feel like the betrayal came in. That I just ran over myself. And I didn’t listen to anything I wanted or what was best for me.” (9:49)
“When you are an entrepreneur you start taking on all these things that you need to hustle, this concept, you need to make sure that you are wearing all these different hats… and it gets overwhelming, its too much.” (17:07)
“If it doesn’t work for you, it doesn’t work for them. I don’t have to fall on the sword.” (21:39)
“The important part is that you recognize that you are having those thoughts. So then you can say okay, maybe I want to journal about it. Or you talk to someone you care about who will just listen to you. Or you work with a coach, or you meditate on it. Whatever that is, you can start to see how often this guilt is showing up in your life or this phrase that you keep telling yourself.” (25:06)
Are you exhausted with all you are doing to be beautiful? With all of that effort, you could be betraying yourself by denying discovering who you really are. Diane Kazer is a former pro-soccer player turned functional diagnostic nutrition practitioner, courage coach, and holistic beauty expert. Your go-to-girl to break through anything despite what you have been through or been told, Diane is here today to stop the patterns of toxic beauty and put an end to the toxic stories we tell ourselves once and for all.
The price of being beautiful is one of the biggest measures of self-betrayal, and Diane is here to help you release the toxic chemicals, toxic stories, and beliefs that are keeping you confined to your suffering, sickness, and sadness. By cleansing your body, healing your hormones, and igniting your life, Diane’s tried and true method of healing can help you discover and appreciate who you are truly meant to be.
Diane wants to show you the template of a healthier way of life so that you can cleanse your stories, heal your trauma, and ignite your purpose. If you are spending a lifetime trying to please others in the way that you look, feel, and live, you will never find the fulfillment you are so deserving of.
Are you ready to get to the root of your beliefs so that you can start healing and believing that you are enough? Share what you loved most about Diane’s framework with us in the comments below.
In This Episode
“This is what we are taught, that if you don’t have this perfect shaped face and nose and hair and body and butt and boobs, then you are going to “kicked out of this tribe”. And what is this tribe? This tribe is called Instagram, this tribe is called Facebook, this tribe is called the magazines and the media and pop culture. And so when we don’t follow the template we have this sense of shame and this shame is the self-betrayal that I want to talk about.” (4:01)
“There are three ways that we can self betray. And that is physical, emotional, and spiritual.” (9:26)
“There is wisdom in the wound, and in that shadow, you can find your light. But only until you have faced your darkness will you know your light, so it takes so much courage.” (17:30)
“You want to know what your future looks like? Look at your past. If you haven’t healed it, it’s going to keep happening.” (22:44)
“This needs to happen now. Look at our world, we need all of you, every single one of you to rise. And it starts with using your own eyes to undisguised yourself of who you think you are supposed to be.” (25:15)
Have you ever walked into a room and immediately felt the energy? Everything in our world is made up of energy, including our own personal energy vortexes within our bodies. Dr. Ellen Albertson is a psychologist, registered dietitian, national board-certified health and wellness coach, reiki master and mindful self-compassion teacher who knows a thing or two about energy.
Dr. Ellen uses the power of our energy chakras to help women get unstuck and find confidence, energy, and clarity. Dubbed The Midlife Whisperer, Dr. Ellen is here today to explain how betrayal can impact you energetically, and share ways that you can regain your balance and feel more grounded and in control.
By connecting with your deep energetic wisdom you can start to trust your intuition, heal your chakras and implement self-compassion into your daily life. Everything from the way you dress to the amount of self-love you provide yourself can have a huge impact on your ability to heal. If you want actionable ways that you can start to reverse the energetic damage caused by your betrayal, this is an episode you cannot miss.
All of the resources you need to survive are inside of yourself. Are you ready to harness the power of your chakras and start treating yourself like your own best friend? Share how you use the power of your energy and self-compassion to heal with us in the comments below.
In This Episode
“Think about all the cells in your body came from sunlight. Everything you’ve eaten has either come from a plant or an animal that ate a plant, so you really are an energetic being.” (7:03)
“In terms of betrayal, this can really be shut down, because this is where joy lives. So in terms of being betrayed, you kind of feel that whole connection with life force, feeling creative, feeling vibrant is really kaput.” (10:58)
“You can feel these chakras in your body. You are not able to speak your truth, you’re not able to feel connected and communicate with people.” (16:53)
“We can heal and actually create something better, and everything is happening for your highest good.” (19:10)
Have you ever heard of the DISC assessment? Midori Verity is one of the most innovative and successful marriage and communication coaches out there, who helps couples elevate their relationships by improving communication. Midori uses the DISC assessment to identify personality traits and help her clients adapt and adjust so that they can have a more peaceful and harmonious relationship, and is here today to share her knowledge with you.
If you are feeling unheard in your relationship or need help connecting, Midori’s insight into the four personality types can help you press the reset button and start to develop more support and synergy in your relationship. The DISC assessment can help you understand why your relationship is in trouble, assess what you need to do to move forward, and even help you when making decisions in the future.
