146: Indulging in Negative Thoughts w/ Dr. Debi Silber

During yesterday’s Q&A session, an odd question came up. I was asked how someone can identify when thinking about something negative has become an indulgence. I always say, “Face it. Feel it. Heal it.” But there certainly comes a point where you’ve had enough negativity, and any more of it could be detrimental to your well-being. So, how do you know when it’s time to stop? That’s what we’ll be talking about today.

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In This Episode

  • Identify how thinking negative thoughts can reach a point of indulgence
  • Understand how repeatedly thinking a certain way creates neural connections
  • Learn how to deviate from negative thought loops

Quotes

“Let’s say, there’s a negative thought and you don’t want to run from it, but how do you know when you’ve kind of thought about it as much as you can?” [1:00]

“Indulgence sounds so mean but here’s why it’s an indulgence. Once you’ve thought about it often enough, what happens is you’re creating these neural connections, these loops in your brain… and they become hardwired. [2:40]

“If you ruthlessly commit and say, ‘It doesn’t matter. I am dedicating myself and my time to walk on this path and I will not go on that other path again.’ Eventually–think about it–that new path will be as well-worn as the first. But now it’s taking you somewhere, potentially, somewhere so much better.” [4:21]

“What you want to do is you want to think up the most amazing picture that gives you a sense of peace and calm. Either a scenario, a situation, an image. Just some sort of visual… You want to picture that scene, and now you want to infuse it with as much color and emotion and using every sense you have to make it so bold, so bright, so vibrant. Once you have that image, that feeling, you want to lock it into your mind.” [6:08]

“This takes practice, and it takes consistency, and it takes repetition. But can it be done? A hundred percent.” [11:05]

Links

The PBT Institute Website

The PBT Institute Membership Community

The Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz

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