By learning about what makes your personality type tick, you can better prepare yourself to find the job or relationship that suits you perfectly, and who doesn’t want that? When it comes to relationships, it is all about the Platinum Rule, which helps you speak the language your partner speaks so that you know you are both being heard and understood.
Are you ready to learn about you and your partner’s personality types and harness that information to start speaking each other’s languages? Share where you fall on the DISC assessment with us in the comments below.
In This Episode
“We all have a different language, we all have a different behavioral style and personality type, and when we can match that, we are going to be listened to more, we are going to be received more, and our conversations are going to be much more successful.” (3:37)
“When you go through challenges in life, whether it’s in your relationship or outside of your relationship it doesn’t matter, but when we go through challenges and we feel stressed, we react differently, that’s why this is so important.” (11:02)
“In general, our natural graphs stay about the same, they will not change that much. But, we can learn techniques to help us improve in certain areas so that we can acquiesce in relationships.” (27:15)
“You have to kind of get to know what you are. I recommend for everybody to take a DISC assessment, even if you did before, take it again. And think about it from a relationship standpoint.” (28:29)
“The way that we see the world, is not how others see the world. So if you are bashing heads with your partner, often just some tweaks in the way that you understand them and the way you respond to them will diffuse situations.” (30:16)
Holly Bertone was on the highest levels of financial management when she was diagnosed with breast cancer. After beginning the journey to recovery while becoming newly engaged, she was diagnosed with the autoimmune disease Hashimoto’s less than a year later. While she expected support from the company that she had worked so hard for, Holly was met with accusations and dismissal.
The experience of betrayal and bullying in the workplace lead Holly to write her book, Thriving in the Workplace with Autoimmune Disease: Know Your Rights, Resolve Conflict and Reduce Stress. Since then Holly has become a sought after speaker, wellness expert, Amazon bestseller and President and CEO of Pink Fortitude.
Today Holly is here to share her story of overcoming medical adversity, lessons learned from betrayal in the workplace, and how you can thrive in gratitude despite your past experiences. If you have ever experienced workplace betrayal, this is episode is filled with practical information that you can’t miss.
Holly literally wrote the book on your rights and responsibilities in the workplace when dealing with an autoimmune disease or another workplace betrayal, and is passionate about sharing her resources with everyone so that you own your place in the workplace.
Have you experienced workplace betrayal? Share your story with us in the comments below.
In This Episode
“I just felt this peace that breast cancer was my gift and that this whole life transition was my new gift in life.” (5:45)
“An autoimmune disease is, as they say, the gift that keeps on giving. Cancer kicked my butt temporarily, autoimmune disease was a much bigger, longer journey of kicking my butt.” (8:24)
“You’re supposed to be in a management position, you are supposed to be supporting me, and I have legal documentation telling me that you are supposed to be doing this.” (14:09)
“There are not a lot of resources out there. I tried to find what I could, and its like navigating a sea without a map, you are just in this ocean and you can’t even see land at this point.” (19:20)
“I guess I kind of divorced myself from that connection and said ‘I need to stand on my own two feet during this process’. And I need to be my own advocate and I need to figure things out myself.” (23:06)
“I would not wish my journey on anyone, but I am so grateful that I have been able to go through it.” (24:55)
So often we forget to prioritize our own self-love and self-care after a betrayal, but these practices can hold the key to discovering who you are, how to come back to yourself and ways to stop putting other people ahead of you. Self-care is not selfish, it is self-preservation, and with the expert advice of our next guests, you can implement these self-love routines despite your busy schedule and start reaping the rewards.
Tammy Lawman and Brooke Emery are the co-creators of the Self-Love and Self-Care Symposium, a space dedicated to teaching you how to love yourself more fully, appreciate your unique gifts and take better care of yourself so that you can shine more brightly in the world. Tammy, a business strategist, and marketing expert, and Brooke, a connector and creative business strategist, work together to bring big vision to their clients and provide the fuel necessary to inspire, motivate and transform.
These two self-care experts are here today to give you simple strategies to start giving yourself a little bit more love. By allowing yourself the right to say no, connecting to your forgotten child and putting yourself on your own to-do list, you can start to shine your light brighter in the world. Are you ready to embrace Tammy and Brooke’s simple, easy and free steps so that you can figure out what you want out of your life and go after it?
Share your self-love and self-care habits and wishes with us in the comments below.
“When you are saying no to something else, you are saying yes to yourself.” (6:45)
“For me, to be able to share authentically and connect deeply with another person is the greatest act of self-love.” (11:25)
“Just try it on like an experiment. Just because that works for me, it doesn’t mean it is going to work for that person. But just trying to, maybe drive down a different road, you know? Just experiment with how the morning routine goes, because I really feel that the morning is how things set up.” (22:38)
“We’re sharing all kinds of tips and methodologies, all to help you get back to a place of fully loving yourself more and really learning how to take care of yourself, how to tap into your intuition and how to feel good in your body.” (25:24)
“We believe that when you love yourself you can go out in the world and you can fully love with your whole heart and really share your unique abilities and talents with the world.” (28:55)
Maggie Kelly is a mindful life coach, meditation instructor, podcaster, public speaker and awakener. After her son was born with cystic fibrosis, Maggie felt betrayed by her expectations of health for her son. Through meditation and mindfulness practices Maggie was able to turn introspectively to address her fear and dismiss her limiting beliefs.
Despite what you may think, ultimately you are not in charge. It is only by giving in to this universal power and accepting that you cannot control everything that you can find true peace. Today Maggie is here to provide you with actionable steps so that you can illuminate the roadblocks inside of yourself that are standing in the way of living an envisioned and awakened life.
By returning to the very foundational essence of who you are and what you are capable of, you can tune into what is around you and become at peace with the fact that nothing is permanent, both good or bad. Are you ready to take responsibility for your part in your betrayal and become okay with what happens when life doesn’t fit your perfect picture? Share your thoughts on Maggie’s story with us in the comments below.
In This Episode
“I think that it’s important when we are talking about betrayal and having a breakthrough from that experience or coming out of the grief of having been betrayed, I think it is important for us to stop and be a little mindful as to how did we get there.” (2:49)
“I was living out constant and consistent never-ending fear, that that is what drove the show. The fear always drove the show and that’s when I started to really get in touch with what that fear was about.” (8:03)
“Most of us believe what we think, and very seldom do we check it out with anybody.” (13:16)
“What meditation is about is for you to be able to notice that in that stillness your thoughts start to stray and take you away. And then in that noticing, bringing yourself back to that place of stillness.” (19:23)
“What’s really important when you are thinking that you have been betrayed is for you to actually step back and survey the situation and ask yourself what was my part.” (21:57)
Eva Medilek’s life came crashing down when she found text messages on her husband’s phone suggesting he was in love with another woman. What came next was a painful and messy situation, but through hard work and personal development, they were able to make the decision to do whatever it took to kill their old relationship and create a new one together.
Now a relationship style success coach, Eva helps other powerful women create a meaningful life by becoming more vulnerable and intimate. Eva is proof that your betrayal can open you up to revealing your greatest gift, and is here today to share her story and wisdom with you.
By staying in the present creation of what you can build, Eva is here to help you stop worrying about the past and start thriving in your future. Everything from the importance of personal development to tools that you can take back to your relationship is on the agenda today as Eva helps you close the intimacy gap.
Passionate about what is possible on the other side of betrayal, Eva wants to help you refocus your energy and persevere through your pain. An inspiring story of forgiveness, trust, and intimacy, this is an episode you don’t want to miss.
Has personal development played a role in your ability to move through your betrayal? Share your story with us in the comments below.
In This Episode
“Once I realized that he was literally falling in love with another woman, my heart was racing, I just really wanted to collapse because I realized that everything that we were working to achieve could be lost. My marriage could end, and I could end up spending all of this time building this dream and end up alone again.” (6:24)
“Your investment is in the relationship, in the relationship that you are both creating together, it is actually not in the person.” (12:26)
“To use that drive to focus on intimacy, vulnerability, and connection in their relationships, and really rechanneling that energy and learning how to shift it.” (19:35
“Diamonds are made from that pressure, and the fire, and that’s where you can create something beautiful.” (22:51)
“I didn’t want this to be hidden and under the rug, life is real and how we show up in life and handle all of the challenges that life brings us, we get in trouble when we try to hide.” (30:10)
Dr. Michelle Eggenberger is an author, holistic stress and anxiety coach, doctor of oriental medicine, licensed acupuncturist, health coach and certified yoga teacher, just to name a few. After recovering from her own romantic betrayal and a string of health issues, Dr. Michelle realized that it was within her power to find a better way to live.
Through this journey of self-discovery, Dr. Michelle realized the importance of prioritizing self-love and self-worth and has since been on a mission to share her message with the world. Living proof that you can manifest the things you want in life if you work to keep the mind, body, and spirit healthy, Dr. Michelle is here to help you allow the Universe to guide you to where you need to be.
You have the choice to choose yourself and give yourself the happy life that you deserve. Making the decision to prioritize both your mental and physical health while becoming aware of how your thoughts affect you is key to becoming the architect of your own destiny.
Are you ready to allow Dr. Michelle to teach you how to harness the power of your body through yoga, awareness and the mind-heart connection so that you can find joy after your betrayal? Share your self-love and self-compassion tips with us in the comments below.
In This Episode
“One of the reasons why when we have a romantic betrayal it is so powerful in our own self-worth and all that is because of the vulnerability factor.” (6:05)
“Slowly I started finding the strength to understand my self-worth and my self-love and what I needed to do to step out of that relationship, that that relationship was no longer fit for me.” (10:23)
“We are so perfectly done that our body, when we haven’t been taking care of our mind and our emotions, our body will tell us.” (17:31)
“One of the things that happens when you start doing yoga as a real practice, you start going into the mind-heart connection. And that is where the real magic happens, for everything. That is where the real transformation and real healing happens.” (20:42)
“It’s the thoughts that we create that will create the feelings that we experience, that will create the actions and the reality that we see.” (22:48)